In the TV series, Zhang Zuolin has a famous saying: "The rivers and lakes are not fighting and killing, the rivers and lakes are sophisticated." "When I first started working, I didn't quite understand what that meant. In my opinion, the system is no less than fighting in the rivers and lakes. It wasn't until I went through a departmental reshuffle that it dawned on me. 
At that time, I was doing technical work in a state-owned enterprise, and there were several old employees in the department who were very dissatisfied with me as a newcomer and always stumbled. One day, the company made a department adjustment, and these old employees were transferred out of this department. I thought I could breathe a sigh of relief, but who knew that there were a few more "old-timers" who love to pick thorns in the new department.
At first, I thought about leaving the departmentOr just fight them. Unfortunately, I can't change departments directly, and it is not a long-term solution to go head-to-head with the old-timers.
Since it can't be avoided, it has to be actively resolved. I began to take the initiative to establish a good relationship with these old-timers, calling them "master", inviting them to dinner and chatting, and listening to their work experience. Sometimes when I encounter technical problems, I will respectfully ask these masters.
Gradually, the relationship between everyone became much better. When the old-timers saw that I was humbly seeking advice, they didn't have so many mustards, and they took the initiative to pass on their experience to me. Later, I was admitted to the civil service, and I have always gotten along with my colleagues like this, and my superiors will think of me immediately when there are good things, unite my colleagues, and improve my efficiency a lot.
This incident made me understand that within the system, there is a greater need for the lubrication of human feelings and sophistication. Otherwise, the stalemate will only get worse. 
My wife works in the district ** unit and has encountered a similar situation. When she was first transferred to a new department, she took the initiative to do things for everyone and took the initiative to take on some difficult work. The new leader was not optimistic about her, but seeing her hard work, he also gave her support. It didn't take long for this leader to promote my wife to be the head of the department, because she can both work and unite people, hereI'm not encouraging everyone to be brutal, but to know how to do it skillfully and be able to do it
A friend of mine who works in the public security system said that the public security system needs benevolence, righteousness and harmony the most. All colleagues are grasshoppers on a rope and must take care of each other. He often takes the initiative to help the new young police officers adapt to the job and answer their confusion at work. Over time, all the juniors embraced him very much. As soon as there is a major event, the leader puts him in charge of the overall scheduling, because he knows that he can successfully complete the task.
Regardless of the system, even in the average business, the human touch is crucial. The lubrication of courtesy and exchange can make life and work extremely smooth. Otherwise, stalemate and infighting will only exhaust everyone。During the Chinese New Year, I chatted with my former high school class teacher, who is now the party secretary of the school, and the teacher shared his experience. He said: There will inevitably be disharmony in life, and it is important to resolve the contradictions, rather than let the problems fall into a vicious circle. When encountering people and things that do not go our way, we must learn to put ourselves in the other person's shoes and influence the other party with benevolence and righteousness, rather than-for-tat. He often quotes a sentence that says: "People are in the rivers and lakes, and they can't help themselves." If it comes, it will be safe. Turning hostility into jade silk is the best policy. He also said:When a hedgehog encounters a natural predator, it does not fight the opponent, but rolls into a ball, so that the thorns all over its body are facing outward. It knows that only by turning hostility into jade silk can it survive. The same should be true for how we deal with interpersonal relationships, and it is a good policy to resolve the opposition and let each other go. In life, it is inevitable that there will be unsatisfactory things. But as long as you learn to be sophisticated and use your benevolence and righteousness to influence each other, you can resolve misunderstandings, unite colleagues, and shine in your respective posts. This is also the truth that I have gradually realized in my work for more than ten years.