ForewordThere was such a report on the Internet:If you are alone in a room and can't go out, without a mobile phone, computer, wireless or any communication equipment, someone will deliver you food regularly every day, and you will be given 100,000 yuan after 2 yearsWould you like to?
This issue has caused an uproar on the Internet, and the positions are divided into two factions, with the agreeing faction saying thisIf there's anything you can't do, just give me money and keep me from going out for the rest of my life, the opposition isThere is nothing in the room, how can you live, and a person in the room will end up depressedTarget.
There is such a woman named Feifei (pseudonym) in real lifeWhen she was 31 years old, she quit her job and began to live alone, socializing in a 10-square-meter cottage, not working, not even buying clothes and cosmetics, and spending 20 hours a day in bed.
This realistic version of the "lying flat" life has been eight years, and her living expenses have been compressed to only 500 yuan a monthSo why did she choose such a lifestyle? How did you spend these eight years?
Feifei was born in a rural family in Henan, and her parents' patriarchal thinking permeated her entire childhood, I believe that netizens who grew up in such a family have a deep understanding that their parents' preference for boys is not disguised at all, Feifei is also like this, with two sisters and an elder brother, as the eldest child in the family, according to the older generation, it is the happiest.
But is that really the case? Feifei did not enjoy the love of her parents at home because she was young, under the long-term influence of this kind of thinking, her brother had a sense of self-superiority since he was a child, not only did not take care of this little sister, but became the king at home.
Feifei's brother not only enjoys the best treatment at home, but even his parents are obedient to him and give him whatever he wants, so that at first he just spoke disrespectfully to his sisters, and later he even beat people.
Every time Feifei said about his brother's atrocities, his parents just said a few words, and in the face of Feifei's accusations, his parents turned a blind eye, and his brother even intensified his punching and kicking of Feifei.
At this time, Feifei learned to swallow her anger, her family treated her a little better, she thought that life would go on like this, and she was already very satisfied with the days when she didn't have to be beaten, until one day Feifei saw an article that changed her mind.
It was a book called "New Concept Essay Contest", and an article about life in it deeply attracted her, because it was about warm family, friendly friends, and romantic love.
Between the lines revealed the beautiful scene of life, she suddenly found that life was not what she experienced now, life could be very beautiful, so Feifei made up her mind to come out of the haze and live the life written in the book.
After that, Feifei thought of trying to socialize at school to find her friends, she listened attentively during class, and actively participated in the discussions of her classmates after class, but she was usually alone and used to facing her sudden enthusiasm.
Her classmates seemed to be repulsed, especially during a recess, when she saw that her classmates were discussing and took the initiative to participate in the topic, but the reaction of her classmates discouraged her, and one of them said: You are too reserved to understand what we are talking about.
Her initiative did not win the acceptance of her classmates, seeing that this social work could not be achieved, she was indeed not good at this piece Feifei turned her head and focused all her energy on studying, thinking that if she could not socialize, she could change herself through learning.
The word backfire is vividly reflected in Feifei, who is dedicated to studying, she encountered difficulties in her first year of high school, she is too insensitive to numbers, and the math teacher said on the stage that she was like listening to a book from heaven, with a blank face.
I'm afraid this feeling is only understood by people who are also troubled, so Feifei also failed after working hard for a long time, because I like literature, I usually like to read**, and in the long run, my academic performance plummeted.
In the second year of high school, the pressure was great, and the insomnia all night and night became a habit at this time, and many methods were used** did not have much effect, and she had no choice but to suspend school, and this choice undoubtedly brought her harm.
She was at home from school, and in the eyes of her parents, she was willing to degenerate, and her parents even said that she was at home like a moth, so they kicked her out and let her go to work to earn money to supplement the family.
In this way, Feifei had the idea of leaving this home in the cynicism of her parents, but at that time, due to the epidemic, it was difficult to go out by taxi, although in the face of this situation, she still resolutely spent 200 taxis and left home.
