In "Guiguzi Raising Zhi Law Spirit Tortoise", there is such a sentence: "If you want more, your heart will be scattered, and if your heart is scattered, your will will decline." The meaning of this sentence is that when a person's desires are excessive, his mind is distracted, which leads to a decrease in his concentration when doing things. In other words, if a person always wants to do a lot, then his energy is scattered and he may end up with nothing.
This quote contains several important points: first, consistently focusing on one thing is one of the key factors for success; Secondly, to achieve sustained focus, you need to reduce your desires, because the more desires, the worse your concentration will be.
The biggest cost of sticking to one thing may be a late bloomer, and if a person does things with a hammer and a mallet, then his most likely result is to achieve nothing.
So, what is "lust"? In Guiguzi's longitudinal and horizontal science, "desire for more" has two meanings: one is goal dispersion, that is, focusing on multiple goals or things at the same time, which will lead to the distraction of energy and time on each goal or thing; The second is that there is no longevity in doing things, and they give up halfway. Both of these situations can lead to wasted energy and time.
Based on this point of view, we need to distinguish between two important concepts: stop loss and continuous pursuit. If there is a major mistake in the selection or execution of the target in the process of completing the target, and it is decided to abandon the target after careful consideration to achieve the purpose of stop loss, this situation does not belong to the category of "desire for more". On the other hand, if we adhere to the concept of "if you want more, your heart will be scattered, and if your heart is scattered, your ambition will decline", then we will be very careful in choosing each target. This means that we can't just do things haphazardly or set goals hastily. Instead, we need to focus on one thing and set a clear goal.
Here's an example: Let's say you and your friends are discussing what to eat at noon. In this case, you can choose any food you like. However, if we stipulate that you can only do one thing in the next ten years, and this thing must be the only thing, then you will think very carefully about what this thing is and how to do it. Because you need to spend a lot of time and effort to make this decision.
In conclusion, Guiguzi's Zongheng theory believes that a person should focus on one direction and do one thing to the best. This means that you can choose to give up on anything other than working on your own area of focus. Only in this way can we stand out in this competitive society. In order to become proficient in this science, I am willing to give up everything else, and you will use the study of Guiguzi as a tool to improve your thinking and learn from it. Although we are all learning Guiguzi, the learning results over the years have been very different. Because if you are greedy, your heart will be scattered, and if your heart is scattered, your will will fail. This sentence tells us: focusing on one point, giving full play to one's strengths and specialties, and cultivating them to the extreme is the key to success.
As complicated as it sounds, it's actually quite simple. As long as a person can focus on one direction and continue to accumulate precipitation, he can become an expert in this field. If you have an authoritative position in this field, you will be able to maintain your vitality. Smart people may become experts in just two or three years, while less intelligent people need five or ten years. The key is not to do a little bit of everything, but to focus on one area in order to be successful.
There is a barber shop in Shijiazhuang called "Koharu Styling", which is located on the 29th floor of the Hilton Hotel. Owner Liu Huachun, affectionately known as "Xiaochun" by friends, will celebrate his 23rd anniversary in 2021. This barber shop requires an appointment to be serviced, and the barbershops on the street** are cheap but have a lot to offer. Many people wonder what is the secret of Koharu's business management?
Mr. Liu Huachun summed up the secret in only four words: "craftsman spirit". He looks back on his more than 20 years of barbering career and has gone through four stages:
Stage 1: Become a good barber. He was in his twenties at the time, and after graduating from high school, he began to learn to barber. He learned a trade and found a job in society for himself. After completing his studies, he opened his first barbershop and was both the owner and the only barber. At that time, the haircut was 5 yuan a time, and sometimes a 3 yuan ** activity was carried out on holidays.
Some of the 20-year veteran members of Xiaochun Styling shared that Liu Huachun was a very special and different barber at that time. He has very high requirements for haircuts, and every customer takes it seriously, and he must be satisfied with himself before letting the customer leave. Sometimes the customer is already very satisfied, but he still feels that it is not perfect enough, and will keep the customer ** how to improve. For clients who are more difficult to style, it may take him three or four hours to fix his hair.
Stage 2: Become a professional hairdressing consultant. Koharu has made many friends in the art circle in her life, such as painters, ** families, dancers and models. He studied aesthetics, philosophy, traditional culture, and business management, which seem to have nothing to do with hairdressing, but which most barbers do not have access to.
With her unique aesthetic ability, Koharu designs beautiful and generous hairstyles for each client. He once said: "You come to my barber shop, you can hand over your hair to me, I know hair and aesthetics better than customers." "Many customers who have image requirements come here, including actors, hosts and business elites. Koharu's haircut** is also rising.
Stage 3: Become a personal image consultant with personalized services. In recent years, many clients who have been to Koharu for a haircut have a common feeling: if you go to Koharu for a haircut for the first time, he will spend a long time chatting with you instead of just picking up scissors and starting a haircut. He will talk about your life, work and even your state of mind.
"One will always live in a particular environment," he said. "Hair styling needs to not only meet the needs of the individual, but more importantly, the environment and personal identity. Therefore, the right hairstyle is the best choice. Some people need a domineering image, while others need a low-key and peaceful image. With him, the haircut takes care not only of personal image, but also of the environment. Each person's hairstyle is unique and expresses both beauty and humanity.
Stage 4: Become a life coach and counselor. Koharu's haircutting skills can even move customers to tears. For half of his life, the only thing he didn't put down was scissors. His rich life experience and erudite knowledge enable him to understand the inner world of customers and give wisdom and effective solutions to solve confusion in one sentence when chatting with customers.
