Everyone calls me Xinyi, and I'm 38 years old this year. My name means happy, but life after marriage makes me feel sorry for this beautiful name.
We live in a third-tier city, and it's just me and a daughter at home. My parents poured all their love into me alone, allowing me to grow up carefree.
When I was in college, I met Sun Yi through the fellow villagers, because we had the same last word of our names, and we had a deep impression of each other. Then came the cliché date and dinner, and since we were both in the same city, we had a good chat. A few months later, we were in a relationship.
However, my mother-in-law complicated my life. She dragged her sister-in-law's family to our city for the elderly, which made me feel very dissatisfied. I don't want to live a long life, my husband can't stand it, and I don't want to tolerate it.
My sister-in-law is a restless person from the city and countryside, and she didn't go to school again after graduating from junior high school. She herself said: "It's useless to go to school, anyway, if you can't get into college, it's better to earn money in advance." Sun Yi's parents have always pampered her and let her do whatever she wants. This made me feel very helpless.
Sun Ting learned the craft of tailoring in the town with adults when she was young, and her articulate and communicative skills, coupled with her fashion sensitivity, attracted many customers for the owner.
Over time, she catches the attention of some undesirable people in the town and falls into a relationship with an unruly young man. When Sun Yi's parents learned of this, they urgently summoned several uncles to the town, dragged their daughter home, and arranged for her to spend a few months at home enjoying food and wine in order to cut off her contact with the gangsters.
Sun Yi's parents thought that the best solution was to find her in-laws and make her docile by getting married and having children. So, Sun Ting got married and had children before her brother, and by the time we graduated from college, Sun Yi was already the mother of one child.
After graduating, Sun Yi and I got jobs in the city, everything gradually stabilized, and plans to get married gradually surfaced. However, my in-laws told us that because my sister spent a lot of money when she got married a few years ago, plus Sun Yi's college expenses, the family is now tight on money and can only provide 5,000 yuan.
The bride price is not even enough for the wedding reception!
When complaining to their parents, they said: "Their family only has a few acres of land, and it is really difficult to accumulate enough funds with that little industry alone." If you're hesitant because of this, we've got your back. ”
However, how can I let go of the relationship I have built with Sun Yi over the years? Although their family conditions are limited, I don't want to regret it, Sun Yi is gentle and considerate, has a good personality, and also cares about me very much. Moreover, he is also very enterprising in his work now. I don't want to regret it.
My mother once said: "You are our sweetheart and soul who has grown up, and we are reluctant to see you fall into trouble because of marriage." Even though you have made up your mind to get married, we will not stand in the way. ”
Later, Sun Yi and I rented a two-bedroom apartment, held a simple and warm wedding, and ushered in our happy life.
With the advent of her daughter, the mother-in-law revealed her preference for boys, and she seemed indifferent to the care of confinement. Half a year after I got married, I suffered from morning sickness while pregnant, and I had to stay on bed rest. Sun Yi is too busy to accompany her, and my mother is still working and can't come to take care of her.
In this predicament, Sun Yi had to contact her mother-in-law to come to help, but her mother-in-law politely rejected Sun Yi's request on the grounds that her father-in-law was unwell.
In desperation, my mother had to prepare delicious meals for me every day in the middle and evening, and take time out to help me with household chores on weekends. Fortunately, after a month, my body gradually ** and I was able to get out of bed and move.
During childbirth, I only had my parents and Sun Yi by my side. After her daughter was born, Sun Yi told her in-laws, but when the other party heard that it was a girl, she just hung up briefly.
Everyone also understood that due to Sun Yi's persuasion to no avail, my mother-in-law could not come to take care of my confinement child, so we had to hire a confinement nanny. After the confinement ended, I quit my job to focus on taking care of my children at home. My mom would come over on the weekends to help out and let me relax.
Time flies, my daughter is growing up and is about to enter kindergarten.
In recent years, Sun Yi has been working very hard and has achieved a lot of commissions and year-end bonuses. We discussed and decided to buy a school district house in one step to prepare for our daughter's future school life.
When my parents learned that we were planning to buy a house, they were very supportive and generously used their savings of 300,000 yuan to help us pay for the down payment. After comparing different locations, floor plans and floors, we quickly settled on a house we were looking for. With the support of our parents, we only need 150,000 yuan to make a down payment.
So, Sun Yi decided to give her in-laws a ** call to see if she could get some support.
