"My husband and I have been married for fifteen years and we have a son and a daughter. I am a secondary school teacher and he works at **. Although we are not very rich, we are also self-sufficient. We have a car and a house, and we live an ordinary but happy life. After her husband cheated However, just as her husband went to take a shower, his phone suddenly received a message tone. At first I didn't care, but then I received several messages in a row that caught my attention.
Why are you sending him so many messages so late? Is there an emergency or some other hidden reason? I couldn't help but open his phone and find that it was a message from a woman. The previous records have been deleted, and now this message is a woman saying, husband, I haven't seen you for a long time, I miss the smell of you.
That night, I pretended to be ignorant of everything and set his phone message status to unread.
But I didn't sleep that night, my whole body trembled, and I wondered what to do with it tomorrow. After the unveiling the next day, he explained that the woman had sent the wrong message, but I didn't believe his explanation at all.
There was a heated argument between the two of us and there was talk of divorce. Eventually, we reached a divorce agreement in which it was agreed that custody of the child would go to me and that he would need to pay child support.
He agreed. He took the divorce petition on the same day, but he could not get the divorce certificate until a month later. After a few days, I calmed down and started to regret a little, unsure if the divorce was the right one. ”
In general, people who send ambiguous messages often don't acknowledge their actions. But if we talk about divorce on impulse and regret it, how do we solve the problem?
First, you can take advantage of the cooling-off period
Fighting is possible only without a license. Currently, the state has implemented a cooling-off period for marriage, which can be used to take targeted action.
If you don't know the specific operation, or are worried about the wrong sequence of operations, you can seek the help of a professional teacher and try your best to solve this problem. Even if you really go to war, you won't regret it, because if you do your best, it's not too late to get a divorce certificate when the time comes.
Second, the issue of agreeing on custody of the child can be used to increase communication
When dealing with child support, it is an option to consider having the child take on the main responsibility, especially if your husband is financially better than you, so he can be raised by him and you can visit at any time. Such an arrangement is a good choice.
Even if you don't have the ability yourself, consider keeping your child around. It's not just the people around you who really suffer, but more importantly, the children. You take the child away, the man will gladly accept it, he can find another one to have a baby, and you will live alone and feel dissatisfied.
Don't think that your child can educate herself on his own, even after the divorce, the parent-child relationship is not broken, and as a mother of the child, you still have the right to educate your own child.
When men understand the fact that women can sacrifice for the sake of their children, they can grasp their wives more skillfully. Once these things are understood, the relationship between the couple will become smoother.
Third, there must be a bottom line.
Many times the husband cheats again and again, or has an affair with another woman, but it is actually because of the wife's unconscious connivance and there is no clear bottom line. When the wife loses the bottom line, the husband becomes willful.
Because the wife puts all her time and energy into taking care of the family after getting married, it leads to a decrease in management and relationship with her husband, and she is worried that her husband's work will be under pressure and does not allow him to participate in family activities, so that the man has little sense of involvement in the family and becomes idle, and the man can only go out to find the mistress for recreation, is this also the result of the woman's acquiescence?
As Mr. Connor, an expert in emotion, once said, "Don't dwell on whether he has feelings for you now, because feelings change, and feelings and emotions flow." "He doesn't have passion and love for you now, but he certainly does. If you want to talk to him about love and passion now, he definitely doesn't care. When to talk? Wait until your relationship becomes a relationship between two people and the marriage is repaired before talking. At this stage, it is more important to restore the relationship between the two people to a normal husband and wife relationship, and force the third party away from the combination of soft and hard. I'm Madoka Kodoka, an emotion analyst at Broken Mirror Reunion.