There is a saying that does not say "women should be self-reliant", but this sentence does not seem so appropriate to Xu Xiaofeng.
Why? This superstar in the music industry, who has become famous in the last century, has conquered the hearts of countless people with a natural voice, proved her strength with the glory of the peak of her singing career, and showed her noble sentiments with her deep love for the motherland.
But even so, she has not been emotionally tortured on the road of life, and has chosen to give up love to insist on her beliefs.
Today, at the age of 75, she is still alone.
Doesn't this singer, who was once loved by everyone, deserve a happy marriage?
In 1978, after experiencing a downturn in the previous years, the Hong Kong entertainment industry seemed to be waiting for a person to appear and lead everyone out of the predicament.
Unexpectedly, in the end, the first to break out of the encirclement was a little girl who was not yet 20 years old - she was Xu Xiaofeng.
Perhaps, you will wonder how a fledgling little girl can become the city's attention in just one year? In fact, before that, Xu Xiaofeng was not a daughter born in an entertainment family.
On the contrary, she comes from an ordinary family, but she has shown an amazing singing voice since she was a child.
At the age of 16, she even won an amateur singing competition.
The excitement and confidence of winning the first place overwhelmed the opposition of his family, and Xu Xiaofeng chose to become a nightclub singer without hesitation.
At first, the family did not support it, but with a pair of beautiful voices, Xu Xiaofeng quickly caused a sensation in the nightclub.
It didn't take long for a scout from a major record label to set her sights on her.
The decision not to renew the contract after the expiration of two years made Xu Xiaofeng understand that he should not be firmly controlled by the company.
From signing the contract in 1976 to the expiration of the contract in 1978, Xu Xiaofeng published two personal ** in just two years.
One of the most successful ones is called "Lou", and the title song "Selling Rice Balls" almost made her famous in one fell swoop.
This classic ballad about a little girl selling rice balls in the Chinese New Year's Eve is simple and beautiful, full of Chinese flavor.
It not only swept Hong Kong, but also set off a "selling dumplings" craze at home and abroad.
With her first successful experience, Xu Xiaofeng began to think about her future.
She understands that if she wants to gain a foothold in this glamorous and competitive circle, she must work harder.
Therefore, she began to take the initiative to ask to join the performance of various variety shows, and also took over the filming, and after a blockbuster, she was in the limelight, and her career reached the first small peak around 1980.
Following the popularity of "Selling Tangyuan" all over the country, Xu Xiaofeng has launched several popular golden songs.
For example, "Earth Love", which describes the landscape of southern China, "The Ballad of the Great Wall", which takes the style of Chinese folk songs to the extreme, and "Downstream and Backward Current", which won the Golden Melody Award for her again.
During this period, Xu Xiaofeng began to experiment with different styles of creation and interpretation, and she wanted to break her own framework and let the public see her different side.
For example, "Heart Love", which integrates Western style, and "Bright Moon Sends Lovesickness", which perfectly combines Hong Kong minor key and English songs.
These two songs not only became one of her masterpieces, but also gave Xu Xiaofeng a unique opportunity to sing in the form of recording and broadcasting in the Spring Festival Gala in 1989.
In fact, earlier, the Spring Festival Gala Organizing Committee wanted to invite the popular singer Xu Xiaofeng to come to the gym.
But due to time conflicts, she was unable to travel to Beijing to record the show.
What is surprising is that the Spring Festival Gala still made an exception in the form of a videotape, so that Xu Xiaofeng's singing voice spread to thousands of households.
This is undoubtedly a high affirmation of her talent, and it is also a pinnacle embodiment of Hong Kong singers standing on China's highest literary stage.
1992 was the glorious peak of Xu Xiaofeng's acting career.
This year, she set a new record for the highest solo singer in Hong Kong, and held 43 solo concerts in a row, which is unprecedented.
Popular singers, TV celebrities, and successful people in the business world all compete to take photos with her.
