When Guo Xiaopeng in "Black Ice" was desperate, he went to the Yunnan border to find an old lady who had helped, and sighed: "When I was powerful, I don't know how many people were around me. But at the end of the day, you're the only one you can really rely on. But this sentence is still relatively one-sided, if Guo Xiaopeng really thinks so, he will not choose to leave. People will eventually find that the backers will fall, and everyone will run. What others give you is only temporary help, and only by yourself can you be stable for a lifetime. I've been convinced of this for a long time. When I see my former friends reveal their unspeakable secrets; When friends are late, no-show, and refuse again and again; When you see the person who was graceful at the beginning, revealing the hideous side; When I listened to the teacher's words and hit walls everywhere in society, I completely understood - whose heart, whose goodness, and whose words can only be believed with reservations; Whose shoulders, whose arms, and whose tenderness can only stay for a short time, and cannot be relied on for a long time. 
Even the closest relatives around us, the parents who brought us into this world, cannot be our permanent and reliable barrier, let alone other friends, lovers, colleagues, and strangers who are not related to us? No matter how much our parents love us, no matter how capable they are, no matter how powerful they are, and in the short period of childhood, they give us a sense of security, but one day, we will also understand that we must bear all the hardships that befall us. disease, your body has to contend with; spiritual sadness, one's own emotions should be digested slowly; Social setbacks, you have to see them. All these things, no matter how much effort others have to help us, will not help. Family, friendship, and love are all beautiful and, at some point, can save your life and soul. But the most reliable thing is always the power you have. 
It is true that we cannot live as an island, and we cannot live apart from other social people. However, if you blindly climb on the society, the platform and others, and do not leave a solid anchor on the sea of your own life, once there are storms, such as the death of relatives, unemployment and salary cuts, industry changes, emotional betrayal, etc., you will be depressed and even mentally broken. If your heart is already corrupt and crumbling. Then, some external turmoil is just an accelerator. The collapse of many dynasties is always attributed to the troubles of the face, the collapse of many families is always attributed to the intervention of a third party, and the setbacks of many careers are always attributed to the boss's blindness, and people always like to find reasons from the outside world. However, the truth is that they have long been drifting broken boats, and the later gust of wind only exposes their own wandering state. As Goethe said, "Everyone has a lamp in their hearts, the strong endure the wind, and the weak die with the wind." So, what kind of thing in the world can be more important than gaining one's own personal independence? It can be seen that the wild overlords in nature, lions, tigers, and jackals, are always the most attractive.