Someone who is unwavering by your side
When you win, they will stand behind you and watch you silently;
When you lose, they come to you as soon as possible to help you cope with the pressure and channel your emotions.
The older you get, the more you can feel a truth:
When I was young, my friends and lovers who promised to "keep getting better" parted ways halfway.
And the person who is not good at talking, does not like promises, and even has some wooden words, will accompany you for a long time.
In this life, people will meet many people;
Some people flatter you and change cups;
Some show up when you win and step on a few feet when you lose.
There are only a handful of people who are firmly with you, no matter what situation you are in.
This is trust, dependence, and security;
Whether you are a lover or a friend, if you can do this, it is worth making friends for a lifetime.
Someone who is willing to "give you a slap in the face".
In interpersonal relationships, you can often meet these people:
If you make a fool of yourself and do something wrong, the people around you will follow and watch the excitement;
Some people will "praise you", and those who follow the coaxing will guide you to continue to make mistakes.
You win, you start to float, you are proud;
The people around you don't remind you, they "kill you".
How enthusiastic he is for you on the surface, how cold he is for you in private;
He is not happy to see that you are doing well;
Seeing that you are not doing well, he jumped happily behind his back.
What are the characteristics of a friend who is truly worthy of your deep friendship?
When you get a little bit of a score and you are fluttering, he will give you a slap in the face;
It humbles you, restores your sanity, and makes you make fewer mistakes.
When you become famous, others treat you like "the emperor's new clothes";
Pretending, flattering, socializing.
Only he will oversee you and always speak the truth;
As angry as you are, you know that only they will tell you this.
People who are willing to tell you the truth, maybe some words will make you uncomfortable;
But calm down and look at it, pull you when you make mistakes, remind you when you are proud, this is true friend.
The one who gives you "charcoal in the snow".
In socializing, there is an unspoken rule:
It's easy to put the icing on the cake, but it's hard to send charcoal in the snow.
Most people can do the icing on the cake;
You are valuable and can bring them some benefits, then they will be the icing on the cake for you.
Such a relationship only stops at the surface.
People who are willing to "send charcoal in the snow" to you are true friends.
When you are soaring, you are surrounded by friends and kindness;
Behind the goodwill, it is all calculation, all hypocrisy.
And when you are in trouble, you can see the "character" clearly;
Those who have enjoyed your benefits, when they see you falling, quickly stay away;
Only true friends will pull you along.
Think about it another way:
People will be more impressed by the people who "send charcoal in the snow";
No matter how long it has passed, remember this kindness.
And for the painless "icing on the cake", not many people care.
Whether a person is worthy of your deep friendship depends on whether he will pull you along.
Isn't a good relationship just "trouble with each other"?
If you trouble me, I will trouble you;
You helped me, and I will find an opportunity to help you.
People may not like to socialize, but they must have friends who are "worth making for a lifetime".
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