The eight characters of the ancients, like a mysterious compass, point to the path of their destiny. "Men must be widowed, women must be widowed", this long-standing saying, actually contains a deep understanding of marriage in ancient China.
Bazi not only affects a person's marriage choice, but also reveals the mystery of the rise and fall of the family. So, what exactly does the "three-eight" in this proverb mean? What is the subtle connection between it and the fate of marriage between men and women?
As the saying goes, it is the crystallization of wisdom and experience, the preacher of life, and the witness of history. They are like the shining pearls of language, containing profound social wisdom and history and culture.
The sayings of all over the world are like stars in the sky, each with its own characteristics, showing a rich and colorful cultural style, allowing us to appreciate the unique charm of each country and nation. In China, countless sayings are like raging springs, which are not only popular, but also deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.
For example:"Sharpen the pestle into a needle", vividly showing perseverance and perseverance; "Banmen get an axe", which means not to be self-righteous; While"It is better to teach a man to fish than to teach him to fish", emphasizing that the true meaning of education is to teach others how to learn.
In Japanese slang,"Seven falls, eight climbs"The indomitable spirit is shown, while the Indian "Vaishya" (dog) alludes to blind obedience in a humorous way.
In Western culture, there are a variety of English sayings, such as "actions speak louder than words," emphasizing the importance of practice, and "don't count the birds before the eggs hatch," which warns against overoptimism.
France's "this is life" has become popular all over the world, showing an open-minded attitude towards the ups and downs of life.
In different cultures around the world, colloquialisms are often full of wisdom and philosophy of life. For example, in the Spanish-speaking world of Latin America, the phrase "it's better to be late than not to do well" conveys the importance of patience and warns people to be persistent in doing things; In Nigeria, Africa, the phrase "don't put oil on slippers" is a metaphorical expression of the idea of avoiding making things worse.
These sayings are not only the essence of language, but also the crystallization of human wisdom. They reflect people's attitudes towards life, interpersonal relationships, and deep understanding of the world in all cultural contexts.
For example, in spring, we often hear the "38" saying, referring to the lunar calendar in March and August, full of spring, all things revived, the sun sprinkled on the leaves, the breeze blowing, as if bringing the fragrance of the earth, everything is full of vitality and hope, as the saying goes, "spring March".
In general, these sayings are not only the expression of language, but also the embodiment of culture, which allows us to better understand different cultures and feel the deep thinking and perception of human life.
The residual heat of midsummer has not disappeared, the scorching sun hangs high in the air, scorching the earth, the grass on the roadside looks a little haggard, and the faces of pedestrians are soaked with sweat, and they are all tormented by the heat wave, as if it is a fierce fire, and it is the time when yin and yang are out of balance.
In the concept of the ancients, these two months contained a meaning far more than these natural phenomena, and they believed that boys born during this time period would have great success, while girls could face lifelong hardships, a belief that originated in the doctrine of yin and yang, but was distorted by patriarchal thinking.
The theory of yin and yang holds that everything in heaven and earth is composed of yin and yang, with yang symbolizing the sun and yin representing the moon. Men are seen as a symbol of yang, while women represent yin.
March is the time when everything recovers and the sun is abundant, and it is the period when the yang energy is at its most vigorous. In August, the sun is scorching, and the yang energy is the strongest. When a boy is born at this time, he will absorb abundant yang energy, which indicates that his future career will be smooth sailing and success.
Girls born in this period, due to too much yang, may lose the feminine characteristics of women, but have the strength of men, but this too strong character may be disgusted, and eventually life may be more bitter.
Although some feudal superstitions and patriarchal ideas are hidden in this explanation, we cannot ignore the feminine beauty of women. While masculinity is something to be respected, women should be encouraged to bring out their innate femininity.
This overemphasis on masculinity is inappropriate.
Traditionally, masculinity is seen as a symbol of success, putting girls in a dilemma, and hoping for fame and fortune in the month is superstitious. The key to true destiny lies in the individual's ability and hard work.
With the changes of the times, we should clearly understand the original meaning of the Yin-Yang Doctrine, abandon the feudal dross in it, and no longer despise or value a person's value because of the month, but look at a person's strengths and weaknesses comprehensively.
