Being loved is always conditional, even for the closest parents. After work, we realized that our parents were also realistic, and when we got ahead, our parents would feel proud of the light on their faces, and they also loved us in every way. On the other hand, if the child is "unproductive", parents usually feel that they have lost money, and the time and energy they have invested have been wasted.
If there is more than one child in the family, the difference in parents' attitudes towards the child will be more pronounced. Those children who learn well and earn more often receive more love and attention from their parents, while children with poor learning and poor economic conditions are often ignored by their parents and even make them feel cold.
I remember the days when I was still financially dependent on my parents, and they often scolded me and used me as an outlet to vent. But as I became financially independent, their attitudes changed 180 degrees. The more money I make, the better they treat me and the more they respect me.
At this time, I realized that parents are not actually as noble and great as we imagined, they also have their own pains and desires, they will also be hit and frustrated by reality, and will give in to reality at certain moments. Like others, they are ordinary people, and their love for children is not selfless, but has certain expectations and requirements.
When I realized that my parents were just ordinary people with their own requirements and expectations, I stopped expecting them to love me selflessly. I am also no longer a child who is completely obedient to them, I have my own thoughts, I have my own pursuits. They no longer love me unconditionally, and I no longer rely on their love. In my heart, there is no longer too much emotional internal friction.
Life has taught us that when a person has no money, even his family will dislike him. In the days when you are financially dependent on others, no matter how difficult the situation is, don't complain to anyone. Because no one will really help you, they will only step on you again when you are in the most difficult time. So, we need to work hard to make money and have our own life.
Children from poor families may be more likely to hate their parents. Because, parents will teach them to be self-reliant and rely on themselves in life, they will only give you the most basic needs of life. For the children of wealthy families, parents will provide the best education and have the broadest vision, and they will even give their children the best starting point with their careers. Their parents will be their most solid backing, so that they can feel safe and bold to do what they want to do.
Faced with such a situation, should we hate our parents? The answer is no. Because parents are human beings, and they are ordinary people, they also have the right to have their own choices and decisions, and they can also choose to love us or choose not to love us.
In short, parents are just human beings, and although their love for us may be conditional, they will also choose to love us and give everything for us. Then we should also have an understanding and acceptance of them, and do our best to love them, help them, and share the joys and pains of this life with them.