Nawen once said to Xiu'er: "If a woman can't make a man's heart move, then what kind of woman is it?".This sentence is full of irony. However, Chuanwu's behavior is more hurtful than Nawen's sarcasm. Whenever they share the same bed, Chuanwu always refuses to let Xiu'er go thousands of miles away, this kind of "no touch" between husband and wife is undoubtedly a great snub and insult to Xiu'er. Could it be that Chuanwu has really never been moved by Xiu'er?If he really didn't, then why did he take a sip of wine alone when he learned that Xiu'er liked Ichiro and decided to marry him, and his muscles flared up and he was sullen?
In my opinion, Chuanwu uses the method of "not touching Xiu'er for 18 years" to always remind himself that the person he really likes in his heart is Xian'er. How ironic this is!Is this really what is called "deep love"?name, I have always felt that Chuanwu and Xian'er are entangled in their hearts. If Chuanwu really likes Xian'er, he should fight with Zhu Kaishan resolutely to the end, insist that the old Zhu family owes Xian'er, and make it clear that the media is marrying Xian'er. But he didn't. He not only wanted to maintain Zhu Kaishan's status in the village, married Xiu'er in a beautiful way, but also thought about Xian'er in his heart, and even eloped with Xian'er on the wedding night.
From that moment on, Xiu'er's hatred for Xian'er reached her bones. Xian'er was also charged with "the man who stole Xiu'er", and she could never hold her head up in front of Xiu'er. I once heard the saying that if you truly love someone, you will not let her exist in any humble status in your life. If the love is not strong enough, it is equivalent to giving up from the beginning. For Xian'er, "elopement" seems romantic, but in fact it is a helpless choice.
After Chuanwu eloped with Xian'er, Han Laohai repeatedly asked the Zhu family for trouble. Chuanwen scolded angrily at the sky more than once: Zhu Chuanwu, you are a mistake alone, why do you want the whole family to take the blame for you?Maybe in Chuanwen's heart, he also had the same complaint about Xian'er, after all, this was the fault of two people.
Sometimes I think that if Chuan Wu or Xian'er had insisted on their own hearts a little more, maybe Xiu'er would not have become a victim of their feelings, and there would not be an extra widowed woman in the world. When Zhu Kaishan found that Chuanwu had hidden Xian'er in the back mountain, he was extremely angry. At that time, Xian'er was actually willing to follow Chuanwu in her heart, but she justifiously defended to Zhu Kaishan, Chuanwu thought that her predicament today was owed to her by the old Zhu family, and intended to give her a name to live a stable life, but she never agreed. Xian'er's words were just to test Zhu Kaishan, and she wanted to know if he knew what she had done for Chuanwen, would he soften and accept her relationship with Chuanwu.
However, Zhu Kaishan resolutely objected, thinking that Xian'er and Chuanwu's relationship was too close, and they almost became uncles and sisters-in-law. Deep down in Xian'er's heart, she did care about this relationship, so she never really crossed the line with Chuanwu. Her words and actions have always tested Zhu Kaishan's attitude.
As described in "The Song of Dust", worldly ideas and rules are like a heavy burden, causing us to gradually lose our loyalty to our hearts. Occasional courage is like a fallen leaf under the water, stirred by the breeze, and after rolling in a circle, it still sinks to the bottom. For Chuanwu, he clearly knew that he could not go against his father's wishes, so he could only accept his father's arrangement on the surface and agree to marry Xiu'er. However, he had already planned for the future in his heart, just so that he and Xian'er could live a stable future.
However, Chuanwu never thought that his calculations would ruin Xiu'er's life. What's wrong with Xiu'er?Why pay for his selfishness?If he really follows his heart, when Zhu Kaishan recognizes Xian'er as his daughter, he should bravely stand up against it. But for the sake of his father's face and the eyes of the villagers, he silently accepted this arrangement. Subsequently, he eloped with Xian'er, but left Xiu'er to face all the consequences alone.
Is this love?I deeply feel that Chuanwu's love for Xian'er is mixed with too much childishness. It wasn't until the appearance of Zhen Sanjiang that I understood what mature love was. Compared with Chuanwu, Zhen Sanjiang's love for Xian'er is like spring breeze and rain, moisturizing things silently. Their time together makes people see true love and harmony. Zhen Sanjiang's affection for Xian'er was just a simple expression of emotion at first, and he showed favor to Xian'er many times and tried his best to meet her needs. However, when Xian'er revealed her ideal life, Zhen Sanjiang really decided to take her to Erlong Mountain. Xian'er once held her chin, her eyes were full of longing for a better life, and she described the four seasons of the mountain she longed for. Zhen Sanjiang felt that he was capable of giving Xian'er such a life, so he sent her an invitation.
On the contrary, when Chuanwu eloped with Xian'er, he did not think deeply about their future lives. They were displaced, living in hardship, and even in the process of fleeing, Xian'er contracted the epidemic due to physical weakness and almost died. This makes Zhen Sanjiang's "like" more precious and real. It is not enough to simply "like", you also need to have the "ability" to realize and maintain this like.
As I grew older and deepened my married life, I became more and more aware of the importance of "ability" in relationships. Love without material support tends to be sad or loose. After Xian'er and Zhen Sanjiang went up the mountain, although Zhen Sanjiang had intended to marry Xian'er as his wife, Xian'er said to the Eighteen Arhats that they were "brother and sister" when worshipping the locks, which showed that in Xian'er's heart, Zhen Sanjiang was her brother.
