"Parents love their children, and they have far-reaching plans." I believe that every parent hopes that their children can grow up healthy and happy, and hope that they will become the person they want to become. But in the process of raising children, parents always have too many worries, in the face of children's resistance, in the face of children's grievances, what changes should we make?
In this book, the author starts from many classic parenting troubles, explains the importance of parenting boundaries for all parents, guides parents to give their children respect and acceptance, and helps their children grow up physically and mentally.
The book mentions a very innovative idea, which is the right of children to grow. Faced with this point of view, as parents, we can't help but ask ourselves, what role do we assume in the growth of our children? Is it a guide, a protector, a controller, a spur? And what do children need us to do and to what extent? Perhaps this process of self-analysis may seem cruel, because it requires us to face up to what we are doing, to analyze whether we are doing too little, and whether we are doing too much. But this process of self-reflection is undoubtedly very necessary, because only by seeing our own shortcomings can we find the most appropriate distance with our children.
In this book, I think the most important thing is the word "boundary", I think, boundary is a distance, and it is a safe distance. When we communicate with our children within boundaries, we can truly give love and not control them in the name of love. I think that such boundaries are more of a kind of letting go, giving them trust, support and help in the process of growing up, so that they can grow up freely.
Nurturing is to inspire one heart and bring another heart". In the process of raising children, parents must find their own role positioning, see, connect, express and grow together with their children, so as to find a way to love, so that children can give full play to their internal drive and initiative, and grow into people with strong inner strength.