Parents choose wisely 3 key things for their children to get rid of the bottom people!
The wisest choice for today's parents is to grasp three key points so that their children are not bothered by the "bottom people", which many people do not realize.
Poor parents, from the moment they were born, placed great hopes on their babies and hoped that their babies would be successful in the future.
This kind of anticipation has not stopped since ancient times.
In ancient times, those who became officials were all in order to let their children have a good life and inherit the family business; The businessmen want their sons to inherit their father's business and continue to pass on the family business to the next generation; Ordinary people hope that their children can get out of poverty overnight and go to the top of life by studying hard, being admitted to a jinshi and jinshi.
All in all, the expectations of the upper class for the upper class have always remained the same, and the expectations of the people at the lower level are to get rid of the shackles of poverty as soon as possible, participate in scientific examinations, and make a shining debut.
To this day, such expectations and tracks are still running in our society. Officials and businessmen hoped that their sons would inherit their father's mantle and thus make their families rich, while ordinary people also hoped that their children could break through their class restrictions and become the elite and middle class of society.
However, ideals are often at odds with harsh realities. The children of the poor are not so good, and it is even more difficult to break through the shackles of the class.
Therefore, if he wants to turn over, he needs to make some earth-shaking changes, otherwise, how can it be so easy to achieve? As the saying goes: "Without frost, you will get the fragrance of plum blossoms."
There is a cloud in the Book of Changes: "Tianxingjian, the gentleman is constantly striving for self-improvement, convincing people with virtue, convincing people with virtue, and convincing people with virtue." "Heaven and earth are so big, people convince people with virtue. ”
Pu Songling said on the couplet of "Strange Tales from Liao Zhai": "Where there is a will, things can be done, although Qin Guan is far away, it will be punished, but one day, I will work hard, I will do my best, I will do my best to give Wu to you." ”
Li Bai wrote a poem "Nanling Farewell Children Enter Beijing", one of the poems called: "A long laugh, go out of the house."
In fact, for modern parents, the wisest approach should be to let their children master these three key points, so that they will not fall into the situation of "bottom people".
Choice: Choosing to study is the cheapest way to break the shackles of class and change the destiny of life.
Ouyang Xiu once pointed out: The first step in a person's development is learning, and the foundation of learning is reading. 」
Ouyang Xiu, who lost his father at the age of four, was raised by Suizhou, Hubei, a poor family, lonely, and his mother Zheng studied hard, accumulated talents, and finally became a giant in the literary world, and earth-shaking changes have taken place in all aspects.
Winston Churchill, Britain's prime minister, was of high standing, but few people understood the hardships of his first 20 years. His way of fighting back is to change his life by reading, and thus change his life.
Li Ka-shing, China's richest entrepreneur, knows the true meaning of the phrase "learning can change lives." With his wisdom and decisiveness, he has created one legend after another in the course of decades.
Think about it, if he hadn't studied hard, with his intelligence and courage, how could he have achieved today's great cause?
Doing business is like a war, without real strength, without enough intelligence, you will lose. Even if you make a fortune by luck, you will never succeed if you don't have enough knowledge, enough knowledge, enough cognition, enough pattern, enough courage, and enough ability.
Class differences aside, individual effort is also an important factor. If there is no way out for the descendants, the wealth, connections, and resources accumulated by the ancestors may be wasted.
There has been a saying since ancient times: "Wealth can only be more than three generations, and poverty cannot exceed five generations; Thirty years of feng shui rotates, and thirty years of feng shui takes turns. ”
Look at the difference between the second generation and the second generation around, most of the second generation has nothing to do with each other, no resources, no background, but some are from the countryside, but with their own diligence and brains, they have made a difference in the city.
Enterprises tend to hire graduates from prestigious universities at higher salaries, and factors such as educational background and mentors have an important impact on the development of employees.
Around me, there are many college graduates who came out of the countryside and finally succeeded in becoming the top management of the company after ten years of struggle, which is the so-called "system".
However, without the accumulation of knowledge and the enlightenment of the mind, it is difficult to gain a foothold in this world. Therefore, parents should understand that for ordinary people, learning is their "shortcut" to change their lives.
First of all, educating children to love reading and love reading is the key for parents to educate their children to become talents.
Secondly, according to the trend of social development, according to children's hobbies and personality characteristics, find out the appropriate development path for children, make full use of their own strengths, and quickly make breakthroughs.
Third, we should pay attention to the practice of reading, not relying on those expensive cram schools, but to develop students' self-learning ability.
Once a child has the ability to learn independently, then its passive learning is much better than passive learning, and only active learning can internalize what they have learned, so as to form their own social status.
Therefore, with the passage of time, knowledge is also developing rapidly, if you want to get rid of this world, get rid of the shackles of this world, as a parent, you have to broaden your horizons, let your knowledge, into a unique "shortcut", used to improve your status.
Second, two, everyone has to fight for their children and grandchildren, only in this way can their own bloodline continue from generation to generation, and only then can their own people become stronger.
In the history of China's development, Hongnong Yang is a surname worth paying attention to.
The Yang family originally belonged to the surname Yang, and the ancestor of the Yang family, Yang Shuo, was born in poverty, and later Liu Bang rose and led the eight sons into battle, and the sixth son Yang Xi was extremely brave, defeated the Chu army, and was awarded the title of marquis.
Yang Shuo's other seven children are also very good, and they have all become generals. Since then, the Yang family has thrived on this land, generation after generation.