However, Zhen Sanjiang was not disappointed, he respected Xian'er's decision, and recognized Xian'er as his sister in front of the brothers, making her the "second master" of Erlongshan. Although there is no clear plot to explain the development of their relationship later, after Zhen Sanjiang's death, Xian'er said to Chuanwu that revealed everything: "If it wasn't for the big boss who saved me, I wouldn't be where I am today, and I'll be a big boss all my life." This shows that the relationship between the two has transcended the boundaries of brother and sister. From knowing Xian'er to taking her to Erlong Mountain, Zhensanjiang not only gave Xian'er a home, but also gave her a new life. Leave the core message of the original text, and at the same time inject new ways of thinking and expression. Here's my rewrite of the original article:
In Xian'er's story, Zhen Sanjiang is in stark contrast to the role of Chuanwu. Zhen Sanjiang, a thoughtful man, never forced Xian'er to do anything, he respected Xian'er's wishes and gave her the greatest freedom. He not only loved Xian'er deeply, but also taught her many survival skills. His love, like a ripe fruit, is sweet and deep.
Relatively speaking, Chuanwu's decision to elope with Xian'er shows his impulsiveness and immaturity. When Xian'er worriedly asked about the impact of their departure on her parents, Chuanwu's response hinted at his irresponsibility. He made his decision without much thought, and I didn't think it was a fiery love for Xian'er, but rather too selfish and impulsive. His affection for Xian'er is more like an obsession, the more he can't get it, the more he wants to chase it.
Pherom once said that mature love is that I love you so I need you;Immature love is that I need you, so I love you. Chuanwu's feelings for Xian'er obviously belong to the latter, while Zhen Sanjiang's love for Xian'er is closer to the former.
Xian'er is happier as a bandit in Erlong Mountain than as a good citizen in the earthly world, and there are two reasons behind this. First of all, she has received unprecedented respect in Erlong Mountain. This respect comes from Zhen Sanjiang and his brothers, and it is their acceptance and respect for Xian'er. In the context of always feeling inferior, Xian'er finally found the recognition of self-worth.
Secondly, Xian'er found her sense of worth in Erlong Mountain. As the second leader, she led the brothers to rob the rich and help the poor, eliminate violence and peace, and her heroic behavior was unanimously praised by the community. In addition to her own efforts, Zhen Sanjiang also gave her a lot of help. For example, Xian'er's good marksmanship was taught by Zhen Sanjiang himself. When a person finds respect and self-worth, her life has direction and meaning, and all thanks to Zhen Sanjiang.
Regarding the relationship between Chuanwu and Xian'er, I think it is more like a boy meeting the girl he likes during a period of weakness and confusion. Their relationship seems destined to come to fruition, like meeting the right person at the wrong time. This feeling of powerlessness is intertwined with the frustration of not being able to give happiness to a loved one, making people feel a deep sense of helplessness.
As for whether Chuanwu has ever been interested in Xiu'er, this is a question worth thinking about. Perhaps in his days as a soldier, he was attracted to a certain quality of Xiu'er, but whether that was enough to constitute love, only he knows. And this adds a complex charm to their story. First of all, we must understand that Xiu'er is a woman with clear eyebrows and gentle eyes. If Chuanwu really didn't want anything to happen to her, he could have chosen not to share a room with her, let alone lie on the same kang and turn Xiu'er away. This undoubtedly makes people feel that Chuanwu is reminding himself by sticking to the way of "not touching Xiu'er for 18 years" that the person he loves deeply is Xian'er.
Now, Xian'er has a belonging, and Xiu'er has become his wife, but Chuanwu still seems unwilling to face this fact and still lives in the blueprint he has set for his emotions. He fell deeper and deeper, lost in his own obsession, unwilling to turn back. Why is this so painful?He was not only torturing himself, but also invisibly hurting Xiu'er.
Chuanwu's deep brotherhood with Zhen Sanjiang and the ambiguous relationship with Xian'er are also unpredictable. He personally drugged Xian'er when she sprained her waist, and this intimate act was undoubtedly full of ambiguity. But even in this case, Chuanwu and Xian'er can still be called "sisters and brothers", their faces are not red and their hearts are not beating. It's really ridiculous.
When Xian'er hid in Chuanwu's barracks dormitory, the atmosphere between them had changed significantly. However, Xian'er was still able to brazenly tell Chuanwu to live a good life with Xiu'er. It's a really strange attitude.
I am convinced of how powerless and painful it feels to be alone in the dead of night when you are alone and can't sleep together. But who is to blame for all this?If the two had been able to strengthen their beliefs and bravely pursue true love, maybe there would not have been so much pain and regret.
In the long journey of life, we will all have times of weakness, hesitation, and mistakes. We all have joys and pains, successes and failures, rights and wrongs. We all owe debts, and we all have the opportunity to pay them off. Life is not all smooth sailing, it is full of possibilities and twists. Perhaps, the two were not brave enough at first, which doomed their later fate. In the trajectory of fate, Xian'er is destined to only become the white moonlight in Chuanwu's heart. From the very beginning, her brilliance has gradually dimmed, but her shadow has always been engraved in Chuanwu's heart and has never disappeared. That white moonlight-like brilliance blooms eternally in the world of Chuanwu.