The more inferior a person is in his bones, the more obvious these characteristics are on his body, and it is difficult to get ahead without getting rid of them. On this road of life, if a person does not have the ability to solve problems, he is doomed to be eliminated by the laws of nature. Only if you dare to solve problems and can give others a sense of security, people will naturally trust you, and gradually, you will reap more and more blessings.
According to life observations, the more people with low self-esteem, the more they have the following characteristics, and they are destined to become difficult to become a climate.
Zeng Qifeng, a famous psychologist, said that many psychological problems are often the result of "undifferentiated", and so is low self-esteem. The reason for low self-esteem is that they think that they are too weak, so they want to please others, so they dare not reject others, dare not express negative emotions to others, are afraid that others will be unhappy to leave themselves and leave the relationship, and at the same time, they are also afraid of making eye contact with others and letting others see their weakness.
Through such "disguise" and defense, let others not leave themselves and "coexist" with others. People with low self-esteem are generally very concerned about what others expect of them. When others recognize them, their sense of worth will rise greatly. Usually as long as others ask for something for them, they usually agree very happily, because rejecting others will make them feel lost and self-reproachful.
When they interact with others, they often use a low profile to get recognition and praise from others. In order to satisfy others, they are very mean to themselves, which is similar to the "people-pleasing personality" that has prevailed on the Internet in recent years. In order to be recognized by others, it can pay a lot of costs, but when they are complained or looked down upon, it will not cause their inner turmoil.
Although Zeng Guofan is a little lacking in self-confidence in his personality, he has a wise saying that is very reasonable, my grandfather taught people to be ashamed of the four words "cowardly and rigid", so men must be stubborn and stubborn in their self-reliance. It can be seen that if you want to be self-reliant and self-reliant, it is absolutely impossible to retreat and be cowardly in the face of problems. Zeng Guo's ancestor had been a farmer for generations, but through his hard work, he passed the Jinshi examination, and rewrote the fate of himself and the entire family. So he used his personal experience to warn the younger generations that all generals have no seeds, sages and heroes have no seeds, as long as people are willing to aspire, they can do it.
But people with low self-esteem, they are cowardly and unrigid, and they always habitually look up to others in their thinking, overestimate difficulties, and then look down on themselves, make excuses for their own lack of progress, and finally stand still, which is despicable.
People with extremely low self-esteem can be observed through their eyes, because their eyes cannot deceive people. Their eyes are timid, especially when there are many people, or when they are with unfamiliar people. Sometimes I don't even dare to look directly at others, I don't dare to communicate with others, and even if I talk to others, my eyes are dodging everywhere, and these are naturally uncontrollable.
If you always like to live in an ethereal dream, and you always like to be flattered by others, then it means that you are really very inferior. A self-confident person, he dares to face life, he dares to face any risks and challenges, he will not only accept the praise of others, but also recognize the criticism of others. On the contrary, a person with low self-esteem in his bones, he will deceive others, and he will deceive himself.
As the saying goes, the more you lack something, the more you want to get something, the biggest difference between people with low self-esteem and self-confidence people is that the former is always sluggish, while the latter proves that he is excellent through his own efforts.
People with low self-esteem have a characteristic that they are particularly afraid of meeting acquaintances on the road and are particularly afraid of greeting others. Therefore, when this kind of person walks on the road, he always likes to wear a hat or a mask, or he likes to walk with his head down when walking. Actually, it's not a big deal to see acquaintances, just say hello and leave directly.
There are also some people who deliberately take a detour when they see an acquaintance in order to avoid greeting acquaintances. In fact, this is also a manifestation of low self-esteem, this kind of person not only has low self-esteem, but also has low emotional intelligence. If someone knows that you deliberately take a detour after seeing you, then others will definitely resent your behavior.
The most typical manifestation of people with low self-esteem is social avoidance, they are afraid of contact with people, which can make them very satisfied with a sense of security. Sometimes they would rather be alone than in contact with people. A former classmate, he was alone all day long, unwilling to say a word to others, even in the dormitory, he was curled up in his corner, unwilling to communicate with people, and even afraid to talk to people.
Even if someone took the initiative to talk to him, he just replied simply, did not participate in any meetings, and was reluctant to say a word to others, even when he achieved some achievements, he was afraid of being talked about, which made people feel very cowardly.
