When the sun rises and shines through the fog on the silent earth, "sentimental" is probably the only word that can describe how we feel.
In our daily lives, we encounter a wide variety of emotional effects. They can add fun to your daily life and can also bring some trouble to your life.
Perhaps what worries them the most is their attraction to friends of the opposite sex.
The seemingly pure friendship between men and women often hides quiet emotional entanglements.
Why do we always say that "there is really pure friendship between men and women, as long as one party does not tell the truth, and one party pretends to be stupid".
In fact, the reason behind this is that it is actually very simple, when two people work together across time and space and share the bits and pieces of life, feelings may go beyond the scope of friendship.
You've probably heard of Buddhism. A cultivator cannot spend three consecutive nights under the same tree because he is afraid that such an environment will gradually relax his mind and make him unsatisfied. You may even become so dependent on the tree that you develop a deep affection for it.
In this way, attachment arose in the heart, and subtle emotions began to quietly breed.
The same applies to life. We have been in touch with our friends for a long time, especially our best friends, with whom we can talk about anything. We accompany each other and share the ups and downs of life.
This feeling, faint but not easy to discard, is like a mellow wine, slowly fermenting in the depths of the heart.
This kind of confidant-like relationship between the opposite sex is actually extremely rare.
I think everyone has experienced something like this :
When we spend a lot of time with close friends of the opposite sex every day, we sometimes experience strange feelings. This seems to indicate that we are not interested in friends of the opposite sex.
But why would we do that? In addition to habit and dependence on each other, there are actually two effects in psychology that explain this situation very well.
The first is "see more". One sentence is enough to explain what it means: "People prefer something more familiar".
This is similar to the effect of advertising communication: when we are exposed to a product or brand many times, even if we don't need it, we will feel good about it because of familiarity.
Similarly, when it comes to interpersonal communication, we feel closer to familiar people and are more likely to trust them.
The second is the "drawbridge effect".
Psychologists once conducted an experiment and found that people are more likely to have a crush on the opposite sex in stressful situations.
In this case, a physiological response such as blushing or a racing heart may mistakenly lead you to believe that it is a feeling of love.
For friends of the opposite sex, these feelings of excitement are naturally more likely to arise because they are often together and often experience dangers and difficulties.
In relationships, close friends of the opposite sex are the ones most likely to generate emotions given their presence, familiarity, experiences of spending time together, and risks.
But understanding this doesn't mean you need to rush to turn that relationship into affection. Relationships between friends of the opposite sex do not necessarily lead to happiness.
In the hearts of many people, there is such an expectation:
Have someone special, not just a lover or spouse, but someone who can be your best friend and share the joy of life with you. And talk about your problem.
Not everyone is looking forward to finding someone to be with them. Some people just want to find someone who understands themselves and understands themselves.
However, often when such a person is found, the initial attention and joy can turn into dissatisfaction. We no longer just look forward to sharing our lives, and perhaps also want to have a deeper relationship with that person. There are deeper intersections.
In this case, many people will want to be with the person or even want to have a deeper relationship with the person.
However, you should also be aware that people can be friends, but not necessarily partners. Because we're not together, sometimes we have a lot in common. It's fun.
We are all able to understand our emotions and know how to understand and control them so that we can be true to ourselves and our emotions, and I sincerely hope that I can take responsibility for that.
It can be said that it is normal for friends of the opposite sex to get excited. After all, we all express emotions. But despite this, we need to know and understand what is feeling in our hearts. At the same time, we also need to express our emotions. We take responsibility for our actions.