"Do you think what happened to me now is all retribution? If I hadn't objected to my mother helping my sister-in-law take care of the children, maybe I wouldn't have been backlashed. My mother-in-law is about to torture me to death. If you don't help with the children, you don't make it clear, and you have nothing to do every day. My husband will only talk to the mud and will never make decisions for me. ”
Wang Wenshan complained about her life with her best friend.
Since she got married, the problem that has plagued her the most is the conflict between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Her mother-in-law was not a fuel-efficient lamp, and she was embarrassed every day.
The best friend sighed and persuaded Wang Wenshan to face the reality. Since you can't change the environment, you have to change your mentality.
You're very reasonable. Let's not talk about the backlash, it's a mistake for you to stop your mother from helping your sister-in-law take care of the children. Because of this incident, your sister-in-law has opinions about you and your mother. Since your mother-in-law doesn't help, your mother can't help. If she helps, your brother and sister-in-law will definitely complain about her death and life. If you hadn't stopped it in the first place, maybe your mom would have helped you. ”
Wang Wenshan has a strong personality. From childhood to adulthood, she was loved by her parents and pampered by her younger brother, and she did not suffer any grievances. As long as she has any requests, her family will do their best to meet them.
This upbringing fostered Wang's selfish personality.
From the moment her sister-in-law passed through the door, Wang Wenshan targeted her everywhere. She felt that her brother used to think of her first in everything, but now he thinks about his sister-in-law first.
This pathological possessiveness made Wang Wenshan regard her sister-in-law as an enemy.
Her mother persuaded her several times before she calmed down. Everyone is still a family after all. Her needle tip is very unpleasant to Mai Mang.
Wang Wenshan did not listen to her mother's advice, but blamed her mother for limping her elbow outward.
Am I your daughter? You've thought about her and spoken to her. I'm not convinced! The more you do this, the bigger my goals will be for her. If you don't believe it, let's go! ”
Wang Wenshan's attitude towards her brother and daughter-in-law stumped everyone. In order to reduce the conflict, her brother only reduced his contact with the family.
The sister-in-law tried to get back together with Wang Wenshan several times. Give her a gift again, invite her to dinner again. But no matter how hard she worked, Wang Wenshan never appreciated it.
The thing that made the sister-in-law completely disappointed in Wang Wenshan's family had to start with her pregnancy three years ago.
After her sister-in-law became pregnant, Wang Wenshan's mother moved in to greet her.
Before leaving, my mother told my father to take good care of Wang Wenshan. The dishes cooked by my father are not as good as those made by my mother, which is not to Wang Wenshan's appetite.
Wang Wenshan complains every day when she gets home from work.
She called her mother to move back in, but her mother couldn't resist her. In order to gamble, Wang Wenshan went straight to the outside and rented a house.
The family did not stop them, but hoped to take this opportunity to enable Wang Wenshan to learn to be self-reliant.
After the sister-in-law had a baby, the mother decided to take care of the sister-in-law during confinement and help the sister-in-law take care of the baby. She is going to take her grandson to kindergarten and then move back.
Wang Wenshan tried her best to stop it, and did not hesitate to sacrifice. She walked to her sister-in-law's house, rushed to the balcony window, and was about to jump.
Seeing this, my mother had to agree with Wang Wenshan.
The girl whose sister-in-law married far away, her mother died very early. The mother-in-law did not help with the baby, so she could only resign and take care of the baby at home.
The hardest time was when she came alone gritting her teeth.
A year later, Wang Wenshan got married, and she began to endure harassment from her mother-in-law.
Her husband is even more cowardly, afraid of resisting his mother.
The mother-in-law offered to move out and live with them, and he did not dare to object.
Wang Wenshan has many Xi that her mother-in-law can't see. In order to prevent Wang Wenshan from sleeping lazy, she asked her to get up at six o'clock every morning to make breakfast and do housework.
On weekdays, Wang Wenshan is very fond of online shopping. Her mother-in-law scolded her for being a loser who didn't live.
Once her mother-in-law didn't discuss it with her and refused to give her the Double 11 express.
Wang Wenshan was so bored that she fell out with her mother-in-law. The husband was like no one next to him and persuaded Wang Wenshan to give in.
Wang Wenshan returned to her parents' house to complain, but her mother could only persuade her to live a mixed life. Marriage is not child's play, and divorce should not be considered as soon as there is a conflict.
As soon as Wang Wenshan finished pregnant, she discussed with her mother-in-law whether to take the baby.
The mother-in-law refused to help her take care of the child, causing Wang Wenshan to be like this. Wang Wenshan has just settled down at work, and she is unwilling to be dragged down by her children.
The husband discussed with his mother-in-law, but neither achieved the desired results.
After the baby was born, the mother-in-law returned to her hometown. Wang Wenshan was taken care of by her best friend during her confinement.
The girlfriend has not had much experience, and Wang Wenshan has also suffered a lot of confinement diseases. Looking at the crying child, Wang Wenshan's head was bleeding.
She went home and asked her mother to help take care of the child, and the mother shook her head in embarrassment and said, "At first, you were so opposed to me bringing a baby to your sister-in-law. Now, I can't get it for you. Because of this, the relationship between me and your brother and your brother-in-law is extremely stiff. In the past two years, the difficult relief has made me never want to go back to the pre-liberation period. ”
Mother's words made Wang Wenshan speechless. She thought back to what she had done for her sister-in-law, and she only had regrets in her heart.
She felt that she was all backlashed, and she was retribution for her embarrassing sister-in-law. If she could go back in time, she wouldn't do that.
However, there is no regret medicine in the world. As adults, we are responsible for our actions.
At the beginning, Wang Wenshan was forced to die and did not allow her mother to help her brother-in-law take care of the children. Now she will only take care of the children alone. I can now relate to all the hardships that my sister-in-law has experienced.
The ancients said: "The beauty of a gentleman." "In life, we should be like gentlemen, respecting the lives and choices of others. In the family, we should keep in mind the truth that everything is prosperous. Do not sow discord and create conflicts. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or sister-in-law is man-made.
We must be considerate and tolerant of each other. Any giving is a two-way process. No one wants to give without a bottom line, which will make people shudder. If you tear someone's umbrella, don't expect to get caught in the rain, this man will hold up an umbrella for you. No one is a saint, and he cannot repay his grievances with virtue.