Now that the Spring Festival holiday has ended, people have returned to work, during the Spring Festival, I wonder if you have a party with relatives and friends?
Many people feel lonely and lonely during this Chinese New Year, because when you greet others with enthusiasm and few responses, it may be time for a deep reflection on yourself.
Why do people always seem to not reach out to you in interpersonal interactions? From the very nature of human nature, this phenomenon is actually not uncommon. Below, we'll take a look at seven common reasons to uncover them.
1. Prioritization.
During the Chinese New Year, people tend to prioritize contact based on the proximity of the relationship. Maybe your place in some people's minds is not so important, so you are relegated to a secondary position.
As the saying goes:"Honest people are often bullied. "We often think that honesty is the standard of life, but in fact, if we do not have a deep understanding of human nature, we may become a tool for others to pursue personal gain.
The intricacies of human relationships and insight into the subtle changes of human nature are the keys to self-preservation and relationship maintenance. No one wants to be the one who is good but is taken advantage of.
Second, you lack competitiveness and charisma.
In the eyes of others, each of us has a certain "social value". Competitiveness and charisma are the key factors that determine this value.
If you don't have a specialty, uniqueness, or desirable quality, you'll have a hard time winning the favor of others. People are always eager to connect with valuable and charismatic partners, and without these qualities, it is natural that they will not be valued. ”
3. Distance.
Sometimes, distance is not only the distance of geographical location, but also the gap between the soul. Friends who have not been in touch for a long time may have gradually drifted away and no longer talk about everything as they used to.
People tend to be generous and willing to give. However, if you never take the initiative to contact others, never invite sincerely, and are not willing to spend money on treats, then others will naturally not take the initiative to contact you.
The relationship between people depends on mutual maintenance and mutual investment. If you are always waiting for others to take the initiative first, and you are not willing to make an effort, then others will lose the motivation to contact you.
Fourth, you are always hesitant and often miss appointments.
Promises are the foundation of keeping, however, when you repeatedly break and hesitate to make verbal promises, others will naturally lose trust in you.
A person who cannot keep his promises is difficult to trust, and it is impossible for others to be willing to get close to. Therefore, you need to develop a good habit of keeping your word and doing what you say.
Fifth, you are silent and unsmiling.
It's always pleasant to be around someone who is interesting. However, if you are taciturn, unverbal, lack a sense of humor, and are slow to respond in social situations, others will naturally turn away from you. Learning the art of using language, developing good presentation skills and a sense of humor, and making people feel that it is fun to be with you is the key to winning the favor of others.
Sixth, you love to belittle others, and you have no mouth to hide.
People love the feeling of being respected and appreciated. But if you often belittle and criticize others and say something hurtful, then others will naturally turn away from you. Learning to express yourself in a kind and friendly way, praising and encouraging others, and making others feel valued is the right way to win favor.
Seventh, you like to put on a show, pretentious.
Humility and courtesy, prudence in words and deeds, these are the qualities that people favor. If you have been arrogant and arrogant, like to put on a big show, and think that you are superior to others, then others will naturally turn away from you. Don't take yourself too seriously, maintain a humble attitude when getting along with others, and treat others with equal respect, which is the golden key to gaining favor.
To sum up, winning the favor of others depends on showing your own value, charm and good character. I hope you can better understand human nature, strive to improve yourself, and live in harmony with others, so that you will definitely get more people's active care in the new year. February** Dynamic Incentive Program