When my mother-in-law learned that we were going to buy a big house of more than 100 square meters in the city, she was a little incredulous, she didn't seem to believe that we had so much money. Sun Yi explained: "Mom, the 300,000 yuan given by Dad has helped a lot, and we are still short of 150,000 yuan, can we support a little more?" We will pay you back as soon as possible. ”
However, the mother-in-law responded: "We have money to lend you, and a few acres of land at home can grow a few dollars!" It's like your mother-in-law who eats national meals and has a regular monthly income! ”
After hearing this, Sun Yi asked with some doubts: "Didn't we lend tens of thousands of dollars to the second uncle a few years ago?" At that time, you also took 20,000 yuan from me and lent him it, did he pay off the money? ”
The mother-in-law said with a little embarrassment: "This money hasn't been repaid yet." ”
Then I'll call the second uncle and ask to see if he can help make up a little? ”
Don't, don't ask, he doesn't have much money! ”
How do you know he's tight on cash? ”
Alas, let me tell you, your second uncle's money will be returned to us the next year. ”
What about the money? Will you give me back the twenty thousand that I have taken? I'm really in a hurry here! ”
The money is gone, and your 20,000 is gone! ”
What the? What happened? What's wrong at home? How did you spend so much money? ”
It's all used to pay off Sun Ting's debts! It's all to blame on the dead gambler, who harms people every day and blocks the door and asks for money. Sun Ting was so frightened that she went home and had to borrow money from us, and burned down the house if she didn't pay it back. We had to hurry up and pay off the tens of thousands of dollars we had to pay off the debt. ”
Why didn't Sun Ting call the police? When did this happen? Why didn't anyone tell me? ”
What is the use of alarming? We can't afford to provoke those people, and the police can't save Sun Ting's family when they come. At that time, everything that could be caught was arrested, but they were released after a few days, and then they wanted the lives of Sun Ting's family! How can I tell you this ugly thing, Sun Ting won't let me say it. ”
Originally, I just wanted to borrow some money to my in-laws, but I didn't expect it to cause such a big trouble. Sun Yi's hands trembled with anger, and I didn't dare to speak next to me, after all, this was the first time I saw him so angry! In desperation, I could only call my parents and ask them to find a way to borrow another 150,000.
On the day we signed the purchase contract, my husband suddenly said, "This is our first new house, write your name!" ”
I was curious, because hadn't we agreed to write our names before?
He smiled and said, "I've decided, write your name on this house." When we buy our next house, we will have both of our names on it! ”
I was surprised and said, "Wow, husband, you still have a second phase plan to buy a house!" ”
He replied firmly: "Of course, I promised you a good life, and I can't break my promise." From the time we got married, whether it was a wedding, having a baby, or taking care of a child, I have seen everything you and your parents have done for us. Especially for this purchase, my father-in-law and mother-in-law not only helped me with a large down payment, but I knew in my heart that I could not forget this kindness. Putting your name on the title deed is also to protect your rights and interests. ”
Hearing my husband say this, I couldn't help but be moved to moisten my eyes. I deeply regret that my parents did not hear such a confession.
Not long after we moved into our new home, my mother-in-law suddenly called Sun Yi and asked: "Sun Yi, we are old now, and our health is not very good, you have to give us 3,000 yuan a month as pension expenses." ”
Mom, what's going on? You're only in your 50s, are you going to talk about pension now? ”
Alas, we have worked hard to raise you, and now you are always in poor health, and you really can't work. ”
Mom, you also know, we just bought a house, and the loan pressure is high, can you wait for me to slow down a little? ”
You have to have money to buy a house! You have a high salary, you have plenty of money, and you will pay a little more pension every month, after all, it is for your parents. ”
Alas, Mom, how do you say that? Most of our house money is supported by our parents-in-law, and they also pay for the expenses when we get married. We have money and hard earned! My husband began to get excited, and his voice gradually increased.
In order not to frighten the child, I walked into the bedroom with my daughter and gently opened the door a little, and I could still hear Sun Yi's voice.
Raising you for you to complete your university studies, we may not have made a great contribution, but it can be regarded as hard work! "
Mom, if you say that, I'm going to have to explain it to you. During the four years of college, I only accepted the tuition paid by you in the first semester of my freshman year, and the tuition fees for the rest of the years were earned by me through part-time work and self-reliance, and I did not ask you for a penny. On the contrary, look at Sun Ting, how much money have you spent on her? Although I contributed tens of thousands of yuan to my family sporadically before, did I really give all this money to Sun Ting? "
Why not give it to her? I can't watch my daughter suffer at her in-laws' house! Don't tell me it's useless! Starting next month, 3,000 yuan will be transferred to your dad's card every month! "
I still have to repay the loan and take care of the children, 3,000 yuan is a bit difficult, 2,000 is okay? If you agree, I'll pass it on to you right away. If not, I can't help it. "My husband is already feeling a little impatient.
