The list of high-quality authors "Historical Records" has a saying: "If you don't get it, you don't hate it." It is not too happy to get it, and it is not regretful to throw it away, reflecting a detached and peaceful mentality, emphasizing maintaining calm and calm in the gains and losses.
We often pursue a state of perfection, hoping to be recognized and loved by others, hoping that everything will go smoothly and all ideals can be realized. However, this is often not the case in the real world, and we face constant challenges, failures, and disappointments. True happiness does not depend on the attitude of others towards us, but on one's own grasp of the heart. The right mindset and attitude can make us better able to cope with various difficulties and adversities.
There is a story in Mencius that "dogs have everything", which tells people that for dogs or pigs, they only need to be given food and clothing, and they will be satisfied; People are different, never satisfied with what they already have, and always crave more. We should learn to be content with immediate happiness and joy and not overdo what we don't have. "Those who are content are always happy", only those who know how to be content can truly feel the joy of life. Thinking too much about everything, always not being satisfied, will only lead to anxiety and misfortune. On the contrary, if we can be grateful and cherish what we have in front of us, we can experience inner peace and happiness.
There is a tablet by the West Lake that reads: "If you lose, you will be revealed." "When we lose something or experience setbacks, we value them more. Therefore, we should learn to cherish and appreciate everything around us, including those seemingly insignificant details. It is only in the midst of constant loss that we can truly realize the importance and preciousness of their existence. During the Warring States Period, the politician of Qi State Chun Yuyu had been subjected to humiliating punishments, and was short in stature, from a humble background, and was often criticized. He is well-read and strong-remembered, and can speak well, so he is famous and respectful, and is regarded as Mr. Jixia. We can't always be too considerate of others, and if we can face the consequences of our uncontrollable with tolerance and generosity, we can better maintain inner peace and relief.
The world is like a book, and I read it freely. "We must learn to see through, look down, and maintain inner peace and calmness. Whether it is success or failure, it is not affected by it, but treats it with a normal heart, sees the world from an open-minded perspective, and lives out to your true self. There is a story in the Analects about Yan Hui, who was a student of Confucius and was very intelligent and talented. However, one day Yan Hui took the initiative to resign, and Confucius asked him why he was leaving, to which Yan Hui replied: "Now that I have completed my studies, I feel that there is no reason to stay." "Don't be bound by the gains and losses, you should put down your past achievements and honors at the right time, and continue to pursue a higher realm and goals. Only by putting aside the utilitarian mentality and exploring the truth can we truly improve our quality and cultivation. If we can get rid of attachment to external things such as power and wealth, we will be able to reduce many troubles and troubles. By focusing our attention on inner peace and freedom, we will find that life becomes easier and more fulfilling.
Helplessly, the flowers fell, and the familiar swallow returned. "In the journey of life, we often face unchangeable facts and results, and if we can accept them with a calm mind, we can better cope with adversity and challenges. In the pursuit of perfection, we must learn to accept the imperfections of reality, not to be overly immersed in the joys of the moment, and not to be bothered by frustrations and disappointments. Only by treating the ups and downs of life with a normal heart, cherishing and being grateful to everyone and everything around us, can we taste the meaning and value of life, and have inner peace and satisfaction.
We should not rely too much on the external evaluation of ourselves, but should believe in our own intrinsic worth and ability. "Life is like a dream, everything is empty", when you realize that life is short and everything is fleeting, you will not be overly attached to utilitarianism and materialism, but will be able to better let go of desires and truly experience inner freedom and peace.
Life is full of joys, sorrows, and sorrows, but true happiness should not be changed by external evaluation. Regardless of success or failure, gain or loss, we should treat it with a normal heart, cherish and manage the inner peace and balance. "Rejoicing with friends is not enough to be happy, and worrying with friends is not enough to worry. Only when we learn to look beyond our personal joys and anger and look at life with a broader and far-reaching perspective can we live our true selves and enjoy inner freedom and joy without being limited by the outside world.
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