Yang Xi's fourth grandson Yang Chang became the prime minister of the Western Han Dynasty, and during the period of Emperor Guangwu of the Han Dynasty, Yang Chang's great-grandson Yang Zhendong also served as a eunuch army, known as "Confucius of Guanxi".
Yang Zhendong's son Yang Bing, grandson Yang Ci, and great-grandson Yang Biao are all sons inheriting their father's business, and their officials are in the Eastern Han Dynasty, known as the "Four Worlds and Three Princes" in history.
Subsequently, Wu Zetian's mother was also the Yang family, and the general surnamed Yang of the Song Dynasty was a loyal and righteous man, which had a huge impact on later generations, and it can be said that it left a strong mark in history.
The prosperity of a family shows that the prosperity of a family is not the efforts of one generation after another, it requires the hard work of several generations, as well as unremitting efforts and accumulation.
The ancients said: "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step", the ancestors took a small step, and the descendants picked it up step by step, one foot after another, one foot at a time, one by one, until the end.
In today's era, it takes three generations for a common family to go from the countryside to the city, and it is impossible for three generations to live peacefully in the city.
The first generation of hard-working parents were also actively seeking other ways of life in addition to agriculture, such as going to the county to do business, raising livestock, and having enough savings to keep their children in school.
The second generation relied on the education of their parents and relied on their own diligence to be admitted to a university, and since then they have left the countryside, given up farming, and found a job in the city, and gradually accumulated.
Elapse. After five or six years of work, a down payment, and with the financial support of his parents, he bought a house, got married, and had children, and through persistent struggle, the family was stable, constantly accumulating property, and creating a better living environment for future generations.
The third generation, after the struggle of the previous two generations, has a relatively peaceful mentality, can get a better education, and has more resources.
It's a legacy, a power of inheritance. We can see that, from three generations, it can be said that there has been a complete departure from the countryside and into the city.
In contrast, their parents are not hardworking, and they can only rely on farming to make a living, instead of trying to find a way out of the situation, leaving their children unable to go to school and only struggling at the bottom of society.
Therefore, as a parent, since you have decided to take on this heavy responsibility, you must do your best to let your children and grandchildren have a higher starting point, which is the greatest care and responsibility for your children and grandchildren.
Because only the hard work of parents can make a family settle down, and children can also get ahead and have a bright future.
Other options: The third option focuses on cultivating children's "soft power" to gain a firm foothold in society, that is, strong internal qualities and cultivation.
There is a famous saying: "A man's strength comes from his inner strength." ”
In this world, a person's "hard power" is mainly manifested in superb skills, healthy physique, and the support of family members. The "soft power" includes social skills, frustration resistance, personality qualities, thinking styles, cognitive levels, and patterns.
A person can learn a new technique and something new in just a few months, but a person's ability to think, cognitive, pattern, and character is something to be trained and honed over a long period of time.
After the twenties, only you can control life, and in this world, whether it is good or bad, you have to rely on yourself.
Life is tortuous and hard. As parents, it is important to educate your children as early as possible, so that they can have a strong heart and be prepared to face all kinds of hardships in society.
This kind of person can still retain a tenacious heart and have the courage and strength to start again when he is at the lowest point in his life.
There is a famous line in "The Godfather": "A person who can see through the essence of things in a second is destined to be completely different from a person who spends most of his life unable to see through the essence of things." ”
After entering the society, facing all kinds of difficulties and difficulties, if you want to see through the truth of things at a glance, you must be creative, have a keen thinking, and have a broad vision.
Konosuke Matsushita once said: To realize the meaning of living with human beings, to always be grateful, not to forget kindness, not to forget gratitude, and to treat others with respect and loyalty.
Interpersonal communication is an indispensable part of entering society, and parents should start training their children's communication skills at a very young age.
Sutaro Hara once said: The secret of society is not to hide the truth, but to do it so as not to make people angry. 」
Parents should teach their children to be polite, to be sociable, and to be sociable. When their children are young, parents should not only read more books and learn some truths by themselves, but also educate them patiently.
Parents should let their children know that in this world, they must learn to protect themselves, be a moral person, and know how to measure, measure their own situation, make correct judgments, speak carefully, and be steady, otherwise, it is easy to fall into a deep pit.
Qing Wang Yu wrote in "Banana Window Diary":"Don't promise people easily, don't promise easily, don't trust others easily. "
Zhaozong's "Internal Training" of the Ming Dynasty also pointed out: "If the tongue is closed, the speech is constant; Your eloquence is like a pool of clear water, but your words have no foundation. ”
West Che Williams once said, "Life is like a ship, on the way of this boat, the wind blows from all directions, but every wind accelerates its progress." As long as you have a good direction, you will not lose your way even if you encounter stormy seas. ”
Mr. Carnegie similarly noted: In the midst of disaster, humanity shows an astonishing ability to adapt. People are able to endure suffering and also be able to overcome it, and this is due to the fact that the potential within them is immense, and if they are determined enough to do it, they will be conquered. ”
The ancients Liu Xiang said to "Touching the Dragon and Saying the Empress Dowager Zhao" has a cloud: For the love of a son of man, you should seek it. 」
The care for children should focus on the long-term development of children, try our best to make them grow up healthily, make them become excellent, realize their own life and value, and be beneficial to themselves, society and nation.
As the saying goes: "Where there is a will, there is a way, a tree in ten years, a tree in a hundred years." ”
Parents should do their best to educate their children, even if they can't do their best, it's enough to make them proud, and that's enough.
This is the best compliment for an ordinary and powerful ordinary person.