He once shared the story of such an old customer for more than ten years: an eldest sister in her 50s is a successful businessman with tens of millions of assets. She cares a lot about her appearance, and her long hair is very beautiful. However, a dispute arose over the division of the estate with his two younger brothers. After complaining to Koharu during a haircut, Koharu suggests that she try a new hairstyle - a short hairstyle that is completely different from her previous image. Although this change may affect the aesthetics and image, the eldest sister accepted Koharu's suggestion. When she saw her beautiful long hair gradually shorten and eventually turn into a neat short haircut, she suddenly burst into tears. In the third stage, he uses his knowledge and experience to understand human nature, rejecting the same view.
In the fourth stage of life, like ordinary people, he uses worldly perceptions to understand life, and what he cuts away is 3,000 red dust troubles.
More than 20 years of dedication and persistence, more than 20 years of in-depth intentions. Koharu is a barber, but he goes beyond being a barber, and now, he still picks up scissors and is busy in the barbershop every day.
If you want more, your heart will be scattered, and if your heart is scattered, your will will decline.
Focusing on one direction means that there is nowhere to escape, unless you can get out of your own characteristics and advantages on this road, and it is precisely because there is nowhere to escape that you can continue to excel.
Focusing on one direction not only means that every effort can be the greatest strength, but also means that every effort is accumulated in an effective direction. Over time, the results can be amazing.
Section 3: Application Analysis.
Some friends may also say that I have thought about this question before. However, a realistic question is whether there is a standard for what is appropriate for me to do and whether there is a standard to help me choose the right direction.
Well, two criteria.
The first criterion is that you choose a direction that allows you to enjoy it, and you are happy, happy, and comfortable doing it yourself. Then you can consider the choice of this matter first.
However, this is not enough, and a second criterion is needed: the ability to produce reasonable economic benefits. At least basic living needs can be met, there is a basic guarantee, or it can generate economic benefits in the foreseeable future. If you meet these two conditions, you can consider making your choice.
The first criterion guarantees the sustainability of the event from the inner emotion. The second criterion is to guarantee sustainability from a social and economic point of view. If a person does something that he really likes in his heart, he is not willing to continue to do it from his own inner emotions, and if this thing cannot produce economic benefits, he will not be able to do it. The ancients said, "Hunger and cold are compelled and there is no shame", if you can't even guarantee a basic life. This matter is unsustainable.
After all, it is an economic society, and no one can live without money, let alone any illusory dreams, or return to reality. Bread is the foundation of dreams, and dreams are the sublimation of bread.
To give a negative example, I have a classmate who is versatile, and when he was in school, he wrote very beautifully and had great calligraphy. Later, I came into contact with poetry, and I liked to write poetry very much, and I wrote good poems. Later, I went into society and liked economics, and after graduating from university, I joined a commercial company. His work seems to be very pleasant, and while studying the economic aspects of his field of work, he also practices calligraphy, calligraphy, and poetry at night, and it seems that his life is very nourishing.
But after a few years of work, he is still at the bottom of the company.
Why? If you want more, your heart will be scattered, and if your heart is scattered, your will will fail, and you will be covered in iron, and you can hit a few nails. Some people concentrate on one thing 24 hours a day, and they may not do a good job for three or five years. And this person is working and learning his professional knowledge, and at the same time, he is still writing poetry and practicing calligraphy, and his energy is simply not enough.
Practicing calligraphy did not become a calligrapher, writing poetry did not become a poet, working in the economic field at work, and did not become a good professional manager, this is the most typical example of wanting more and being distracted.
It looks versatile, but in reality it is useless.
This kind of person seems to be good in everything on the surface, but after he really goes to society, he is not good at mixing. So how can you mix well? Focus on one direction, but the direction of focus needs to meet two requirements, the first is to be able to enjoy it, for example, some people like to lecture, and they feel very comfortable and happy when lecturing, then they are suitable for being a teacher. Second, people who can also earn money and do something they like very much often cannot succeed, and they always look for various objective reasons to prove that things cannot be done. They will shift the blame to others, the environment, resources, etc., and in short, they are right. However, the fundamental reason why they cannot succeed is that their thinking does not conform to human nature and objective laws.
Absolutely positive people may not exist, and similarly, absolutely negative people may not exist. There is a part of positive thinking and a part of negative thinking in everyone, so we need to reflect on and retain positive thinking, and at the same time adjust and change negative thinking.
When it comes to interpersonal interactions, we should try to associate with people who think positively and stay away from those who think negatively.
For example, some parents feel shameless when they see their children's poor academic performance. When they get home, they may say to their children, "Can't you learn better and earn me some face?" "The logic behind it is: as a father, I want to save face, so son, you have to help me achieve it. This way of thinking will only allow the child to achieve the results he wants.
Conversely, positive-minded parents ask: What can I do as a parent to help my child improve his or her academic performance? There is a huge difference between a parent who will blame and complain and a parent who looks for effective ways to improve their child's grades.
As another example, in many relationships, the wife may complain about her husband: "Look at the people's Zhang.
3. Li Si bought a car and a house, how much money does he earn in a year, you can't make more money, let us live a better life. "The logic behind it is: I want to have a good life, so you have to work hard to be good. This way of thinking is a typical psychology of dependence, accompanied by negative emotions such as control, blame, and complaining. When encountering people with negative thoughts, it is best to avoid socializing as much as possible; And if you meet people with positive thoughts, you should make friends with them as much as you can.