There are good times and bad times in life, this is the norm.
Every person's life is precious, and gender cannot determine the quality and value of life. We should look at traditional ideas with a calm mind and look for wisdom and inspiration in life.
For example,"Women account for three or eight of them"The traditional saying may remind us to cherish our time and relationships, and to face the changes in life with a calm mind.
The March and August birthdays are often assumed to be a good ride for men and a bad fate for women, but this is a prejudice. For example, the talented girl Li Qingzhao, although she was born in March, she has gone through hardships, but she has become famous for her personal talent, which is not easy.
Women's Day, this day is not an ordinary day, but a festival exclusive to women, a large-scale carnival of celebration, thinking and action.
Let's travel through the fog of time and back to the beginning of the twentieth century, a time when women began to pursue equality. The origins of Women's Day can be traced back to New York City in 1908, when women began to stand up and chant the slogans of equality and justice like a wave of anger.
During the coal miners' strike, a group of brave New York women workers took to the streets, calling for the will to improve working conditions and build a more humane social system.
This strike opened a glorious chapter in the international struggle for women's rights, and it was this wave that gave birth to the original intention of Women's Day at the International Women's Conference in 1910.
On March 8, 1911, Valdē celebrated this unique day for the first time, when thousands of women took to the streets to call for participation in decision-making, the right to vote, the protection of labor rights, and equal educational opportunities.
It was a women-led social revolution, a movement that stormed the world and brought together women across the globe to inspire a whole new face of society.
Time flies, and today's Women's Day is no longer a simple event, but has transformed into a grand occasion for celebration and reflection. People around the world have different opinions and ways of celebrating the holiday.
In some places, the day is seen as a day of praise and admiration for women, and some people give flowers, gifts, and expressions of respect and gratitude to women.
In other countries, people are more inclined to arouse social attention to this issue through issues such as gender equality and women's rights.
Women's Day is not only a one-day celebration, but also a platform to showcase women's achievements. Various events, such as symposiums, art performances, sharing by female leaders, and exhibitions of women entrepreneurs, all promote the wisdom and power of women.
The voices of women come together to form a moving symphony, which makes people deeply feel the unique contribution of women in social development. Although some people think that this festival is too commercial, we should see that the celebration of this day is a necessary way to show the world the value of women.
They expect more lasting and tangible action to make gender equality more than a momentary fireworks display, but an eternal engine for social progress. For these old sayings, which are regarded as "38", women may wish to look at them with an open-minded attitude, such as the sentence "How much have you learned from a girl's family?" ”
Such outdated rhetoric may simply be a manifestation of some people's stubborn adherence to traditional ideas. It's also a good idea to look at it in a humorous way, or to be sarcastic, and to see such colloquialisms as the laughing stock of the times.
After all, if you look at life with ease, who can pull you into the water?
Women should insist on independent thinking, maintain self-confidence, and should not be bound by feudal clichés. The notion that "a girl should marry" or "a girl should be a lady" is just an outdated concept of the old times, and modern women are free to pursue their careers and studies without restrictions.
Choosing your own lifestyle and pursuing your dreams is the most important task for women. Women should have independent talents and inner virtues, and not just become vassals of the family.
As for the term "38", it refers to the beginning.
The three days of eighteen, eighteenth and twenty-eighth. The ancients attached great importance to the eight characters of birth, believing that they predicted a person's fate.
They pay particular attention to the "eight days" of each month, which is the beginning of the month.
Eight, eighteen, and twenty-eight, it is believed that boys and girls born in these three days have a unique personality.
Boys born on these three days are considered to have irresistible good fortune. They have a strong character, have extraordinary momentum, and are born to be reading materials, and are expected to stand out in the imperial examination, become the champion, and achieve fame and fortune.
Many prominent leaders and learned scholars in history were born on these three days, which is a testament to the importance of these three days for boys.
In the girl born in these three days, the ancients saw a unique temperament, a spirit of independence and perseverance. They believe that such a girl is too rigid and may have difficulties in married life.
However, this is not to say that they cannot be happy. On the contrary, they can find their own happiness through their own efforts.