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If people are wrong, don't expose them; People have secrets, don't say anything.
The contradictions of life come from interpersonal communication;
And the root cause of interpersonal problems can be attributed to poor communication.
No matter where people with high emotional intelligence are, they can make people feel like they are moisturizing things in the spring rain, and they will suddenly feel close.
On the other hand, people with low emotional intelligence can be offensive and avoid it as soon as they speak.
Sometimes a random comment you throw out may set off a huge wave in the hearts of others.
Your seemingly unintentional ridicule may be the sharp needle that pierces into the hearts of others;
What you think of as humor,Maybe it was shattered inadvertently
The dignity and self-confidence that the other party has worked so hard to build.
When he was young, Xu Zheng was such an object of ridicule.
Just when he was young and enthusiastic, he began to face a lot of hair loss.
So he tried to save himself with various methods, such as applying ginger juice to stimulate the scalp, and then using a brush to dip the hair growth essence into it and apply it carefully.
Looking back on that painful experience, he said, compared to the panic and embarrassment caused by hair loss
What made his heart hurt even more was the cynicism from the people around him.
Every time the process is **, there will be people watching, pointing at him, and making so-called ridicule with jokes.
Some people will scoff: "Do you think this table will also grow hair?" ”
Another person scoffed and said, "Just look at his head now to see how effective it is, and it's not very good." ”
These words, which are ostensibly humorous but are actually full of sarcasm, have made him sink in the shadow of hair loss for a long time, and his self-esteem has been damaged.
Cultivation and self-cultivation are not hypocritical, and deliberately embarrassing others is by no means honest and straightforward, and there is a clear line between the two.
True humor, always based on respect for others, makes people feel light-hearted.
Instead of belittling others in the name of humor, exposing their shortcomings, and rubbing salt on their scars.
Treating meanness as humor can ruin the atmosphere at best, hurt people at worst, and may even lead to a breakdown of the relationship.
We should learn to express our opinions tactfully and think more from the perspective of others.
In this way, we can avoid putting each other in an awkward situation, and then gain good interpersonal relationships.
There is a hot topic on Douban:Which behaviors are recognized as signs of low emotional intelligence.
Among the many options, such as excessive self, not on the outside.
First, the language is harsh, etcThe act of "pointing fingers" is at the top of the list.
In real life, there is always a type of person who likes to be a "passer-by".
Judge other people's lives in every detail.
Their mantras tend to be: "Listen to me", "You should do this", "You're not doing the right thing".
Others are deeply uncomfortable with this, and they are smug and unaware.
Imagine the elders who urge young people to get married and have children as soon as they meetIs it often silently blocked by your children?
Look at those who are keen to meddle in the choices of their friends and play the role of life coaches at every turn, do they finally find that their friends are becoming more and more estranged?
The most taboo thing to do in interactions between adults is to overly interfere in the field of other people's lives.
If you are proud, your personal experience may not be suitable for everyone;
If you are in a mediocre situation, chattering will only make people feel that the level is not high.
Rushing to show others the way, hoping to earn respect, can end up being resentful.
Remember, don't be too active in other people's worlds, and don't be too instructive about other people's livesRestrain the urge to be a good teacher in order to avoid destroying a harmonious relationship with your friends.
Sharing is to sow warmth in the community of life;
Showing off is like trying to live in the praise of others.
In life, we also meet people who are willing to show their self-achievement everywhere.
They share their happiness, show their wealth accumulation, and boast of their knowledge and ......
Excessive show-off is often resentful of others.
Know how to hide your edge at the right time so as not to inadvertently sting others or attract unnecessary competition.
As the saying goes,"The wood is beautiful in the forest, and the wind will destroy it".
Growth that is too high or too fast is easy to attract attention, and it is also easy to attract unexpected shocks.
Therefore,Being a man should be like warm and moist flowing water, subtle and introverted, and indisputable with the world
In this way, interpersonal relationships can remain harmonious for a long time, like a trickle that nourishes all things without fighting.
In real life, there are always some people who can make people speechless with just a few words.
You emphasize the importance of a healthy diet, but he retorts: some people eat and fish every day, and they don't live a long life.
You said that you should continue to learn and progress while you are young, and he sneered: No matter how well you learn, you can't compare to having a good background.
No matter what other people say, these people are always quick to sing the opposite tune and enjoy it.
They consider themselves witty and unique in their arguments, but in the eyes of onlookers, they are only bitter and perverse.
Someone once sighed in the comments on the Internet:"I used to have a friend like that, but I'm no longer a friend. ”
Those who are accustomed to raising the bar always try to compete for the high and low in the relationship, but they don't know that it is easy to lose the precious friendship.
Everyone has their own opinions and valuesRaising the bar too much will only exacerbate the rift in the relationship and exhaust oneself physically and mentally.
No matter what happens, you have to distinguish between right and wrong, and if you go on like this, you will be the one who suffers after all.
In the long run, it is tantamount to cutting off one's own back road and isolating oneself.
Tap to follow and stay away from suicidal socializing.
Living in the Low Ground (Deep Beauty).