Title: Friendship and love are not a piece of cake, how to deal with it is the key!
Dear friends, are you like me, hoping that your friendship and love can flow for a long time? After all, life is like a play, and friendship and love have always been the two parts we care about the most. However, it's not so easy, people's hearts are unpredictable, the world changes, sometimes we don't have time to react, those precious moments have dissipated in the wind and become a fragment in the depths of memory.
Many friends, in other words, we socialize like explorers breaking into uncharted territory, cautiously searching for a way to survive. Once, those seemingly beautiful moments were finally washed away by the years and nowhere to be found. Other people's underwear, handwriting, and even the neighbor's cat can instantly ignite your gossip heart and make you excited for a long time. But what can it be? We can't just tell people that your ** is a little redder than yesterday's, or remind that the cat's beard should be trimmed!
So, what's the problem? Quite simply, we don't have a good sense of proportion in our interactions. We always try our best to please others, to fit in with them, and to influence their decisions. As everyone knows, this is precisely the problem. As the editor of "Them" magazine, I often browse the circle of relatives and friends, and I can see such things happening from time to time. An aunt tried to persuade a friend to buy a certain real estate, but it turned out to be self-defeating and completely ruined the friendship between the two; There is also an uncle who even has to personally guide his grandson's marriage, and the whole family is bored with him.
To be honest, the old man's original intention must be for your good, but this degree is difficult to grasp. More than any other factor, these issues are inherently overly concerned. It can't be helped, many times, we forget to take a good grasp of the proportion, blindly forced, we may inadvertently offend someone or disturb others, but add trouble to each other. So, what should we do at that time, we have to know what to do in our hearts. So, what exactly can be done to handle interpersonal relationships? Hehe, after reading the following, you will definitely suddenly realize!
First of all, we need to know that everyone is an independent existence and has their own life trajectory and rhythm of life. We can't interfere too much with others, let alone think and make decisions on behalf of others. Remember, this world is very big, and if you only focus on the small world in front of you, then the wider world is destined to have no intersection with you! In order to enter the world of strangers, we must first let go of our stubbornness and prejudices, and learn to understand, accept and appreciate different people and cultures. Only in this way can relationships last forever.
Secondly, we should not blindly pander to others, lower our dignity to please others. Remember, love is not a one-sided giving, but mutual respect, mutual trust, and mutual giving. You have to remember that you are you, and no matter how much you want to be someone else, you can never be someone else. "If you cross the line, you will be more passionate, and if you don't cross the line, you will be distant. This is a principle that is emphasized in contemporary successology. The more forceful you are to interfere with others, the more likely it is to provoke resistance from them, which in turn will strain the relationship. Learn to respect the choices of others while also being self-conscious. In this way, your relationships can really stabilize.
Finally, we have to learn to "avoid small things". After all, the daily chores are enough to make people's heads big, and if you keep arguing about a little thing, it will be so tiring! Sometimes, we have to try to take the trivial things lightly and not let them occupy our hearts. Don't think that these little things are not important, those seemingly inconspicuous little things are likely to bring you unexpected surprises one day in the future!
So, how can you better grasp the balance in interpersonal communication and make the relationship more durable? First of all, remember, no matter what difficulties we encounter, we must be brave and honest with each other. Secondly, don't forget to learn and improve, improve your ability and cultivation, and make yourself better, so that you can better maintain the relationship. Finally, don't forget to cherish the good times you've gotten and go on positively!
In short, whether it is for friendship or love, it is necessary to grasp the scale and learn how to deal with interpersonal relationships, so that happiness and beauty can always be around. In the delicate arena of interpersonal communication, being too obsessed with the details can make us tired and leave our lives in endless distractions. Let's live an open-minded and chic life, and stop dwelling on those innocuous! As long as we adhere to the basic moral bottom line and follow the basic rules of communication, most of the episodes in life may not have a significant impact. If you don't believe me, give it a try!