There are even rumors that Xu Xiaofeng can earn hundreds of millions of Hong Kong dollars at the box office and is worth hundreds of millions.
When their careers were in full swing, the news that Xu Xiaofeng and her boyfriend Liao Hui announced their engagement was undoubtedly a sensation.
For her, who has always been low-key, it is really a rare move to disclose her feelings.
However, just half a year later, the rumors of their breakup quickly spread - it turned out that Liao Hui wanted Xu Xiaofeng to give up his Chinese nationality and immigrate to the United States with him.
And Xu Xiaofeng firmly chose his beliefs, and would rather end this relationship than leave the career and country he loves.
We often say that career and love are like two ends of the scale, and it is not easy to have both.
Xu Xiaofeng faced such a choice in 1992, and finally she resolutely gave up love, but the reward was an unprecedented sense of achievement and the realization of self-worth.
In fact, before and after the breakup, ** also captured the scandal between Xu Xiaofeng and Hong Kong businessman Zheng Jinghan.
Of course, we have no way of knowing if it's really a relationship.
But what is certain is that Xu Xiaofeng only made his relationship with Liao Hui public in the 20th century.
Therefore, it is not difficult for us to guess that she must be concerned about this matter, after all, the two sides have been together for so many years.
However, Liao Hui wanted to take her away from the motherland, which undoubtedly touched Xu Xiaofeng's deepest belief in her heart, so she did not hesitate to choose the latter between her feelings and the country.
We can see from this that Xu Xiaofeng's persistence and love in her bones, she has extraordinary feelings for the country that raised her.
It is precisely because she chose to repay the country and insisted on developing her career in China that Xu Xiaofeng reached another peak in her life after 1990 and established an unshakable position in the music world.
Is love a blessing or a curse? For Xu Xiaofeng, choosing to give up love is undoubtedly a loss.
But the spiritual satisfaction obtained from this is a great happiness for her.
Although she is still alone, we can feel the openness and confidence in her singing.
Love is ethereal, it comes vigorously when it comes, but it goes without nostalgia.
And the only things that can really stay with you forever are those that are born out of the heart and belong to yourself.
For Xu Xiaofeng, it is her persistent love for ** and the motherland.
It is this relationship that supports her to continue to shine after the emotional change and achieve her success today.
After the 90s of the 20th century, Xu Xiaofeng chose to fade out of the spotlight and no longer appeared as frequently as before.
In fact, she began to get involved in the real estate industry as early as the peak of her career, investing heavily in high-end properties in the Yangtze River Delta and Pearl River Delta.
Over the years, Xu Xiaofeng has gained a lot from this "cash cow", and Xu Xiaofeng has long been well-off.
Some people say that artists in their bones are inseparable from the stage.
Therefore, even though he has faded out of the entertainment industry for many years, 75-year-old Xu Xiaofeng still chose to make a brief appearance at a theatrical gala in 2023.
Under the beautiful singing, countless big names in the entertainment industry took photos with her, which shows her cohesion and influence in the circle.
Those former juniors and new generations still worship her as a role model.
Today's Xu Xiaofeng has a double harvest of wealth and career on the rich side.
But even though she has gained money and achievements, she still lacks a soulmate in her heart.
We can't comment on whether her choice to give up love back then was wise, but at least for the moment, Xu Xiaofeng is happy and content.
She doesn't need to rely on anyone to define her existence, and continues to appreciate the wonders of this life with a pure heart.
An endless song, an endless story.
75 years of time have left too many legends on Xu Xiaofeng, she has conquered countless hearts with her strength and feelings, and has also experienced vicissitudes on the road of feelings.
As the pioneer and founder of the Hong Kong music scene back then, she has accumulated too many wonderful moments for this era.
Today's Xu Xiaofeng is no longer the golden queen of the past, but the drive and charm in her bones have never faded.
In her, we see not only a superstar in the music world, but also a legend that is enough to be talked about by future generations.
No matter how the years change, Xu Xiaofeng's love for ** and life is worth learning and remembering for everyone.