"Sending the Poor on an Obscure Day": "Every year to this day, I drink wine and worship the street. Thousands of households and thousands of doors are seen, and no one is not sent to the poor. ”
There is a special custom that has been passed down among the people in ancient times and continues to this day.
That is, on the sixth day of the Lunar New Year, "send poor ghosts" and "welcome blessings".
Send away the poverty and suffering of the old days, and the new days will be more than rich.
In the new year, if a family wants to prosper and prosper, these things are indispensable.
The right family style
"Fireside Night Talk" said: "Chadze's shallowness and depth, you can know how long the door is temporary. ”
Look at the depth of a person's virtue and blessings, and you will know whether the family has gone long.
And the secret of the family's long-term prosperity lies in the correct family style.
Fan Zhongyan, known as "the first-rate person in heaven and earth", has created a legend of the Fan family for generations.
When Fan Zhongyan was in the court, he always wrote letters with his family and talked about the children's reading.
He admonished in the Book of Harmony and the Middle House:
Children need to be supervised to study hard, and they must not get by and get by. ”
It is necessary to learn and learn well, so that you can become an official and achieve something. ”
Later, Fan Zhongyan specially wrote "The Language of Training Children" to establish a family style.
Under his education, generations of Pham have worked hard academically.
The younger generations are even more virtuous and admired by the world.
As the saying goes: "A dragon gives birth to a dragon, a phoenix gives birth to a phoenix, and the son of a mouse will make holes." ”
Antiques are tangible, inheritance is not qualitative, and family style touches everyone invisibly.
Home is the first classroom for children's growth.
If the parents are in a stable state of mind, the children will not be angry;
Parents are humble and introspective, and children will not be arrogant;
If parents are kind and loving, children will not bully others.
Family style is not only the embodiment of parents' attitude, but also the cultivation of children.
A good family style makes a person sit upright and act rightly.
Learn far-sightedness, cultivate self-discipline, know how to be sensible, understand the general situation, and have a bright future in life.
On the sixth day of the Lunar New Year, the family style is corrected, and there is no worry about the blessings that have not been extended.
The wind of thrift
As the saying goes: "Diligence is a cash cow, thrift is a cornucopia, and luxury is a loser." ”
Earn money with hard work, and retain wealth with frugality, so that life can last a long time.
The constant pursuit of luxury and extravagance, hollowing out the family's funds, will inevitably lead to right and wrong.
If a family spends a lot of money, even if the family has a lot of money, the blessings are destined to be dissipated.
Emperor Wen of Sui Yang Jian, rejuvenated the country with diligence.
Whether it is oneself, or children, harem concubines, they all require "thrift by success, luxury by failure" as the criterion of being a man and doing things.
His son Yang Jun, relying on his status as a prince, repaired the palace and the beautiful jade decoration steps, and used it luxuriously.
When Yang Jian heard about the facts, he first reprimanded him with a head and face, and then resolutely stripped him of all his official positions.
Of course, in the face of the arrogant and lascivious behavior of the ministers of the imperial court, they were also severely punished.
Once, Yang Jian went to the temple to make incense, and saw that the utensils used by these officials to hold spices turned out to be felt bags.
He angrily ordered them to be beaten and punished.
Emperor Wen of Sui was thrifty, which made the whole country thrifty.
The country is developing, the food is abundant, and the people are stable.
There is a sentence in "History of the Yuan": "If a scholar is not thrifty, he cannot raise integrity, and if he is not honest, he cannot cultivate virtue." ”
Thrift produces integrity, honesty and prosperity.
Learn to be thrifty, not just turn off the lights and leave no plates.
After enjoying the world, you can still abandon the glory and wealth and return to simplicity.
Only by being frugal and abstaining from luxury, and being frugal and frugal can people prosper their families.
On the sixth day of the Lunar New Year, abandon the extravagant life in order to be truly rich.
Inclusiveness
I like a writer's sentence very much: "Feelings can't be calculated, and when you calculate it, your heart will be cold." ”
The biggest tragedy of the family lies in internal friction.
Just as we always argue about right and wrong in one thing, and only care about whether we have the upper hand.
But he never found that his home was full of holes, and his home was not like home.
The poet Yu Guangzhong and his wife Fan Wucun were not favored by the two families before entering the palace of marriage.
After marriage, although life is still sweet, there are still contradictions.
As a poet, Yu Guangzhong is often busy and rarely manages the trivial chores at home.
But Fan Wucun can understand her husband, understand him, and take the initiative to take on the responsibility of the family.
One person takes care of several children alone, and sometimes there are many guests at home, and he has to go back and forth between bringing the baby and entertaining guests.
When I really couldn't stand it, I just secretly complained a few words.
And Yu Guangzhong also cherishes his wife very much, looking at Fan Wucun, who is so tired, he can always send care for him as soon as possible.
Unconsciously, the two have been together in a warm little home for 61 years.
Someone once asked Yu Guangzhong about the family's survival, and he said, "Compromise." ”
The happiest thing in the world is that you can understand me, and I can tolerate you.
Mr. Yang Jiang said: "The greatest wealth of a family is the father's big picture and the mother's good mood. ”
Home, not reasonable, but love.
A happy family is one that trusts and understands each other.
Tolerance is a tremendous power.
It is only in tolerance that we can step beyond the fence in each other's hearts, open our hearts, and truly communicate heart-to-heart.
Don't blame for small things, carry big things together, less anger, more understanding.
On the sixth day of the Lunar New Year, send everything away from the unpleasant, and when the blessing arrives, the family is prosperous.
Filial love
The Analects says: "Filial piety is the foundation of human beings." ”
The so-called filial piety is the foundation of human life.
If our parents are our roots, our brothers and sisters are the branches that grow together.
Only by nourishing our roots and protecting our branches can we have a steady stream of motivation for life.
Anyone who has great achievements in his career and is happy in life is filial piety and good work.
Wang Xiang, a native of Langya County in the Jin Dynasty, in his early years, his mother died and his father continued the strings.
However, his stepmother looked down on him, only gave him rough food every day, and instructed him to do heavy work.
Despite this, Wang Xiang was very filial to them.
The stepmother was sick and wanted to eat fresh fish, so Wang Xiang used his body to warm the river water and catch fish in the frozen land.
In addition to being filial to his parents, he also loves his younger brother Wang Lan.
Whether it is in life or study, he has given himself the greatest help.
And his younger brother Wang Lan always uses his actions to prevent his mother from abusing his brother.
The warm story of the two is constantly circulated in Shandong's "filial piety" to educate future generations.
"Zhu Zi's Family Motto" once said: "Parents are half a life of kindness, and brothers and sisters are in love for a lifetime." ”
It is natural for children to love their parents, and if they are not filial to their relatives, they are not as good as animals.
And between siblings, they communicate with each other, which is the interdependence of old age.
Filial piety to parents and unity of brothers is the cultivation of virtue.
On the sixth day of the Lunar New Year, the family gathers together, harmoniously and happily, and luck comes naturally.
Zhan Chu's poem mentions: "May the old be rid of the old and give birth to new ideas, and the end of the new year will be new day by day." ”
Let the mess of the past disappear, and there will always be a new bright future.
On the sixth day of the Lunar New Year, send the poor day.
Send away crooked family spirits, send away extravagance and luxury, send away family discord, and send away brothers who are not close.
Family harmony, good luck and longevity.
May all friends, in the new year, the days are in full swing, thriving, prosperous, prosperous!