In the process of raising children, it is inevitable to encounter these scenarios:
"It's too hard to talk to a child, and if you don't say the right sentence, I'll turn my face with you in a hurry. ”Why is this happening? In fact, every family has more or less parent-child communication problems. There are many ways to communicate, and only effective parent-child communication can promote the healthy growth of children. In family parent-child communication, avoid these two points! Communication is not perfunctory:Communication is two-way, not "back-to-back", in the communication between parents and children, if parents respond with a perfunctory attitude, it is easy to affect the parent-child relationship, so that it may evolve into ineffective communication such as being ignored, not understood, and resisted. Communication is not a high-pressure conversation:If you talk with the strong mindset and language of one party, this kind of communication will make the other party feel uncomfortable and difficult to accept. If the dialogue only has the process of controlling and being accused, arguing and persuading, it will fall into the mud of mutual complaining and accusation, and lose the original purpose of communication to convey information, promote change, and exchange emotions. How to get out of the didactic mode and learn to see children's emotions? First, learn to admit it. Accept, understand, and allow yourself to be "helpless" and learn to tell yourself:I can't talk well with my child, and I get angry when I talk about it. ”
I've told my child many times, but he just won't listen. ”
I may not really be able to see and understand a child's emotions. "I also may not be able to solve my child's problems perfectly and quickly. "If we can't live with our limitations, we will be more anxious, self-blaming, and helpless when we encounter emotional problems with our children. In this anxious state of mind, if you come up with the principles and theories you are familiar with to deal with your children, this old way may not be right. Only by admitting that we can't do it can we confront ourselves less, and only then can we take the first step towards change. Second, learn to recognize. Reasoning with children, talking will unconsciously fall into the "preaching" mode, in fact, some parents themselves know. So try to be mindful:
Am I talking about it?If you have two "yes" answers to the above questions, then you can communicate with yourself: Now, I can listen to my child. Finally, learn to listen. As you listen, remember to resist your urge to judge and interrupt your child. If you find it a little difficult, you might as well recite these words 3 times in your heartDo I always say "no" to my child?
Did I interrupt my child?
Am I interpreting my child's distress from an adult's perspective?
I didn't know anything, and I was curious about what the child was about to tell me. "Listening allows you to ask and confirm your child's feelings and thoughts from time to time. If your child is reluctant to speak, or has no way to "describe", we can also use painting, dance, games and other forms to help him externalize his ideas. With effective and deliberate practice, you can slowly see and feel your child's emotions and get rid of the self that once followed the truth and dogma. If you have a more realm, you will have a deeper understanding, touch, and feeling of your own emotions. 
Actually, the truth is still the same truth"When we are children, we can't choose what kind of parents we have; But when we have children, we can choose what kind of parents we want to be. ”While letting go of the hard truth and raising your children gently, you are also raising yourself again. How do I communicate with my child? We invited a psychological counselorFrom the three aspects of listening, expression, and communication, we will help you use language to better establish a parent-child relationship with your child, hoping to give you more inspiration for communicating with your child. 
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We need to continue to learn and control our emotions, rather than letting our emotions control ourselves, which is the greatest spiritual wealth for parents and children in the future. I hope to help you re-feel the charm of communication, enter your child's inner world, establish a good parent-child relationship and family relationship, and let him grow into a better version of himself in a safe, happy and happy family atmosphere! -Advertisement-