The relationship between siblings is a vital existence in the family, however, no matter how good the relationship is, the relationship and feelings between siblings must maintain boundaries and scales.
Especially when siblings don't have a family, they feel like a family and think that their siblings are very important, which is understandable.
When they start a family with each other, the people in their own family are a family, and brothers and sisters become relatives, no matter how good the relationship with brothers and sisters is, these kinds of things must not be done.
1.Helping siblings support their families:
Although in traditional Chinese culture, siblings have a responsibility to support each other, helping siblings to support their families does nothing but help them develop the habit of shirking their responsibilities.
On the one hand, it will make siblings lose their independence and self-worth, and rely on the support of others for a long time. On the other hand, it can lead to financial problems for oneself and siblings, and new family disputes arise. For example, some siblings have been sponsoring one partner for a long time, which causes other siblings to feel unfair, causing conflicts and disputes.
2.Give money to siblings:
Although financial support can help siblings to a certain extent, excessive financial support may lead to a dependency mentality and adverse consequences. If financial support is given frequently, siblings may lose their ability to support themselves and become dependent on others for long-term support.
The so-called teaching people to fish is better than teaching people to fish, which is the wisdom of the Chinese, and it is also the method that you should think of when you want to give support to your brothers and sisters.
Don't let your family have disputes over money for the sake of your brothers and sisters, or even lead to family **.
3.Let siblings take advantage :
Although in family relationships, siblings are often accommodating, excessive concessions and allowing siblings to take advantage of them may harm their own interests and dignity.
Accommodating siblings can lead to disrespect and slackness, which in turn can lead to damage family relationships. Therefore, it is necessary to protect one's own interests and dignity while maintaining family affection.
Always believe that the family who really loves you will not be willing to take advantage of you, but will pay for you and do good for you, and always take advantage of you and kidnap your relatives and relatives, you can really choose to stay away.
Although China is a society of human feelings and acquaintances, after you get married, you should maintain standards and boundaries with all your relatives, and take it as the important task of raising your own small family.
For example, some families feel unfair to other siblings because they have been supporting one parent for a long time, which leads to family conflicts. Some families have disputes over money, and even lead to family **.
These cases are alive, and as people who have come before, we should learn from the experience and lessons and not allow ourselves to make the same mistakes.
Because the relationship between siblings needs to be reasonably planned and handled correctly, and cannot be maintained simply with money and concessions.
Emotional guidance: Although the affection between siblings is precious, when facing financial problems, they also need to be treated rationally, and they should not be overly helpful and supportive, let alone let their siblings take advantage of themselves.
It is advisable to take into account their self-reliance and ability to think independently when supporting siblings to help them move towards independence and success.
At the same time, it is also necessary to protect one's own interests and dignity, and avoid harming one's own interests due to family relationships.
To sum up, no matter how good the relationship with your siblings is, you need to be wise.
On economic issues, it is necessary to provide appropriate support and avoid excessive intervention and concessions, so as to safeguard family relations and personal interests.
Thank you for your love, I am Qiao Mu, the author of millions of leopard prints, a professional emotional counselor, focusing on intimate relationship repair, emotional marriage recovery.