When visiting during the Spring Festival, you must understand the sophistication of people and empathize, otherwise, it will cause misunderstanding!
My mom complained to me that she didn't like the kind of people who came to the house with a big family and had to stay all day, and didn't think about anyone else.
Yesterday, my mother's former colleague, the relationship was okay, yesterday morning it was close to 11 o'clock, said that she went to two grandchildren and a granddaughter to come over to play for a while.
At 11 o'clock, it was a little too late to go to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, so I took out all the dishes of the day that I had bought in the morning, and made four dishes and a soup.
My mother told her colleague that it was really too late, so she would make four dishes and one soup, and my colleague was not picky, the child was 15 years old, a 10-year-old, and a six-year-old, and he ate very deliciously, and he ate it all, and there was nothing left.
After cleaning up, it was half past one in the afternoon, and after chatting for a while, it was past two o'clock, my mother was already taking a nap at this time, and my colleagues were not too embarrassed to go to bed, and my mother had no choice, so she had to accompany her.
The three children, together, took the mobile phone to play games, the voice was also loud, chatting until the afternoon was close to five o'clock, the colleague had no intention of leaving, my mother wanted to get up and go out to buy vegetables, the colleague said, now the weather is cold, let's go out to eat, my mother also feels tired, so go out to eat.
My colleague said to eat a soup pot, hot, almost six o'clock, I went downstairs not far from the restaurant that eats a soup pot, many people, the New Year, a lot of treats, looking at the ** on the menu, up 20% more than usual, my mother did not ask colleagues already, just ordered the dish, the child wanted to drink noisily, and ordered a large bottle of Coke.
After eating, almost half past seven, the checkout was 620 yuan, five people, my mother was so distressed, now the business is very difficult, more than 600 yuan, most of the living expenses of my parents and parents.
After eating, I went to the house to play until half past nine, and my mother began to clean up, my mother was a little clean, and she had to clean the house, and it was almost 12 o'clock after cleaning up.
My mother said that she didn't like to go to a relative's house the most, and she didn't want to disturb others for fear of causing trouble.
Originally, it was the New Year, temporarily hit ** to other people's homes, did not prepare dishes, so that I was afraid of disrespect or disattention to others, if I could leave after eating, so as not to disturb others, instead of relying on not leaving, staying overnight is not wanted, if you can live in a hotel is the best.
My cousin did a good job at this, yesterday afternoon to call **, said to come back to see my mother, cousin is 37 years old this year, working in Shenzhen Huawei, staggered back to reunite, he has arrived at the uncle's house yesterday, ready to visit my house today, because he brought his wife and two children back together, he did not live in his own home, lived in a hotel in Guang'an City, very convenient.
Came to my house at ten o'clock this morning, brought two bottles of wine to my dad, bought a box of cherries, and some snacks and the like, very polite, two children are eight years old, one is four years old, the first time to go back to their hometown, very sensible, did not play with mobile phones, but is very curious about many things, chatting learned that my cousin has been promoted, although I am still very tired, but Huawei's salary is still very fragrant, and I bought a house in Shenzhen.
After eating at noon, after chatting for half an hour, I took my leave, and my mother took the initiative to stay until the evening for dinner, but my cousin felt that he couldn't bother anymore because he was very tired from cooking and washing dishes, so he still said goodbye.
My mother gave 400 yuan of New Year's money for each child, and the children were also very happy, and invited my mother to Shenzhen to play, which was very polite.
From the comparison of the two guests, although the cousin is very polite, but this is the minimum action as a guest, we must always empathize, otherwise, we are all self-centered, and in the end the relatives are still disgusted, and the feelings are diluted, which is originally an unintentional move, but in the eyes of others, there will be some problems, so when visiting relatives and friends, we must stand in the position of others and think about it.
When you go to someone's house, try not to disturb you too much, what do you think?