I have heard a saying: Tranquility is a rare state of mind.
As it is said in "University": know and then decide, set and then be quiet, quiet and then be peaceful, safe and then be able to think, and then be able to get.
In this irritable world, it is easy for many people to compete for the speed of the moment in all aspects.
However, if you can keep your "original heart" in the face of major rights and wrongs, you will be a person who truly understands wisdom.
If a woman can be quiet in the following aspects, then she must be very difficult.
Listening to many people, they will have a problem: they always can't help but get angry when they are angry, especially to the people around them.
My friend Qianqian once told me that she didn't know what was going on in the past few years, and she always couldn't control her temper.
When her husband forgets to throw away the garbage when he goes out, or the children are slow to do their homework, she can't help but complain and point at them and scold them.
I know it's not good, but the next time my temper comes, I still can't control it.
In fact, I think many people have encountered this kind of problem of hers.
After all, in life, the probability of encountering fortunate things is too small, and the probability of encountering troublesome things is too great.
But instead of solving the problem, losing your temper will increase family conflicts.
So, what to do?
Tang Yan talked about her way of dealing with it in an interview:
"I share what I'm happy about, and what I'm not happy about is self-digesting. ”
If you figure it out, it will pass, and you may not be able to figure it out, but I will find a way to figure it out.
Because I knew that there was no way to solve the result, and when it would not change again, I let it go.
There are also studies in psychology that show that 20% of negative emotions come from the thing itself, and 80% comes from your attitude towards the matter.
Your attitude changes, and so does your mood.
Therefore, there are many ways to channel emotions, and you might as well keep quiet when you are irritable.
Don't make any decisions just yet, just be quiet for a while.
We have grown up, and some sad emotions have to learn to digest themselves.
In the recent hit TV series "Flowers", Miss Wang is a person admired by many people.
When she was about to be promoted to section chief, she was reported by a colleague because of a pair of earrings.
After learning the news, Miss Wang patted her chest and followed the investigators to reassure:
It doesn't matter if I'm a pencil or a computer, I report everything.Even if she was sent to the factory, Miss Wang did not change her style at all.I am worthy of my conscience, I am worthy of my customers, and I am worthy of the country!
The leader sent her to tidy up the warehouse alone, and even if Miss Wang stayed up all night, she would refuse the help of others, tidy up the warehouse garbage by herself, and even the factory director did not believe that a little girl could do it.
The all-out effort of one thing in exchange for the sincerity of the factory director.
Originally, when she was in the unit, Miss Wang always liked to wear big waves and had a bewitching temperament, but when she arrived at the factory, the big waves were immediately tied into braids, and the small skirt was immediately changed into overalls.
She handled foreign trade affairs in an orderly manner, and she was sent to the factory, and she put down her body to carry goods and collect accounts with the workers, and she could also achieve rapid growth.
When others are helpless, she says "I'll come!" I'm sure I can do it! You believe it", showing not only the bearing, but also the determination to do things.
After speaking, he threw himself into the dirty work of the factory.
For many people, the change of environment, especially the transition from a privileged environment to a difficult environment, is the most draining of the mind.
But in Ms. Wang's case, the change in the environment has not changed her original intention of doing things.
Even later, the relationship with Mr. Bao changed from intimacy to estrangement, Miss Wang was able to keep a friendship in her heart, firmly jumped out of Mr. Bao's maintenance, and continued to chase her bright future.
Later, she started her own company, and she was able to do a good job, and she was able to shine without getting rid of the halo above her head.
You see, for many people, a predicament is just a predicament, it can become a temporary hurdle on the road, but it will not become a mountain that life cannot overcome.
Since she can rely on her ability to become the beloved Miss Wang on Nanjing Road, she can naturally become a self-reliant Hongkou Xiao Wang.
I have heard a saying: Every glamorous person has experienced a rooting experience in the dark that no one knows.
It was also those days when no one cared about her that made her bold and calm today.
Keeping a good bearing in a difficult situation and not forgetting the original intention is the most powerful place for a person.
Some people say that success is easier than success.
This is true, for most successful people, when he finally reaches the top after overcoming the difficulties and dangers along the way, it is inevitable that he will be a little proud and complacent.
Professor Zeng Shiqiang once said:
Why is it that the higher you are, the more cautious you be?
Because when you rise up step by step, your ideals are forgotten, your self-confidence is gone, and you just want to take care of your territory, because you are afraid that you will be pulled down by others.
But what do you need to do most at this time?
Instead of looking ahead and backward carefully, we carefully take care of our ideals.
Because only those who are in a high position and still have ideals in their hearts and do not forget their hearts can keep their positions and have the opportunity to pursue greater possibilities.
Speaking of which, the story of Marie Curie comes to mind.
She is a well-known French scientist who has received 10 prizes, 16 medals and 104 honorary titles.
So much aura is enough to make the rest of her life worry-free.
However, Marie Curie did not lie on the laurel of honor and was complacent, on the contrary, she always cherished her "scientific dream" and put honor out of the matter.
After winning her first Nobel Prize, she resigned from the more than 100 honorary titles she had held.
Because for her, although the medal is a recognition of her past achievements, it is also just a signpost.
She also brings the medal of the Royal Society to play with the children.
Just to tell them that honor is like a toy, it can only be played with, and it must not be kept forever, otherwise nothing will be accomplished.
Relying on such a "heart", Marie Curie won the second Nobel Prize and became an outstanding scientist who will be praised by most people.
Perhaps many times, we don't have the determination of scientists to sit on the cold bench.
But for most people, being able to rein in the edge at a high position will reap the good fortune of a long stream.
Keeping the "original heart" is not only to keep one's own ideal dream, but also to one's own ethics and quality.
Remembering a sentence I once read:
Life is like an echo, you send back what you give, you reap what you sow, and you get what you give.
And keeping the inner quiet and calm in the intensity of life is also a way of life.
As the saying goes: when facing the sun, the shadow is behind you; When you turn your back to the sun, the shadow is in front of your eyes, the world has never changed, only the direction we are facing.
What kind of choice you make, what kind of self you achieve.
The rest of our lives are long, and I hope we can all keep a "quiet" in our hearts, so that our lives can be relaxed and peaceful.