The new year is coming, first of all, I would like to thank all of you for your continued support, I don't use the word "fan", because this word from English always has some idolatrous connotations, but I don't call myself an idol, because the relationship between writing and reading is not the relationship between idols and fans.
I have always believed that the identity of the creator and the reader is equal and rational, and the creator, like everyone else, is a vast number of beings, just to take out some views and thoughts to share with you, and to express some of the indescribable things that everyone recognizes in life in my language, so that everyone has a kind of "Eh, I also feel this way, so that's what happened".
The word "follower" contains this meaning, and what exists between the follower and the creator is only the exchange and recognition of opinions at a specific life stage, but there is no physical or mental attachment. Man is shaped by his history, so I may not be able to agree with the ideas I write down now three or five years later, so don't chase some ideas too much and be obsessed with the authors behind them, we just happen to collide with prejudice, and create a small and insignificant spark.
Having said that, in the new year, I wish you all a new year, pay more attention to exercise, invest in your own health is the current environment to make a profit and not lose money, the accumulated cash assets may be diluted by inflation, fixed assets are also facing the risk of depreciation, only health is the most reliable guarantee to resist all risks.
Recently, I chatted with people, and I had some new feelings, there is an office worker with a monthly salary of more than 20,000 yuan, he told me that he never plays with people who are poorer than himself, the reason is that he will become poor when he is with poor people, and only by playing with rich people can he be richer. The poor themselves are very poor, and their vision and vision must be very narrow, and if you play with them for a long time, you can't learn any ways and means to make money, and you will only get poorer. At first glance, it seems to make some sense.
But if you think about it, you can see the loopholes. The control of capital over people, dividing people into different groups of people according to the amount of wealth, everyone only plays with people with similar amounts of wealth, and further, the scope of our friendship is limited to people with similar status around us, and the result is that there is a growing information gap and huge communication costs between people of different classes, and people of different classes are increasingly unable to understand and trust each other, and wealth will always flow only within the rich class, and will never trickle down. You can refer to that road to modernization|The price of the working class's promotion to the middle class is that they have to pay off their debts to the banks for the rest of their lives. The result is the solidification of class, dragons give birth to dragons, phoenixes give birth to phoenixes, and the children of mice will make holes, which will no longer be a metaphor. 
If the whole society upholds this concept, it is natural to think that wealth should be the only criterion for choosing friends, and making money as the only purpose of approaching others, and regard it as a guideline. I don't know what kind of impact it will have on our society, our social ideals, the divinity and humanity of human beings, the poetry, love, and art we talk about will become a laughing stock.
Look at our education market, marriage and love market, from an early age, primary school students are divided into different groups according to housing prices and school district housing, the children of the wealthy class are concentrated in some aristocratic schools, international schools, 985 master's and doctoral students are recruited to provide them with compulsory education services, and the socialist builders from all walks of life who are trained by using state resources have become vassals of the bourgeoisie.
Looking at the marriage data, the National Bureau of Statistics can find the crude marriage rate in China in recent years, in the last row of **. The crude marriage rate is calculated by dividing the number of people aged 15 and over who are married by the number of people in the same age group and multiplying it by 1,000. From 2013 to 2020, the crude marriage rate increased year by year. The crude divorce rate is also increasing overall, with fewer and fewer people getting married and more and more people getting married.
China's urbanization continues to absorb resources and labor from rural and underdeveloped areas, a large number of people have migrated, the traditional rural social structure has been broken, and more and more migrant workers, including young white-collar workers, students and migrant workers, have left their hometowns and come to a completely unfamiliar society. Many people have taken a fancy to this part of the demand to start this business, the hand of the market and capital began to intervene, and the thank you fee traditionally handed over to the matchmaker has become a marriage introduction fee with a clear price, an intermediary fee, and the matchmaker has also become a matchmaker teacher, not only as a hub for information exchange and circulation, but also to provide so-called emotional counseling services, teach you how to date, how to chat, until the final marriage to help take pictures, even if it is done, the contract is fulfilled.
When matching, you need to know your personal information and needs, including the garage and salary level, of course, and the marriage agent certainly understandsMatching the economic level is the basis of marriageThis can help you find quickly, of course, in addition to removing feelings, the external conditions are most in line with the person you think of her, helping you save a lot of time, of course, it is not cheap, and the service fee may generally be a month's salary. After filling out the questionnaire and assessment, the final bargaining session begins, and the marriage agency will paint a beautiful picture, show you their success stories, and tell you that a month's salary can be exchanged for a lifelong partner, as well as a happy life in the second half of your life, how worthwhile! **It's okay to want to be lower, but the number of people of the opposite sex and the service time introduced to you will shrink, and if you don't like or succeed in every blind date within a month, then there is no way.