Later, after her mother knew about her move, she always mentioned the 200 yuan from time to time, and she lost Feifei's family, and she didn't know how hard it was to make money, which once made Feifei depressed because of this matter.
Feifei, who left home, did not give up her studies, but stayed away from the noisy family, which made her study more at ease, so Feifei enjoyed a quiet life for the first time, and after the epidemic ended, Feifei was admitted to a junior college with a score of 504.
At that moment, Feifei's self-esteem was slightly satisfied, and she entered the junior college without much change from her previous life, the only change was that she left the family that was full of reprimands every day.
Time flies and soon the campus life of the junior college is over, she is about to graduate and find a job, although she is very reluctant but after all, she will eventually have to face, out of the campus into the society, is the work brought her joy or sorrow?
After graduating, Feifei found his first job as a clerk at the talent recruitment fair, and the salary during the probation period was only 600 yuan a month, but the work was still relatively simple, doing some simple things such as cleaning the office.
This kind of clerical job from 9 to 5 in the morning was not something that just one person could get into at that time, Feifei was also very content with this job, and she was also very diligent at work, and finally survived the probation period, and the company suddenly fired her.
Feifei with a stunned face thought that she had done something wrong, who knew that the boss just said not to offend the shareholders, but Feifei couldn't be rectified, she didn't even know who the shareholders were.
It turned out that on the second day after she left the company, her position was taken over by the shareholder's relatives, and at that time, Feifei reacted that it was such a situation, and there was no way for her to find another job.
Because I already had some work experience in my first clerical job, I found a clerical position in my second job, and I was told that I had a good Sunday off when I entered the company, and I thought that I would have nothing to do anyway.
But no one thought that when it was time to rest in the second week, Feifei suddenly received a message from the supervisor that she was fired again, and this time Feifei carefully recalled every word that the supervisor said in the company.
It turned out that she didn't come to work overtime on Sunday at work, Feifei thought that she didn't go to work because the company had a Sunday off, but everyone else went to work overtime, only she didn't go, which really made Feifei cry and laugh, and wanted to argue for herself and couldn't help but say nothing.
Since the company has made such a decision, the result is the same, who makes his mouth not sweet and has no eyesight, without this job, he can only continue to find the next job, after all, he still has to live.
With these two work lessons, Feifei wanted to challenge herself to be a salesperson, this kind of work can best exercise people's communication skills, Feifei mustered up the courage to interview a shopping guide job in a shopping mall, and let her leave after only a week.
Because of family reasons, Feifei has developed a taciturn temperament, this kind of lip service is really difficult for her to deal with, and although the nature of the work is different in the first three jobs, there is a common denominator that they all drove people away directly after the probation period, so that the company does not have to pay wages and can also get a free labor.
Although she knew in her heart, to be honest, she didn't dare to fight for Feifei's cowardly character for herself, so she could only bear it silently, and in the following time, she found a lot of jobs, including customer service positions, sales, and even a restaurant waiter.
But God seems to have forgotten that no job is smooth like her, and she hit a wall everywhere, and in the end there is really no way, she entered the factory like most young people, and stayed in it for 6 months.
Anyone who has ever been in a factory knows that the factory has no requirements but just stays up for time, doing the same work every day is monotonous and boring, which is not the most torturous, the night shift of the factory is the most painful.
Although the factory said that it would not force employees to work overtime, it would not let them leave work until the tasks set every day were completed, and they would have to work 15 hours a day, especially when they were online, they always had to change shifts with her.
If you don't change it, people say that you don't fit in, change it, you work night shifts every day like a national treasure panda, which makes Feifei's head become two bigger, and in the end she really can't quit her job in the factory, so far she started her life of lying flat.
Due to the shadow brought by the family, the current timid character, coupled with the bumpy road to work, Feifei suddenly came up with a bold idea, away from the hustle and bustle of the city, to find a quiet small village to enjoy life alone.
