The Spring Festival does not lie flat
My friend is married for the second time, and the husband of the first marriage is a picker, only put in and not let out, do not want to forge ahead, and stay in the system all day long, his wife asked him to apply for business school to improve himself, and the other party was too lazy to go, so he felt that his wife and children were very good at hot kang, so he was decisively kicked by the Capricorn wife.
My friend said that he never thought that I would not want him. Because I can't stand a person who doesn't want to make progress.
The husband she married in the second marriage is a Sagittarius, loves to travel, and the two of them often travel abroad, and live a very high-quality life, but friends complain that they are just a child, and they know how to play, although he is 40 years old and is also the CEO of the company, but the playful nature cannot be changed.
Coincidentally, my leader's husband served as a leader in the central enterprise department, and when he went out to play, the leader complained, you see that Mr. Hou is not smiling in front of outsiders, but he is a child in private, this contrast makes me unable to be with the steady, low-voiced, and proportionate leader in front of me, and the leader affirms that men are 80 years old, and they are all children, and they respond to that sentence: men are teenagers until they die. No matter how old you are.
Maybe people have two sides, only leave the innocent and true temperament of their children to the people they love the most, and the mature coat is the armor left to society.
So, he is both mature and naïve. Contradictions exist in opposition. Yang Tianzhen, a strong woman who has a vigorous and resolute style, is a typical example of a mature woman, but she is innocent and hopes that she can keep a truth.
Innocence is a beautiful quality of a person, but when a person is too sophisticated and tactful, but lacks the simplicity of the fledgling, it is not lovely.
But why do we strive for maturity? Because naivety is the easiest to defeat. In this complex society, if you are naïve everywhere, then you can only be hurt by yourself, and what is rare is that when you experience the world and grow up, you can not only have the freedom to be born and enter the world, but also protect the sincerity in your heart, which is the best cultivation.
We often say that a person is an adult when he reaches the age of 18, but adulthood is not the same as maturity, what is the sign of maturity?
The first sign of mental maturity is to abandon self-righteous ideas and recognize that the world is not black and white.
Second, clearly express your thoughts and wishes to others, rather than waiting for others to guess. Third, be aware that you will make mistakes and have the courage to admit them instead of avoiding responsibility.
Fourth, it's a special perspective to realize that self-confidence isn't because we're great, but that we make mistakes just like everyone else, but it's good to make up for it, it's not a big deal.
Fifth, you give up getting angry, you don't keep your anger in your heart for days just because someone provokes you, everything is fleeting, you no longer want the other person to know why they made mistakes, you tell them directly, if they understand, forgive them, and even if they don't, they will eventually forgive them in a different way.
Sixth, in any field, you stop believing in perfection and instead appreciate things that are good enough.
Seventh, you develop the virtue of being more pessimistic about everything, and from this you gain a more patient and tolerant soul, and you give up your idealism and become a less maddening person.
Eighth, you understand that the weaknesses of a person's character will be balanced with his strengths, and you no longer only look at a person's shortcomings, but look at the whole picture, and no one is perfect.
Ninth, you will not easily start a relationship, immature, it is easy to be infatuated with a person, now you are soberly aware that no matter the appearance is charming or the achievements are eye-catching, you will feel a little uncomfortable because of the distance between each other, you learn to cherish the person in front of you, tenth, you learn to forgive yourself for your mistakes and stupidity, you realize that blindly spurring yourself for the sake of past mistakes is a useless self-absorption, you become more like your friend, eleventh, You understand that maturity contains some lingering childishness, which is always there, you don't have to act like an adult everywhere, when you don't show some childishness, you will pay attention to it at the right time.
Twelfth, you realize that satisfaction increases in minutes, and you will be happy if the day goes well. You are more interested in flowers and the evening sky, thirteen, people's opinion of you is no longer a concern, other people's opinions will disturb you, you just need one or two confidants to suffice. Indifferent to fame and fortune, longing for true love.
14. You can listen to feedback better, you can listen to and accept criticism, 15. You know that you have to go out and take an objective look at those people and things that have hurt you, and you will be closer to nature, 16. You understand the influence of things around you on your past and try to make up for the mistakes that arise from this, 17. When you build a friendship, you find that other people do not really want to know your good news, but want to understand the difficulties and troubles you have encountered, and the real meaning of friendship is to share their difficulties.
How much have you done? Are you a mature person? I don't want to just grow older and not grow, at least to become a little more mature, even if it's just to learn to appreciate the evening view.
By the way, tonight's sunset is like a ripe duck egg yolk with red oil, I really want to eat it in one bite, it's really beautiful.
Psychology matures