Recently, Xiao Jiu suddenly received a letter from a reader in the background:
My boyfriend has a foot fetish and always likes to kiss my feet when he makes love, but I feel dirty! And when I think about kissing my feet and kissing my mouth, I can't accept it! I tried to communicate with him, but he said that I was pretending and not sensitive, and that he had a lot of fun with every ex-girlfriend. Is it really my problem?
I don't know if you are like me after reading it, silently frowning at this man's words and deeds - heIt is the most common mistake that men make in their sex life
1. The 7 most common mistakes men make when they are affectionate
The American "Internet Medical Doctor"** has invited sexologists Tristan Taumino, Dr. Patti Brighton, and sexologists Kristen Togher, to explain the seven most common mistakes men make during sex.
First of all, that is"I know how to please her".
The boyfriend mentioned by the reader at the beginning made exactly this kind of mistake. Men usually think that their set of "skills" is omnipotent and applicable to all women, but in fact this is not the case, women's sexual experiences are unique, so it is important not to apply previous experiences to the current object, it is easy to touch the taboo.
Mistake 2: We don't need to talk about sex.
During sex, many women are shy. If you don't know what words to use to express your needs, such as whether you need to slow down or fast, which part is most comfortable, etc., you need to know some ways to express it. For example, mutual benefit expression, instructing the other party how to carry out actions, affirming the other party's actions, saying some intimate words, etc., and personal desire expression, focusing on expressing some special thoughts and desires in the individual's heart.
This kind of communication and exchange can not only deepen the relationship between the two parties, but also continue to explore the freshness.
Mistake 3: She only needs me enough.
Some men are very resistant to using some auxiliary sex toys in order to maintain their self-esteem during sex, which is actually one of the misunderstandings. Men can't be as long-lasting, as stimulating as a vibrator. Therefore, in order to maintain the interest and affection between husband and wife, men should also learn to accept and use these auxiliary devices.
Mistake 4: Compare your own abilities with others.
Men often compare the frequency of sex with others in order to show their abilities, and in many cases, this also leads to some frustration. In fact, men's sexual prowess, which has a certain relationship with the state of the couple and the age of both parties, is not the key to more or less, the key is the quality.
Mistake 5: The longer the time and the greater the strength, the better.
Some men think that if it lasts longer and is strong enough, it will make women more comfortable. In fact, this is not the case, the duration is too long, and repeating the same action may make the female ** feel very bored, and her interest in sex life will gradually decline.
If the movement is too rude, then the woman will feel pain or even injury. There are countless cases of female corpus luteum rupture due to too much force in sexual life, in the process of sexual life, the female body is dilated and congested, and the tension in the corpus luteum increases, if the man's action is very hard, the woman will be strongly impacted, which can easily lead to the rupture of the corpus luteum.
Mistake 6: Smoke after the fact
There are studies in the UK that showAfterwards, tobacco is 10 times more harmful to the human body than ordinary tobacco.
There are three main reasons for this, one of which is that tobacco has an excitatory and then inhibitory effect on the central nervous systemIt can reduce people's experience of sex
Second, the tar after cigarette burning will cause women's ** dryness;
Third, during sex, the muscles and nervous systems of the whole body will be in a state of excitement. If you smoke immediately after you finish it, it is easy for the toxic substances in the cigarette to be inhaled, affecting cardiovascular and cerebrovascular health.
2. 3 small habits to improve the quality of sexual life
1. Maintain hygiene beforehand
Before starting a round of sexual life, do a good job of hygiene and cleanliness of both parties, you can get rid of many bacteria from our body, which can reduce the risk of women suffering from ** diseases and protect the health of both parties.
2. Full communication of foreplay
Doing a good job of foreplay can fully arouse the passion and enthusiasm of both husband and wife psychologically. Physiologically, it can raise the temperature of both parties' bodies to achieve the best state, and it can also make the husband and wife more harmonious and have a higher quality of sexual life3. Clean it in time afterwards
It is necessary to clean not only beforehand, but also afterwards. However, it is necessary to pay attention to the timing of washing, not immediately after the end of married life, because at this time the pores of the human body are open, and at this time, it is easy for bacteria to invade, resulting in diseases, and you should wait for the body temperature to cool down before washing.
3. For the health of your lover, don't touch 6 parts when making love
1. The back of the head
The back of the head is the center of life. The brainstem, the center of our breathing and heartbeat, is located in the back of the head, and if the back of the head is damaged, it can lead to an intracranial hematoma, which can be life-threatening in severe cases.
2. Arteries of the limbs
Arteries are on the surface of the human body and can easily be cut, scratched, or bruised to bleed. If there is bleeding in the arteries, the first thing to stop is to use a clean towel or medical gauze to avoid excessive blood loss and death.
3. Temples
The temple is a very weak part of the skull, and there is also a middle cerebral artery below the temple, which if severely stimulated, can induce the rupture of blood vessels, resulting in intracranial hematoma and coma.
4. Cervical spine
If the cervical spine is injured and the spinal cord is injured, the mortality rate can reach 20%. At the same time, the cervical spine also has the Adam's apple and trachea, and if it is damaged, it is easy to suffer from excessive blood loss and suffocation.
5. Kidneys
The kidneys are closely related to the lower back and are located in the lower back. If the lower back is hit, it will damage the lower back, and if the impact is severe, it may cause the kidney to rupture and bleed.
6. Heart
Whether the heart beats or not means the survival of a person, if the heart is severely hit or punctured, then it is easy to cause massive bleeding and cardiac arrest, thus inducing a life crisis.
I wish you all a quality and quality intimate life in the new year, when you are reunited with your family
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2] "When couples "have sex", there are 4 vices that should be corrected as soon as possibleTomato health. 2023-04-19
3] "3 Misunderstandings of Men About Foreplay, the first one is even an old driver! It's no wonder that sex is always unsatisfyingFamily doctor. 2021-12-26
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