Blood and family are the most valuable wealth in life. The ancient Roman poet Horace once said, "Blood is thicker than water, and family affection is better than everything." "Especially for Chinese, brothers and sisters are the closest people, partners in our growth, pillars in our lives, and sustenance in our hearts.
The relationship between siblings is made up of countless warm memories. We play together, learn together, share together, quarrel together, and grow together. We know each other, trust each other, care for each other, and support each other. We enjoyed a happy childhood under the protection of our parents. We have strong shoulders in the grinding of society. In the journey of life, we have friends forever.
However, the relationship between siblings is not static. As we grow, our lives, our families, our values, change. We may have different choices, different difficulties, different thoughts, different feelings. We may have contradictions, disputes, estrangements, and even hatred because of some things. In particular, there are two things that we need to pay special attention to: the individual's family income and the partiality of the parents.
Why hide an individual's household income? Because of monetary interests, it is the biggest killer of family affection. We all know that it is difficult to maintain the same income level between siblings. Some people may be successful, others may be mediocre, and some may be difficult. If we tell our siblings about our income without reservation, then the following questions may arise:
If our income is much higher than that of our siblings, then they may develop jealousy, resentment, imbalance, feeling that we are too lucky, too superior, too selfish, unwilling to help them, unwilling to share their difficulties, unwilling to care about their feelings.
If our income is much lower than that of our siblings, then they may develop contempt, ridicule, disrespect, feel that we are too failed, too incompetent, too lazy, unwilling to work hard, unwilling to change, unwilling to improve.
If our income is about the same as that of our siblings, then they may have competition, comparison, dissatisfaction, and feel that we are too ordinary, too ordinary, too boring, and have nothing to envy, admire, and appreciate.
These problems will cause serious damage to the relationship between us and our brothers and sisters. We may lose trust, we may lose respect, we may lose understanding, we may lose communication, we may lose our affection. Nobel once said, "Money is a good thing, but it is not everything." It can buy food, but it can't buy appetite. It can buy a house, but it can't buy a home. It can buy friends, but it can't buy affection. Therefore, we must know how to maintain a sense of proportion, and do not let financial interests destroy the family relationship between us and our brothers and sisters.
Why hide the partiality of your parents? Because of the preference of parents, it is the biggest pain of family affection. We all know that it is difficult for parents to be completely equal in their love for their siblings. Some people may be the heart of their parents, some may be a thorn in the side of their parents, and some people may be indifferent to their parents. If we tell our siblings about our partiality towards our parents without any scruples, then the following problems may arise:
If we are the favorite of our parents, then they may be unconvinced, rebellious, repulsed, feel that we are too proud, too arrogant, too arrogant, do not take them seriously, do not treat them as brothers and sisters, do not treat them as equal people.
If we are the most hated by our parents, then they may feel sympathy, pity, redemption, and feel that we are too pitiful, too pathetic, too terrible, not worthy of the love of our parents, not worthy of the love of our brothers and sisters, and not worthy of our own dignity.
If we are the most irrelevant parents, then, they may produce apathy, neglect, forgetfulness, feel that we are too boring, too boring, too useless, and have nothing to pay attention to, to be valued, to remember.
These problems will cause deep trauma to the relationship between us and our brothers and sisters. We may lose self-confidence, lose self-esteem, lose self-love, lose joy, lose affection. Confucius once said: "Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans for them." Huang Zongxi once said: "Parents love their children, and they don't choose what they love." Therefore, we must know how to let go of our obsessions and not let the partiality of our parents affect the family relationship between us and our brothers and sisters.
The affection between brothers and sisters is priceless, irreplaceable, and inseparable. We must use sincere love to give, to give back, to cherish, to maintain, to promote, to enjoy, the family affection between us and our brothers and sisters. We have to hide two things, not for deception, not for evasion, not for selfishness, but for protection, for respect, for harmony. We need to believe that as long as we have love in our hearts, we can have the best brotherhood and sisterhood.