Remain silent: Avoid verbal battles and protect your well-being.
The most difficult thing in our lives is not learning to speak, but knowing how to be silent. Sometimes many troubles in the world are hidden between words. Everyone should maintain some mystery, have some reservations, and hide something. When a person can keep his mouth, he can also keep his heart and his life. Comprehend Lu Xun's three most classic sentences, and you will understand that some words should never be said in the circle of friends.
boasting about his behavior, there is a description in "The True Story of Ah Q": whenever Ah Q argues with others, he always glares and says: "We used to be much wider than you!" What are you! In difficult situations, such actions only increase suffering. The past has passed, and the future can only wait, and living in the present is the most important thing. Gao Xiaosong once said: "If you can make people like you, don't make people jealous of you." "It's stupid to show off that you're richer, better, smarter than everyone else. True superiority does not come from material wealth, social status, achievement, or power, but from insight and cultivation. Many people use the circle of friends as a platform to show off their lives and compare themselves with others at every turn, which not only reduces their happiness, but also makes them miss out on a lot of happiness. Really smart people usually don't show off themselves, but keep a low profile. Living is for yourself, there is no need to live in the eyes of others, only by living a good life according to your own wishes, you will not waste time.
Complaining about life, Lu Xun's Xianglin sister-in-law always said after losing her son in ** "Blessing": "I'm so stupid, really." At first, everyone was willing to listen, weep together, and express sympathy. However, when the complaints become frequent, people immediately interrupt her and leave. Sometimes we long for others to understand our pain, so we keep complaining, but in the end we find that no one really cares about your grievances and understands your sadness. No one else can relate to your pain because everyone's feelings are independent. In the current pandemic times, everyone is facing various pressures. Habitually complaining that you can't change the status quo will only make life more bitter. There is always a part of the road that you have to walk, and there is always a time to hold on with tears. Instead of complaining about the hardships of life, it is better to adjust your mindset and move forward strongly.
Words that hurt others, Lu Xun wrote in the article "On the Horror of People's Words": There is a sharp blade on the tongue, which can hurt people without blood. Words are the way we communicate with the world, but they should not be used as a tool to hurt others. As the saying goes: "A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June." Sometimes an unintentional remark can discourage and hurt people's hearts. Words should be measured, and before speaking, you should think carefully to avoid hurting the hearts of others. Zhu Ziqing said: "Your words should be like stars in the night, not firecrackers on Chinese New Year's Eve, because no one likes people who talk too much." "Never think that speaking doesn't matter. After all, words are like swords that can save or hurt people, so be careful.