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First of all, you have to be clear about the logic, as long as the child is not IQ defective, there is no so-called "mediocrity" concept.
The so-called mediocrity is more caused by parents, the IQ between human beings is actually not much different, the reason why those science and technology tycoons and scientists in Europe and the United States have outstanding achievements is that all their energy is focused on the field they like or are good at, they will not put too much time and energy on things that they are not good at or far away from their own profession, which is the so-called focus.
As a child, the reason why they are called mediocre is completely caused by the parents' inability to guide, misguide, and lack of attention to their children. In particular, many problematic children are mostly concentrated in the divorce of their parents, the discord between parents and husband and wife, the long-term business trip between parents, the lack of companionship for children, and the most annoying thing is that parents only care about giving birth to children, which will lead to children becoming mediocre.
Children will encounter a lot of obstacles and difficulties in the process of growing up, human nature is inherently lazy, once they encounter difficulties and obstacles, they will naturally avoid or give up, or put it badly, children are like this, don't we adults also have this problem? And there are a lot of adults who are even worse off than children.
Mentally, you have to understand that all children are mediocre, including yours.
There is only one way to make him not mediocre; That is to let the child open his mind;
Many people do not have the opportunity to open their minds in their lives, some are about 50 years old, some are about 40 years old, some are about 30 years old, and some are confused all their lives, but there is a very good child who opens his mind at the age of three to seven. And some parents are not enlightened themselves, but they feel that their children are mediocre. Isn't that ironic?
So what exactly is enlightenment? And how to make children enlightened?
The so-called simple overview of enlightenment is that the child's brain has its own clear judgment and understanding of things, and has its own set of thinking models, and they know that 99 + 88 = 187 is as simple as 1 + 1 = 2.
And how to make children enlightened?
There is a premise for enlightenment: first of all, you must have confidence in your child, and you must be patient. Parents should accompany them more, and they should know how to communicate and guide their children more, as well as interact. Accompany the children to play games and do crafts. Talk to your child and truly treat him as a friend.
After the previous premise is done, the next step is very simple, yes, so simple that you can't even think of it yourself.
As long as your child can calculate 1+1=2, then believe that his IQ is not much different from that of other children. Then we need to know why 1+1=2, because what we are most familiar with is this basic operation, remember that not the child will be considered familiar, familiarity is the effect achieved by constant repetition, and the trick for children to open the mind is to repeat, repeat and repeat, since we know repetition, then replace it with 1+2 2+2 10+10 100+100. Is it also possible to repeat the repetitive training, and then change to 2 + 3, 5 + 5, 6 + 2, from shallow to deep, from narrow to wide, so that children can not only easily build up confidence but also feel the joy and sense of accomplishment of success. Let him have more motivation and energy to continue to devote himself to the joy of learning. Of course, learning is boring, and if you want your child to have fun and a sense of achievement, one of the things is knowledge, and the other is your encouragement and support.
Secondly, you also need to do a very important action, that is, subtly guide the child to understand the importance of learning and dare to face difficulties and obstacles.
The easiest way to guide children to understand the importance of learning is for parents to also participate in the love of learning, read books every day, practice their favorite calligraphy, or put learning on your own hobbies, become experts, it is best to invite relatives and friends to talk together, set an example for children, and then lead children to study together, plan children's learning time, insist on spending a little time reading, calculating, and watching popular science channels every day according to the plan, and accompany children to watch documentaries and cartoons. Communicate with your child about what you feel after watching and reading. Every week, you can accompany your child to do crafts or learn to paint. Remember that all movements start with the simplest and don't do too many tasks for your child. It's enough to complete the three or so simple goals every day, and remember that the amount can't be too much. The rest of the time is spent having fun for the kids.
Then it is to guide children to dare to face difficulties, setbacks, and obstacles, and encourage children to dare to challenge difficulties, solve difficulties, and have the courage to face setbacks, and know how to face and understand failures. Let children have the determination and courage to face difficulties, do not let children doubt themselves (believe in the power of believing), and do everything possible to let children know that difficulties and setbacks are the normal state of life, and the strong are not afraid of difficulties and setbacks.
When encountering difficulties, children should be encouraged in time and give some benefits to motivate them. Then invite the children to play in your house and let your child show what he is good at, and let other children show what they are good at. Build confidence gradually.
Don't instill in your child that you can succeed if you study poorly, it's useless to have a high education, and you can raise him if you don't learn well, otherwise the child will really be wasted. Please also recognize the changes of the times yourself, and do not use the standards of the previous era to measure the standards of the next era. What makes you what you are is that the resources in the context of the times are allocated to you opportunities.
For specific implementation, parents help their children make arrangements and plans, and actively communicate with school teachers about their children's situation. Arrange the small goals that need to be completed, set the completion time according to the actual situation, and strictly implement the plan every day, for example, if the child likes the piano, set a small goal, and spend three days or a week with the child to learn to play the climax part of "Love Like Fire". The same is true for those who like to sing, and then repeat it a few times to deepen the memory, and then ask the child to learn the whole song, and then ask the child to repeat and practice until he is familiar with it. Slowly, the child will be touched by the bypass. In this process, the main thing is to encourage and cheer the child on. The implementation is the same for other subjects. Just start with a simple one, repeat it step by step. The child will naturally become different later.
I also have some documentaries and learning materials that I used to accompany my children to learn before, if you want it, please leave it in the comment area, and I will share it with you for free.