People with low self-esteem will have too many worries and worries when they protect their legitimate rights and interests, for fear that after they make a request, others' opinions of themselves will be greatly reduced. In the final analysis, it is a heart with low self-esteem and sensitivity that cannot bear the negative evaluation of the outside world, thinking that he is insignificant and insignificant in the eyes of others, so even if it is a legitimate request, he is cautious and walking on thin ice, and does not dare to put it forward openly.
Confident people don't think so much, they will make demands with confidence, even if others have opinions about them, they will not care, and even have the courage to debate and explain with the other party in order to change the other person's opinion of themselves. Therefore, if we are always thinking about what others will think of us before we do anything or say anything, and we hesitate and hesitate because of this, then we are undoubtedly too inferior.
Whether a person can choose by himself, whether he has made his own choice, is a very important life experience. In psychological counseling, there are often clients who have a fear of choice and difficulty in making choices. When faced with a choice, you don't know which one to choose, and there are two important reasons for this. First, he has no experience in choice, does not know what choice means, and has not developed the ability to choose. Second, they are not self-responsible, because their ego is too fragile to withstand any uncertainty and the unknown after choice.
In our daily lives, some people depend on others and need to rely on others to tell them how to choose. In fact, in essence, he is afraid of taking responsibility. People with low self-esteem do not dare to take the initiative to try unknown and uncertain things, and they want to try it in their hearts, but they are afraid that they will not be ridiculed by everyone after trying. Sometimes I give myself some negative psychological hints, such as, "I can't do it, this is done by great people, I don't believe that I have the ability to do it, even if I try, it will end in failure".
A great characteristic of people with low self-esteem is the denial of self-esteem, the self-worth is based on others, so that they dare not challenge all the problems, and would rather choose to give up than have the courage to challenge, so that they miss a lot of opportunities. In fact, people with low self-esteem have another manifestation characteristic, this kind of inferiority complex is very serious, it can be said to be a kind of inferiority complex in the bones, and because of inferiority, they always look at things with an unbalanced mentality, always feel that the world is unfair to him, and they can't see others as a little good, always showing off themselves everywhere in order to highlight themselves.
If you have this state of mind, your low self-esteem is very serious. A gentle person, an inclusive person, must be a confident person, because he will not find himself through others, see himself by comparing himself with others, because he has himself in his eyes, so he will not always attack others, he can look at others with appreciation, regardless of whether that person is better or inferior to himself, because he can clearly position himself, and he can also stop his own psychological instincts, overcome his own psychological reactions, and not attack others verbally or behaviorally.
So a person with low self-esteem in his bones is a person who often refutes or attacks others. People with low self-esteem are always living in their own fears because they are afraid and worrying about too many things, and they are not really doing it when they think about it. They feel that they can't do well, they don't have the courage to challenge the unknown life, and they even feel that they are very humble and small, and they have become "giants of thought and dwarfs of action".
I often make up my mind at night that I must do it the next day, but I still want to live a calm and undisturbed life when I wake up in the morning. Therefore, people with low self-esteem should understand that instead of being afraid, it is better to be brave once, from small to large, accumulate little by little, slowly get out of the comfort zone, give themselves a transitional period, and also give themselves a chance to break through. Only by truly taking action can we overcome endless inferiority.
In the world, there are many things that need to be actively fought for, and if you don't say it, others are likely to take what originally belongs to you as their own. Being free from the world is a way to avoid involution, but it cannot be an excuse to escape from oneself. Some people obviously want it very much, but as soon as it comes to their mouths, it becomes "I don't care". If you are also this kind of person, I hope you can learn to express your emotions with others, communicate with others more and exchange your ideas, and learn to fight for what you want, so that we will become more relaxed in life.
We must learn to be self-centered, learn to affirm ourselves and love ourselves, and others will love you more and more. Getting out of low self-esteem is a very long process, and we need to overcome psychological tribulations. People with low self-esteem will make people feel distressed and helpless, confident people can make the mood of those around them suddenly brighten, and low self-esteem will make us lose a lot of opportunities. When you wake up every morning, give yourself and your family a confident smile, and actively adjust your mentality, you are the most beautiful person.