Human beings are social animals, and in the journey of life, everyone is inseparable from socialization and dealing with people.
When we look closely at the people around us, we always find that those who can achieve a happy life are often social masters, while those who are introverted and depressed in life often do not live happily.
In my opinion, the so-called "social masters", their main ability is the ability to take the initiative to love others, in the face of complex interpersonal relationships, they are willing to devote themselves to it, they love others at the same time, but also reap the luck of being loved.
The reason why introverts often appear depressed and unhappy is that they are usually "avoidant personalities", they are unwilling to participate in complex interpersonal shutdowns, they lack the ability to actively love others, and because of this, they often have a sense of loneliness that "no one will love them".
Psychologist Karen Honey believes that the formation of a person's personality is inseparable from his childhood upbringing, a person who lives in a happy family of origin, they are usually confident and outgoing, while a person who has an unhappy childhood life, their personality may be inferior and introverted.
Regarding the ability to love, Karen Honey also famously said:
The belief of not being loved is a conscious reflection of the state of not being able to love.The revelation of this sentence is thatThose who lack the ability to actively love others often do not feel loved. If a person wants to have the happiness of being loved, he must have the ability to take the initiative to love others, as the so-called, "love comes and loves", people who treat love and have a positive and optimistic attitude can achieve a happy life.
Being able to take the initiative to love others is an ability, which is not only a good wish to face life positively, but also a positive attitude to face life with optimism.
Most people who can take the initiative to love others have a happy childhood experience, they are optimistic and outgoing, they believe in the power of love, and they are willing to take the initiative to give love to others.
In real life, most of the people who can take the initiative to love others have an affinity, they are easily liked by them, and create a harmonious interpersonal relationship for themselves.
People who have the ability to take the initiative to love, because they are willing to participate in the cycle of love, they will always have a sense of happiness wrapped in love.
Introverts, because they are not good at dealing with outsiders, so they also lack friends around them, they often feel a sense of loneliness in life, and subjectively believe that no one will like them and no one will love them.
In the eyes of outsiders, introverts do not like to participate in communication, and even if they want to associate with introverts, they will not bother the other person to make the other person feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable in the communication.
In real life, introverts often have a feeling that they are not likable and unliked, which is actually a subjective illusion, not an objective fact.
When an introvert is willing to open his heart and take the initiative to love the people around him, he will be able to reap the love of his lover, and the loneliness in his heart will naturally disappear.
A person's personality is the external manifestation of his inherent living habits, and introverted people, if they want to change their living habits and make themselves a person with the ability to love and be loved, there must be a way.
For example, introverts can try to change the way they dress to make themselves look like enthusiastic people, generally speaking, introverts like to wear dark colors, which makes them look unapproachable, if they try to wear some shiny clothes, you can change their gloomy temperament and make them look more relatable.
For example, introverts, when they encounter difficulties, can take the initiative to ask for help from the people around them, which is actually a process of showing favor and a willingness to participate in social interactions, which can also make introverts reduce their loneliness in their hearts.
Through their own efforts, a person can cultivate his ability to take the initiative to love, make himself look more positive and sunny, and his life will become more optimistic.
Psychologists believe that people who have the ability to take the initiative to love will have the possibility of being loved.
Love is a verb, love is fluid, only those who are willing to take the initiative to give love, will let the people around him feel his love, and will also get the love of the people around him.
Willing to take the initiative to love others, this is an ability, this ability can be cultivated through acquired efforts, as long as a person can open his heart, he can have a happy life and harmonious interpersonal relationships.
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