Time flies, and Lao Li has entered the age of 81. Ten years ago, his eldest sister had a tempting plan, hoping that his siblings would spend their old age together. At that time, the eldest sister's husband had passed away, and the eldest sister did not want to burden the children and decided to join her younger siblingslife。She offered to cover all the expenses and invited the family to move into her big house.
Although the original text mentions the eldest sisterPensionhigh, but the reason is not elaborated. Maybe it's because her husband is a retired veteran cadre and enjoys a higher retirement treatment. In addition, the eldest sister also took a lot of thought about choosing a husband, hoping to find a cultured partner. And the eldest sister's husband'sPensionand the eldest sister'sPensionCombined, it leaves them with a sizable savings.
In addition, it is worth mentioning that the eldest sister'sPensionmuch higher than Lao Li and his sister'sPension。Lao Li and his wife are retired from state-owned enterprisesPensionAcceptable income; My sister and her husband are laid-off workersPensionLow. This is also the eldest sister's invitation to their familyRetirementOne reason is to give them financial help.
However, at the outset, they felt a lot of discomfort. Every time she went out to buy groceries, the eldest sister always called the four of them together, and the things to buy were decided by the eldest sister. And because they don't spend money, they are embarrassed to ask for what they want to eat, so they can only follow the wishes of the eldest sister.
In addition, at first they were able to share the responsibility of cooking, but after a long time, the younger sister became lazy and let Lao Li's wife take on all the kitchen affairs alone. Lao Li's wife felt aggrieved and felt that she was like a nanny here, and her mood became bad. And what makes them even more unbearable is that the brother-in-law is a very unconscious person who often steals the food that the eldest sister bought. The cooked food and Moutai wine that the eldest sister bought back were also stolen by him, causing a series of unpleasantness.
Although the eldest sister's home is very spacious, it is not their home for Lao Li and his wife. They feel at a loss in the eldest sister's houselifeIt has also become difficult, and even affected physical health.
The brother-in-law was lazy and had nothing to do, which was a burden to them, and the eldest sister locked up all the food in order to prevent him from stealing food. Although the eldest sister's original intention was to avoid her brother-in-law's stealing behavior, for Lao Li and his wife, this is the caselifeUnacceptable.
So, Lao Li and his wife decided to return to their homelife。They feel a little guilty because the eldest sister has been taking care of them, and they have chosen to leave. However, they also want to be able to live their own independent and free liveslifeand no longer depend on others.
After returning to their home, Lao Li and his wife regained their ownlifeLocus. They do what they love, take care of their health, communicate and get along with their friends. AlthoughlifeThey are not as well-off as the eldest sister's family, but they feel at ease and happy.
Looking back on the experience during this time, Lao Li deeply realizedlifeIt is not easy and precious. Although they were cared for and helped by their eldest sister, they also lost their independence and autonomy. They found that no matter how good the conditions and circumstances are, if they do not have sovereignty and do not have their own choice, thenlifeNor will they be truly happy.
Lao Li also expressed his gratitude to the eldest sister and said that he would always be grateful for her help and care. But at the same time, he also reminded the eldest sister to respect everyone's independence and autonomy, and not to impose her own wishes and ideas on others. lifeis personal, and everyone has the right to choose their own way andLifestyle
All in all, Lao Li's experience tells us that no matter how strong the family affection is, it cannot infringe on the autonomy and independence of others. Everyone has their ownLifestyleand pursuit, we should respect and understand and give them space and freedom. At the same time, we should also know how to be grateful and reciprocate, and repay those who have taken care of and helped us with sincerity and love.