In relationships, the most important thing is the equality of personality. Only equality can produce respect, and only respect can make two people in the same position achieve each other. If one partner looks down on the other, then the relationship is out of balance, and no matter how good the previous relationship was, whether related by blood or not, it will cause the relationship to fall apart.
If a person often does the following things in front of you, he is actually looking down on you, and it is obvious that there is no need to be nostalgic, and your relationship has come to an end. A little new ideas every day, some new insights every day, welcome to subscribe to bamboo sinology.
A true friend is someone who is genuinely happy for you when you get good grades, while a false friend who is jealous of your good grades will question how you got this result, and he will even question your person, who will slander you, who looks down on you from the bottom of his heart, denies your power, and feels that you got this result in an improper way. For this kind of person, you don't have to explain too much, because they only see what they want to see, and even if you explain, he will think that you are sophistry.
From a vulgar joke to the deepest ** of human nature, this is the pain that many people will encounter in real life. A person looks down on others, treats others as "playthings" from the bottom of his heart, his eyes are full of contempt and disdain, and his speech is full of sarcasm and slander. When people fight back, they are called "careful eyes", confirming the "fake" dirt in their mouths, and if they do not refute, they are considered "wooden people". These people are "a fire on the surface, a knife in the secret", no matter how nice they say, no matter how noble excuses they make for sarcasm, they must show their attitude, or just talk, tear each other up, or ignore them and cut off contact.
As the saying goes, "Attitude is the clearest sign of how you perceive the status of others." "Whether it's communication between friends or other relationships, attitude determines a very important part. A sincere attitude is more likely to win the favor of others. At the same time, believe that no one likes to be left out and ignored. However, when there are people around him, his attitude towards others is very respectful, very careful, polite, enthusiastic and talkative, but your attitude is different, always dismissive of your existence, always a very perfunctory attitude, and even the eyes are contemptuous, which is enough to prove that you have no value in his heart.
In "Three Kingdoms", there is a paragraph about Cao Cao and Liu Bei's heroes in cooking wine, in real life we also have many situations where several people get together to chat and talk, and men often say some visions or ideas for the future, in such a situation, some individual people have contemptuous and disdainful expressions, I believe it is easy for you to capture. Faced with such a situation, you may have a bit of luck in your heart, you may think that it is just your own delusion or that you are too sensitive, please don't think like this, otherwise you will be embarrassed by the subsequent performance of this person. In interpersonal interactions, few people will slander to their faces, and usually, even if they are dissatisfied with the other party, they will save some face. Those who directly refute and insult others to their faces when expressing their opinions are undoubtedly contemptuous, not only contemptuous, but also angry.
In the face of such people, there is no need to try to resolve the "misunderstanding", because the so-called misunderstanding does not exist. While he tore his face, the relationship between them was already decided. Don't simply believe in "honest advice", "speak up", "don't treat you as an outsider" and so on. As the saying goes, "meet three points of love", is to learn to leave feelings for others, so that they can meet again later. Don't embarrass the other person. It's good for everyone. In the face of it, you not only need to "fight" yourself, but also need others to "give". And sometimes people in their hearts will be willing to give face to their equal people, while people who look down on them in their hearts will always not give face at any time.
If you have such a person around you, who always speaks and acts in front of others without taking into account your feelings, and always does not give you a little face, then this person looks down on you from the heart, so he goes to you everywhere and puts you in an even more embarrassing situation. You have to stay away from people like that.
If the person around you is always used to dictating to you, and once you do something that he is not happy with, he will immediately lose his temper, and he does not have a good face for you, then he is undoubtedly not worthy of you. This kind of person himself is very sick, he may never see his own shortcomings, he always looks for objective reasons when things happen, often finds fault with others, says that others are not good, and even bullies the weak. Then, if he treats you badly, it is very likely that you will feel that you can control it and can be bullied at will. Not only does such a person disrespect you, but the most fundamental thing is that he doesn't take you seriously and thinks that you are a punching bag that can vent his emotions at will. Remind you that you are kind and kind, and without such a person of bad qualities, there is no need to have anything to do with such a person.
People who look down on you will show off in front of you, directly or indirectly, and often the more people who look down on you have something, the more you have nothing, the more you will show off. Whether it's a contemptuous tone or an arrogant expression, you'll feel slighted. There are not a few similar people who think that the pain of others cannot set off their own happiness, and often stare at the shortcomings of others, cooperate with the means of suppression, hoping to make the other person feel ashamed. The more useless the other party, the more arrogant they are.
There are always weaknesses and strengths between people, such as the story of the camel and the sheep. If you deliberately use your own strengths to compete with others' weaknesses, it goes without saying that you look down on them, and you will lose the value of deep friendship. The depth of familiarity is not only self-inflicted, but also self-inflicted.
In front of the strong, people either respect and look up, or restrain their edge and pride. Only in front of people who look down on themselves will you expose your rudeness and shallowness, and show off your superiority, because these people think that you are not as rich as their natural face and knowledge, so you have to obediently listen to their big truths and brush your sense of existence. It is this sense of superiority that fascinates them. Respect and equality are the basic prerequisites for getting along with people. If someone else can't even do this, and still uses you as a target to vent and says a lot of nonsense to you, it can only mean that he has no quality and looks down on you.
When people are doing things that they are not interested in, they always want to end quickly, and with this emotion, people's behavior and thinking will also begin to cater to this desire to end things quickly, which is manifested as a cold attitude and simple speech and behavior, which is what we call impatience. For example, if you are talking to someone, and this person has obviously said a lot, and now he suddenly becomes very cold and does not reply to you, even if the reply is some perfunctory words, and even it is obvious from his answer that he does not understand what you are saying, then he must have a kind of disgust for you, at least at this time, there is. Therefore, at this time, you should take the initiative to retreat, which will increase some beautiful feelings.
When someone is with you and says something sarcastic to you, then such ways and means are looking down on you. In today's society, if people think you are capable, they won't treat you like that because they are afraid of offending you, and they know that offending you won't do them any good.
However, the reason why the other party adopts this attitude is because the other party is never afraid of you, and even a little provocative. When you meet this kind of person, don't go up and talk to the other person, because these are meaningless things, and it's better to ignore the other person. If you have more power than the other person, then at this time, you can make the other person taste the pain.
Someone who really treats you as a friend won't listen to what you say, but she will remember what you say. If a person always ignores you and doesn't take your words seriously, or you are not important to her, there is also a kind of friend, she is very good to her friend, and the friend's business is her business, but the friend doesn't take her seriously, then he looks down on you, and you don't have to ignore her, just ignore such a person.
Relationships between people, if they are full of calculations, will only make people physically and mentally exhausted, and if they are not honest, they can be tortured to get along with. This should be equal, honest and relative. Once you find that the other party is full of calculations and makes it difficult for you everywhere, then please stay away in time, there is no need to stick a cold ass with a hot face.
Someone said: "Don't underestimate anyone, he is not good now, it does not mean that he will be bad in the future, you are good, not necessarily you will always be so good, the world is always changing, and no one can go up and down in life." So, be born as a person and never look down on a person, because life is still very long, and no one knows what will happen in the next second. At the same time, we also need to stay away from those who look down on us, because these people are not good people in their bones, so being with such people will only make us like them.