In June 2014, after the 31-year-old Feifei quit his job in the factory, he took his bags and set off to a small village and started his own life of lying down.
After coming to this village, Feifei found a small house of only 10 square meters through the introduction of the locals, although the house is not big enough to accommodate a small bed, but the things inside are very complete, the only deficiency is that you need to go to the public toilet outside.
However, this is not too much of a problem for Feifei, after all, the rent of this small house is only 160 yuan, which is already an excellent choice, just imagine that young people nowadays rent a small house for hundreds of yuan, and tens of thousands of yuan for large, which is already very good.
If you want to say that the most curious thing is how she lives without going to work? How to solve the problem of eating? Gu Feifei said that she spends up to 20 hours a day in bed because she is not too hungry because she reduces physical exertion.
She hardly eats breakfast when she gets up in the morning, occasionally eats an apple or egg when she is hungry, and continues to lie on the bed after eating, avoiding exerting physical strength, sometimes reading books, sometimes chasing dramas.
Now that her life is free of the reprimand of her parents, the complicated interpersonal relationships of the workplace, and she has no contact with her old classmates, Feifei feels more relaxed than ever at this time.
At noon, she got up and made some lunch, the staple food at noon was mainly steamed buns, rice, noodles, with some green vegetables to simply fry to fill the stomach, simple ingredients simple cooking, is also a kind of happiness.
After lunch, she lay down in bed and took a nap for a while and woke up to look at **, and laughed out loud when she saw the wonderful part of the story, without estimating anything else, and she would not hide her tears when she saw the touching plot, so the day passed.
Even if he lies in bed for 20 hours a day, Feifei insists on getting up every morning to run and exercise, the morning air is the freshest, put on his own sportswear and stroll on the country road, the birds are singing and the flowers are beautiful.
After coming back from running, Feifei will go to the vegetable market to pick up leaks, because she has no economy now, she usually focuses on seasonal vegetables, and the vegetables she buys are a few cents a pound, and buying one is enough for her to eat for two days.
Of course, if you only eat vegetarian, the body also needs some energy, about half a month she will buy a little meat back to stew it herself, sometimes it is really greedy, each two months will go to the fast food restaurant to order a rice noodle, spicy hot food.
According to such a standard of living, her monthly rent plus food expenses are only 500 yuan, and the expenses for a year are only about 6 or 7,000 yuan.
For girls, no matter how many clothes there are, Feifei used to go to work and liked to buy clothes and various skin care products, and before after work, he would go shopping and buy good-looking and cheap clothes, and he had saved several boxes of clothes over the years.
Now she doesn't need to socialize when she doesn't go to work, she usually wears pajamas when she doesn't go out, and occasionally she changes her own clothes when she goes out, and she wears more of her own pajamas, and those clothes are basically not worn much, so she doesn't have to buy them at all.
Not only that, Feifei will occasionally appear to look at the scenery during the time when he is lying flat, and he has been to more cities, such as Xinjiang, Hainan, etc., and there are people here who want to ask, if you don't go to work, do you still have money to travel?
Gu Feifei revealed that she summed up the most cost-effective plan for travel, that is, to go out in the off-season, the train will choose the cheapest green car, and the cheapest night to stay in a youth hostel is only 20, and sometimes you can see the most beautiful scenery with a spontaneous tour group.
After seeing the vast prairie, the sparkling sea, walking through the fragrant sea of flowers, and watching the quiet and peaceful sunset, Feifei found the life she wanted in the trips again and again, and she lived this life for eight years.
For Feifei's way of life, some people may say that this is simply selfish, not responsible for their families, not responsible for themselves, is a manifestation of self-depravity, and some people say that life is in the world for decades, and there are really few people who can choose what they want like her, in fact, each of us has a life that is not easy, in order to live a busy life, it seems that we have forgotten the beauty in our hearts, we do not judge whether Feifei's choice is correct, I just hope that the time I have free in my busy life can allow me to enjoy life.