A truly mature person is pleasing to the eye in everything
Wang Yangming, a thinker of the Ming Dynasty, once said: "There is nothing outside the heart in the world, and there is nothing outside the heart." The meaning of this sentence is that everything in the world is perceived, judged, and given meaning by our hearts. If our minds are peaceful, tolerant, and open, then we can see everything pleasing to the eye, which is a sign of maturity and a spiritual practice.
There is a story about a boy and a girl who met because of an accident. The boy is a narcissistic person who always feels that he is the most handsome, the smartest, and the most talented, and he looks down on anyone and does not want to communicate with anyone. The girl is an optimistic person, always feels that the world is beautiful, people are kind, she is kind to everyone, and she is happy to communicate with anyone. One day, they were on the bus, because of a sudden brake, the boy accidentally hit the girl, the girl's phone fell to the ground, and the screen shattered. The boy wanted to apologize, but when he saw the girl's appearance, he laughed and said, "You are so ugly, why do you use your mobile phone?" Aren't you afraid of scaring people? When the girl heard this, she was not angry or sad, she just smiled and said, "You are so handsome, why do you still talk with your mouth?" Aren't you afraid to take away other people's hearts? With that, she picked up her phone and got out of the car, leaving the boy with a look of surprise and embarrassment.
This story tells us that if you don't like others, it is because your own realm is not enough, and you must improve yourself and cultivate your own heart. Because of his conceit, the boy sees no good in others, only the shortcomings of others, his heart is full of contempt and jealousy, and his life has no color and pleasure. Because of her self-confidence, the girl sees the advantages of others and her own, her heart is full of appreciation and gratitude, and her life is also full of sunshine and happiness.
The maturity of a person lies in knowing how to examine oneself, not to treat others as oneself. During the Northern Song Dynasty, Sima Guang and Wang Anshi were two famous politicians and literati, they had different views in politics, Sima Guang advocated conservatism, Wang Anshi advocated change, they often argued in the court, but they respected each other and appreciated each other in private, and were called "the two great gentlemen of the court" by Song Shenzong. They are able to do this because they all have noble morals, they do not denigrate each other because of political differences, they do not think about themselves because of their own opinions, they can look at themselves and each other objectively, they can think from each other's point of view, and they can admit their own shortcomings and each other's strengths.
The story of Sima Guang and Wang Anshi tells us that if we know how to respect differences, our hearts will be wide, and our minds will be broad, and our hearts will be broad, and people will become mature. If we always judge others by our own standards and always judge others by our own preferences, then our hearts will become narrow, our eyes will become mean, our relationships will become strained, and our lives will become miserable.
Existence is reasonable, everything in the world must have a reason for its existence, we do not have to force consistency, as long as it does not violate laws and morals, we should respect their choice and existence. For example, some people are gay, some people are transvestites, their sexual orientation and the way they dress may be different from our habits, and even make us feel uncomfortable, but this does not mean that they are wrong, they are bad, they are also people with feelings, ideals, and pursuits, they are also people with rights, dignity, and value, and they are also part of this world, and they also add some color, some diversity, and some vitality to this world.
The example of homosexuality and transvestism tells us that "I don't like it" is not the same as "it's not good", and that if you have to "eliminate" things you don't approve of, it's not that you're too "self-centered." We should learn to tolerate, understand, and appreciate, not to use our own prejudices to limit the freedom of others, not to interfere with the happiness of others with our own preferences, and not to use our own standards to define the value of others.
There is a scenery in your heart, there is no right or wrong in front of you, what you think of in your heart, what you see is what you see, there is light in your eyes, and there is beauty as far as you can see; There are no flowers in the heart, and there is no difference between flowers and barrenness. This is a conversation between Su Shi and Foyin, Su Shi is a writer, Foyin is a Zen master, they saw a barren mountain field when they were on a tour of the mountains and rivers, Su Shi sighed: "This is really a desolate place, there is no life." But the Buddha Yin said, "What I see is a field of flowers, and countless lives are blooming. Su Shi was puzzled and asked, "How can you see the flowers?" It's a barren place. The Buddha Yin said, "Because I have flowers in my heart, I have flowers in my eyes, and you have no flowers in your heart, so you have no flowers in your eyes." ”
The dialogue between Su Shi and Buddha Yin tells us that people will inevitably encounter right and wrong when they walk in this world, and since it is unavoidable, how to solve it is very important, don't take other people's mistakes to heart, and don't pollute your heart because of others' mistakes. We should learn to let go, learn to forgive, learn to be grateful, not to let our hearts be occupied by negative emotions, but to fill our hearts with positive emotions, so that our hearts will become bright, our eyes will become clear, and our lives will become beautiful.
Seeing everything is pleasing to the eye, it is a kind of practice, get rid of obsessions, respect differences, and broaden your mind and horizons, so that you can have a variety of moods, see the ever-changing scenery, and have no right and wrong in your heart. It is a manifestation of maturity, a manifestation of wisdom, and a source of happiness. The ancients said: "Zi is not a fish, and the joy of knowing fish." "Everyone has their own different way of living, the world is colorful because of differences, look at people are not good, it's not that people are wrong, it's very likely that you can't understand, when we see things that we don't understand, don't approve, why not try to seek common ground while reserving differences?
We are all people living in this world, we all have our own joys and sorrows, we all have our own strengths and weaknesses, we all have our own dreams and pursuits, we all want to be understood and respected by others, and we all want to live the life we want. In that case, why don't we take our mindset to a higher level? Why not take a broader view? Why don't you broaden your mind? Why not elevate your personality to a more mature state?
There is nothing outside the heart in the world, and there is nothing outside the heart. This sentence is not only Wang Yangming's famous saying, but also our motto, our guide, and our goal. Let's work together, grow together, mature together, let our hearts become more peaceful, more tolerant, more open, let us see everything pleasing to the eye, and make our lives better!