01 Give yourself a sense of security and confidence.
We often think that we need to be given a sense of security.
We try to get enough energy from our loved ones or our partners to reassure us.
But this sense of security cannot be maintained for long.
When you lack courage and self-confidence, you can only get these things through the outside world.
Then you have a little less confidence to be yourself.
There are some parents who always teach their daughters how to marry a partner who is happy.
They always impose their own experiences and life insights on their children.
And fundamentally, he is just constantly pushing his children to the margins.
In fact, in this world, there are many things that cannot be judged by fairness.
But there are some things that we can make our own decisions.
We can only find security from within, not from within.
Your own heart is your longest-lasting partner.
The sense of security gained by clinging to others and through others always makes us feel like we are suffering from gains and losses.
Is it really to find the other half just to get an economic foundation from them, and there is still enough material security?
So how do we balance the relationship with what we get from them?
While we demand security from others, we are also constantly demeaning ourselves.
We don't think we're capable enough to give ourselves security.
But the sense of security given to you by others, are you really confident enough to last long?
When you don't feel secure, how do you deal with yourself?
02 Delayed gratification.
There are many things in life, and it is not always perfect now.
But these things are constantly developing for the better.
And only if we can take the time to wait for these things.
We work hard to spend more time with our families.
If we want to have a peaceful life, then we have to work hard for ourselves to have enough material foundation.
Inner satisfaction is often placed after life satisfaction.
Because the basic life is difficult to maintain, how can we pursue the poetic distance in our hearts?
So life just sets up some more levels for our satisfaction.
We won't get what we want so quickly, and we won't live the life we want so quickly.
But these things we want, these things we want to live, the life we want to live will one day be ours.
Those bright future days are worth the wait.
Don't always complain about where we are now, because this is the way we want to live.
What we need is a heart of patience that waits for the flowers to bloom.
While waiting for the flowers to bloom, we can also keep creating some beautiful moments for ourselves.
There is no expectation to wait for the satisfaction of this delay.
03 Planning should be realistic.
Planning for the future is a necessary way for us to live a satisfying life.
Life is always disorganized, and it needs to be taken care of by ourselves.
No one can fully provide us with a satisfactory template for life.
Because there is no such thing as an accurate answer in life.
You envy him for having a good life, but there are some unsatisfying aspects of his life.
It is also possible that others have experienced these hardships before they have ushered in the beautiful life they have today.
And why should we omit these links?
All the things we have experienced, we have to believe, and that is the best for us.
The possibility of getting rich overnight is always slim, but it is conceivable to slowly accumulate and live a prosperous life.
Determine what we want to do in the future, and repeatedly ask ourselves what our hearts are pursuing.
Starting from the heart, you always have to plan for the future, and these plans are in line with your own state of mind.
Our lives have their own looks, and we don't need to refer to anyone's templates.
Life also needs this sense of adventure that is constantly groping.
04 Feel it, don't hear about it.
Since we can receive a lot of information now, we can always listen to other people's thoughts.
When we're going to travel somewhere, we keep making some preparations.
We often look at what others say about this place and then decide whether to go to it or not.
The same place where some people think they find a beautiful view, while others think it's boring.
We are always in a whirlpool of constant listening.
Whoever says the food they have discovered, who will debunk this lie.
We have no way of knowing who is telling the truth.
If we really want to do something, don't always hear about other people's experiences.
We should refer more to our own hearts.
Once we have this idea, we should not easily extinguish the flame of this idea.
Life always needs us to experience it constantly so that we can get our own ideas from it.
The scenery that anyone has seen is their own, and our scenery should be explored by ourselves.