Well, well, 2000 is fine, it's better than nothing. The mother-in-law heard her husband's impatience, and hung up after speaking.
I walked out of the bedroom, and my husband looked at me with a guilty expression, "Honey, my mother asked for her 3,000 yuan a month for pension. ”
I've heard it all, my parents are old, and we should also bear the monthly pension money. ”
If they really need it, I'll give it 3,000 with my hands clasped together. Their health is actually not that bad, a few months ago, I took them for a comprehensive physical examination, except for my father's brain blood vessels a little problem, everything else is fine. The pension fee she wants today may have to be filled in Sun Ting's pocket again, her family is really a bottomless pit! ”
A month later, Sun Yi transferred 2,000 yuan to her father-in-law's account.
After half a year of stability, my father-in-law suddenly died of a cerebral hemorrhage.
Since the loss of her husband, my mother-in-law feels lonely at home alone, whether her husband is at work or resting, she often calls him ** and talks about some trivial things. Obviously, she expressed her desire to retire in the city, and although her husband understood her wishes, he did not mention it directly because of my presence.
Although most people take it for granted that my mother-in-law will come to my son's home to care for the elderly, I am personally reluctant to accept this arrangement. After all, our in-laws did not support us much back then, and they didn't even give us much help financially when we got married. This made me have reservations about my mother-in-law coming to the house to care for the elderly.
In the past, my in-laws didn't pay much attention to our family, and even after the birth of our daughter, the opportunity to see our granddaughter was very limited. To my added displeasure, they made some unsatisfactory suggestions for their daughter's name, apparently hoping that I would welcome a boy and urging me to have a second child.
Imagine the relationship between two mothers-in-law and daughter-in-law who have never set foot under the same roof, and there may be friction and contradictions. I really don't want to have a discordant atmosphere in the family, and it won't have a positive impact on my daughter's growth.
However, early one morning, we were awakened by a knock on the door. When I opened the door, it was my mother-in-law standing at the door with her luggage. It turned out that she didn't ask her husband's consent and moved directly to our house, ready to start a new retirement life.
Now that my mother-in-law has arrived, we have to clean up a room for her, hoping to live in harmony in the new environment. Maybe it's because we're new to the city, and we get along well, and hopefully the future will be smooth sailing.
After a few days, the home and the outside gradually became familiar. The mother-in-law is beginning to show her personality.
At breakfast, she likes the food she buys outside, and feels that the breakfast at home is limited, and the elderly are here to enjoy life, and there should be fresh tastes every day.
Sun Yi usually doesn't eat at home at noon because she can't eat food that is too greasy. So I will simply stir-fry two vegetarian dishes, and wait for Sun Yi to come home in the evening to prepare dishes with meat.
I reminded her that the child's nutrition might not keep up.
What nutrition do girls need? When you grow up, you don't want to get married and start a family! ”
I responded, "Mom, your daughter is also a girl, why do you always talk about her?" Sun Yi is not your daughter, and you may not be so good to him, right? ”
She retorted: "How can a daughter-in-law speak to her mother-in-law like this? You're ignorant. Sun Ting is a girl, and I have a son, do you have a son? ”
Seeing that she was vexatious, I picked up the child and went downstairs. I don't want to wait for her anymore, we can buy whatever we like outside!
My husband worked overtime in the evening and didn't come home for dinner. My daughter and I came home after eating at my mother's house.
The next morning, I decided to stay in bed, no longer rushing out to buy breakfast, and decided to wake up naturally and go out for breakfast with my daughter.
In my dreamy sleepiness, I faintly heard many conversations coming from my home. It's strange that my husband didn't come home last night, and my mother-in-law should be the only one in the living room. Sensing that something was wrong, I hurriedly got up and opened the door, only to see several large bags of luggage in the living room, my sister-in-law and her husband pacing on the sofa with their shoes on, and the two children still jumping on the sofa with their shoes on.
Oh my God, what's going on? Is this still my home? A wave of anger quickly welled up in my heart, even as I tried to restrain myself. "Sun Ting, why are you here all of a sudden? Is this going to **? It looks like it's going to move! Let the children come down, the shoes are not taken off, and the sofa cover is too troublesome to wash. ”
Sister-in-law, you're at home, get us something to eat. We came early in the morning by car from the village to the city, and we were so hungry that we didn't eat a mouthful of food. ”
Quick, go buy them soy milk fritters, Sun Ting likes to eat this the most! The mother-in-law commanded from the side.