So what's wrong with this model?
Such a model may seem like a wider range of choices for urban wage earners, but in reality the proliferation of choices can lead to disorientation, killing the possibility of stable marriages.
In fact, the more widespread phenomenon is that most people don't know what they want, don't know what they want from marriage, but under the pressure of worrying that they won't find a good partner the later they get, they find a marriage partner at marriageable age that both parents are satisfied with, and they have no feelings? It doesn't matter, you can cultivate it slowly after marriage. What did you say? Are you looking for a soul mate? Mom and Dad met on a blind date at the time, and they have lived together for so long, isn't it good to live together?
If you think about it, there's a problem. If any two people can slowly cultivate their relationship after getting married, then how can there be so many people divorced.
In addition, this kind of dating company will generally attract traffic through some dating software, and you can also slowly understand it yourself through the software, or you can find them to quickly match. Spending some money to save you time, right? But if you think about it, you will find the trap behind this, the speed and convenience of obtaining information on the Internet has made software a fully competitive market, in which you can always find better quality people than your current friends, whether it is family background, education, income, living standard and so on. There are countless choices with a swipe of the eye, and the convenience and almost zero cost of making friends make us have little time to get to know each other in depth, and we can only speculate on each other's lives through simple information labels, and love is becoming more and more superficial.
Advertising and marketing to the public ** makes love more and more materialized and commoditized, "love him will take her to eat Häagen-Dazs", "diamonds are eternal, one will last forever", love has gone to its opposite, from mutual fulfillment to a kind of argument that needs to be constantly carried out through sacrifice, deviating from the precious life emotions of human beings and becoming a moment of pleasure measured by commodity **. The looting of the human spiritual world by the logic of capital multiplication has changed people's hearts, wrongly relieved people's desire for love, and blinded people's understanding of love.
Whether you admit it or not, man is a creature that can easily become obsessed with sunk costs. In a completely adequate competition in all dimensions, everyone is doomed to lose. Men and women who are frustrated on the dating platform turn to a marriage and love agency and use a month's salary as a sunk cost to force themselves and the other party to spend time and effort to understand each other carefully, so as to achieve the so-called success rate in the mouth of the matchmaker. Falling in love and the pursuit of happiness has become an important but not urgent thing, and even when it becomes urgent, it seems that it can be easily obtained by paying money and buying dating services. However, when we sit face-to-face at the negotiation table at the marriage agency, love is no longer present.
But I have always believed that mankind's long-standing pursuit of sincere emotions can transcend the low-level pleasures of the glamorous and pan-entertainment era of commodity markets. Human beings in each era face different oppression and exploitation, not only from other human beings, but also from the alienated, objectified, and institutionalized self-contained human system logic, such as the patriarchal hierarchical etiquette of feudalism, and the exploitation and competition of the free market. But human beings in every era, at least some of them, have had the same sincere feelings. But what we have to consider is whether the love in our mouth is real love, and true love must have its transcendent side, enough for a person to love beyond its class attributes, cultural taboos, and mental trauma. It is also in this sense that true love in every era is so rare and precious.
I have read a saying that since the invention of clocks, there has been no eternity in human life. The time-measuring machine invented by man has in turn controlled human beings, thinking about their weekend life, without the constraints of clocks, eating when hungry, resting when tired, and not mechanically pulling away from one activity and quickly devoting themselves to another under the impetus of the clock. Imagine the life of human beings before the advent of companies and factories, there are various ways to make a living, farming with land, fishing by the sea, relying on the mountains to eat the mountains, relying on the water to draft, street performers, craftsmen, rich and poor, they all have control over their own lives, and the employment relationship created by the capital coming to the world, the production of surplus value outside the socially necessary labor time behind the eight-hour working day, has changed all this, and people have lost the exploration and creation of eternal life emotions in the experience of human relations in the performance of life. It is an opportunity to deal with the relationship between man and nature and the harmony of all things in the work of life.
Finally, to quote a passage from Marx's Communist Manifesto: The bourgeoisie has destroyed all feudal, patriarchal and idyllic relations where he has already gained domination, he has drowned the sacred onset of religious piety, chivalric zeal, and petty citizen sentimentality in the icy waters of self-interested intentions, he has turned human dignity into exchange value, and has replaced countless chartered and self-earned freedoms with a kind of freedom without conscience. Blatant exploitation replaces exploitation concealed by religious and political fantasies.
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