How to get along with children, the wisdom of the elderly.
As we grow older, it becomes even more important to get along with our children. This period may not be as long as it was when we were younger, so we need to approach our relationship with our children in a more intelligent way. Below, let's take a look at some wisdom in dealing with children.
1.Enrich your body.
Staying in good physical condition is the most important thing. If your physical condition allows, try to share some household chores or other chores for your children, which is not only a physical exercise, but also an affirmation of your physical condition. But be careful, do things willingly, and don't complain afterwards, which will only backfire.
2.Respect your child's independent life.
The children have grown up and have their own lives and responsibilities. Don't interfere too much in their lives and let them grow independently. After all, meddling will only strain the relationship between each other.
3.Family is a place of love and inclusion.
Family is a place of tolerance and understanding, and it is not necessary to worry about it at home, but to learn to tolerate each other and create a warm family atmosphere together.
4.Proper distancing is a sensible move.
For two generations, proper distancing is necessary. Consider living separately to maintain independence and support each other when needed.
5.Take care of yourself and don't interfere too much in your children's lives.
As much as we care about our children, we also remember to take care of ourselves. Don't interfere too much in your children's lives and give each other some space and freedom.
6.Care for grandchildren.
When it comes to the care of grandchildren, you can do your best, but don't force it. Children have their own lives and responsibilities, and we should not rely too much on them.
7.Respect your daughter-in-law.
When getting along with your daughter-in-law, you should respect their feelings and rights, and do not interfere or criticize them excessively, so as not to cause unnecessary conflicts.
8.Proper direction.
In the family, it is appropriate to instruct the son or daughter to do something, but it should not be overly dependent or instruct the daughter-in-law or son-in-law.
9.Communicate rationally.
When dealing with your children, you can communicate rationally, but don't repeat the same points of view so as not to backfire.
10.Maintain dignity.
In the family, you should maintain your dignity and do not joke or lose your seniority.
11.Stay in moderation.
If you are going to your daughter's house, you should pay attention to staying in moderation and not causing them inconvenience or stress.
12.Deal with conflicts between children.
When there is a conflict between children, as an elder, you should remain neutral and not take sides, so as not to exacerbate the conflict.
13.Pull oneself up by one’s bootstraps.
Trying to solve problems on your own as much as possible and not relying too much on your children will not only maintain your self-esteem, but also reduce the burden on your children.
14.Show concern at the right time.
Although it is necessary to care for your children, it is also necessary to pay attention to the manner and timing, and not to express it excessively, so as not to cause stress or resentment.
15.Remain independent.
As long as you can do what you can, try not to rely on your children, and maintaining independence is an important manifestation of dignity.
16.Housework and private matters should not be publicized.
Matters within the family should be resolved privately, and no irresponsible remarks should be made outside, so as not to cause unnecessary misunderstandings or conflicts.
On the road to getting along with our children, we need to learn to respect each other, understand each other, and work together to create a harmonious and warm family atmosphere. May we all enjoy a happy time in a warm family.