Mom, I still have to get your granddaughter out of bed, you can help them eat!" "I pulled the two kids off the couch, took off their shoes, and hurried back to the bedroom.
It was a mess, and I calmed my impatience a little.
My daughter woke up and asked me curiously, "Mom, who's out there?" ”
I replied to her, "Today my mother will take you to the small park to play, and you can play for as long as you want." The daughter jumped up on the bed with joy.
My mother-in-law was in charge of the house and drove our family to live in a small bedroom. When I was dressing my daughter, I heard Sun Ting say, "Mom, which room do we live in?" That's too crowded, right? ”
My house is three bedrooms and two living rooms, I live in a large bedroom with Sun Yi and my daughter, my mother-in-law lives in a small bedroom, and one is a study.
There are four of you, so you can live in your brother's big bedroom, let them live in my small bedroom, that bed can sleep three people, and I sleep in the small bed in the study, so it's just right. "Mother-in-law is arranging the room.
As soon as I heard this, it turned out that Sun Ting was planning to live for a long time, and my mother-in-law was really scheming and squeezing our family into a small bedroom, this house seems to be surnamed Sun!
She takes herself too seriously! Mistress - I, I'm still here, when will it be her turn to point fingers!
Picking up my phone, I sent a voice message to my husband to inform me of the situation at home. At the same time, I picked up a box of milk and a picture book to my daughter and told her, "Honey, wait a minute, Mommy has something to take care of, I'll dress you later, remember not to go out of the bedroom." ”
While we were carrying our luggage into our bedroom, I accidentally bumped into my sister-in-law who was about to come in. Touching my forehead, I gently pushed my sister-in-law out and quickly closed the door.
What are you doing! The family property hasn't been divided yet! Your brother hasn't left yet! The sister-in-law said angrily.
Don't talk nonsense, sister-in-law. We didn't ask your brother to go. I responded dismissively.
You're all trying to drive my brother away and squeeze us all into the hut. ”
What's the difference between a cottage and a big house, it's just a place to sleep. The mother-in-law came out to speak and lighten the atmosphere.
But this is my home, why should I make do? "I am adamant not to budge.
It's your home, but it's also our home. The house belongs to my son, I'm a, you have to listen to me! "Mother-in-law is right.
Hey, are you mistaken, the house belongs to your son? You didn't pay a penny to buy a house! Why live here? "I rightly rebuke her. "For Sun Yi's sake, the first few days of your stay will be free, but from today onwards, if you want to live with me, 100 yuan a day for one person, pay the money first and then stay! ”
With that, I held out my hand and asked them to pay the money. I'm determined not to let them run rampant in my house!
Phew, living in my son's house and daring to ask me for money! "The mother-in-law was trembling with anger, and her voice trembled with a hint, "This is his sister, brother-in-law, and nephew, I think who dares to ask them for money?" ”
Don't stay here if you don't pay for it, there are a lot of hotels outside. "I guess Sun Yi is almost here, and I need to delay a little longer.
Why stay in a hotel? Why should I stay in a hotel when I come to my son's house to care for the elderly! ”
Pension in your 50s, are you chilling yourself? My parents are older than you and still working. Does your old grandson family have a gold mine or a silver mine, and you can retire so early? Do you think that your son has a mine at home, and he can dig up gold nuggets with a shovel? ”
You, you, you unfilial woman, what else will you do besides giving birth to a girl**? I'll let Sun Yi come, I'll let Sun Yi file for divorce for you, and we'll find someone who can have grandchildren to pass on the lineage! The mother-in-law was so angry that her hands trembled and began to hit her son **. As soon as it was connected, it was detained, and my husband should have arrived at the door.
Sure enough, with a sound of unlocking, my husband came back.
After listening to her husband's words, her mother-in-law and sister-in-law sprinkled all over the ground. Looking at the luggage scattered all over the ground, the deep and shallow shoe prints on the sofa, the mud stains attached to the carpet, and the mother-in-law's angry red face, the sister-in-law's eyes seemed to dig out my heart, liver, spleen, lungs and kidneys, and my husband understood that there was a fierce battle going on here.
The whole family looked at him, but he didn't hurry to change into slippers, walked up to me, and asked if his daughter was there. I pointed to the room and told him that my daughter was okay and wouldn't come out, and then he found a chair and sat down.
Sun Ting, why are you here today? ”
It's been a long time since I've seen my mother, and I miss her so much! "The sister-in-law pouted and said.
I've seen it, mom is fine, let's go! "The husband showed a calm attitude.
I don't leave, as long as my mother is, I'll be there! "
It just so happens that I send my mother to your house, and you are together every day! "
I'm not going back, I want to retire here! Not going anywhere! "The mother-in-law said with her mouth shut.
I'm not going back either, you see, my husband and nephews are here, we're looking for jobs in the city, and the kids are going to school in the city. "Sun Ting said.
That's right, Sun Yi, isn't this a school district room? The eldest of Sun Ting's family should be in elementary school, so let him go to your place! "
The husband took a deep breath and calmed his emotions.
Everyone has expressed their opinions, and now it is my turn to say:
As a son, I take it for granted to take care of my mother here, and I will not evict her, but at the same time, I hope that my mother will respect the identity of the elderly. I have a responsibility to provide for my retirement, but I also want to remind you that I won't go into the details of how my dad and you have treated my wife over the past 10 years, whether it's buying a house or other big or small matters. Also, my daughter has a name, not called girl**, if you still insist on the difference between men and women, please understand that I can't accept it. Regarding the house, the reason why I bought this school district house is so that my daughter can go to school conveniently. Considering the limited nature of the degree, I couldn't agree to let my nephew go to school here. If you plan to work hard here to make a living, please rent a house instead of living in our house. As a relative, I welcome you to come and visit.
The most crucial point is that this home is mine, but the house is in my wife's name, because the purchase price was paid for by my parents-in-law. So, Mom, if your wife doesn't agree, you may not be able to retire here. I would consider taking you back to my hometown or renting you a house nearby. "
My mother-in-law stared at Sun Yi with a look of distrust, and then at me. Suddenly, she threw herself on the ground and began to roll around, adding a cry: "Oh my God, this is just killing me!" Wife, take me away, I can't live anymore......"The cry was higher and higher. The sister-in-law ignored her mother's performance, sat on the floor, slapped her legs, and cried.
Sun Yi sat there, quietly watching her mother and Sun Ting venting their emotions, although there was no expression on their faces, they must have been exhausted by this face.
The brother-in-law and the child sat on the couch, intently scrolling through their phones, occasionally glancing over the side, as if they didn't want to pull them up at all. Maybe they are not surprised, they have already experienced too many such scenes!
I turned around and went back to the bedroom, closed the door, took the title deed out of the drawer, and gave the property a ** while continuing to dress my daughter.
The mother-in-law and sister-in-law were eventually kicked out of the house. Soon after, the property and community security gathered at my house, and I showed them my ID card and real estate certificate, indicating that someone had trespassed on the house and asked them to deal with it.
The security guard had already placed the mother-in-law and sister-in-law's luggage in the elevator room, but the two still stubbornly stayed on the floor and refused to leave. Eventually, the security guards had to take them out. The brother-in-law felt embarrassed, so he took the two children downstairs first.
The husband took the initiative to hand the security guard 200 yuan and thanked them for helping to find a taxi to take the family back.
Closing the door, I felt guilty about the mess in front of me, and I said to my husband, "Am I going too far?" ”
The husband replied: "Although you didn't say it, I know the attitude of my mother-in-law towards you and my daughter at home these days. ”
You, how do you know? "I was a little puzzled, obviously I didn't tell my husband about these trivial things, because I didn't want him to worry about these troubles, but my husband seemed to understand it clearly.
You actually forgot that during the confinement period, I hired a confinement lady and installed a camera at home, but I didn't expect this accident that the camera actually came in handy. Just now on my way home, I was able to go to the scene of the quarrel in real time, I really didn't expect you, who are usually mild-tempered, to have a really neat mouth when they quarrel!
You're such a bad guy that you actually secretly watched me quarrel with my mother-in-law! I couldn't help but slap him with my hand. "But I was really nervous at the time, and I kept thinking, are you going to be angry? Will you blame me? Later, I simply let it go, after all, in the face of my mother-in-law and sister-in-law, I really didn't have a score in my heart. ”
Don't worry, although one is my mother and the other is my sister, I will never tolerate their vexatiousness. ”
Finally, the home returned to its usual tranquility and beauty.
To sum up, there is a thing called "sense of proportion", in different stages of life and circumstances, we all play different roles, we must know moderation, so that life will not be chaotic.
Don't become a parasite in other people's lives and depend on others to survive.
Whether it is parents or siblings, it is necessary to pay attention to proportion, excessive dependence will one day make people feel bored.