Do you often encounter situations where someone in the workplace likes to inquire about your privacy, from family status to income, and even your love life? In the face of these problems, many people will unconsciously tell the truth, and as a result, not only do they feel uncomfortable, but they may also affect their relationships with their colleagues. So, how to deal with these problems in a highly emotionally intelligent way? Next, I'll give you three tricks to shut up those who love to inquire!
Low EQ behavior.
I once had a friend Xiao Li, who had just entered the workplace, and he was still relatively immature. Once, his colleague asked him, "You must have a good family, right?" Xiao Li replied honestly: "Actually, it's not that good, it's just an ordinary salaryman." The colleague then asked, "So how much money can you make a month?" Xiao Li said honestly: "About seven or eight thousand." As a result, after listening to this, the colleague began to be yin and yang: "Then why are you still coming here to work, isn't this a waste of talent?" Xiao Li felt very embarrassed, his true feelings were exchanged for a cold ass.
Coping with high emotional intelligence.
Compared to Xiao Li's truth-telling, people with high emotional intelligence will take a more subtle way to deal with these problems. For example:
Humor: When asked about privacy, you can use humor to resolve the awkwardness. For example, when asked about your family, you can say, "Our family is ordinary, but I have superpowers, and I can turn ordinary into magical!" Such an answer is both polite and avoids embarrassment.
Vague answers: For some sensitive questions, you can use vague answers. For example, when asked about your income, you can say, "It's enough to live on, but it's still a long way from getting rich." Such an answer did not reveal his own privacy, nor did he avoid further questioning.
Rhetorical questioning: When asked a personal question, you can use a rhetorical question to change the subject. For example, when asked about my relationship status, you can say, "Why do you care so much about my love life?" Isn't that interesting to me? Such an answer avoids a direct answer to the question and shifts the subject.
People with high emotional intelligence are able to deal with these problems skillfully because they have the ability to:
Self-awareness: People with high emotional intelligence are able to clearly recognize their emotions and needs, so that they can better respond to external inquiries and doubts.
Communication skills: People with high emotional intelligence are able to express their opinions and feelings in an appropriate way, while also understanding the other person's position and needs.
Adaptability: People with high emotional intelligence are able to respond flexibly to a variety of different situations and problems, adjusting their strategies and ways to adapt to different environments.
Self-management: People with high emotional intelligence are able to manage their emotions and behaviors effectively and avoid making irrational decisions because of impulsiveness.
Relationship management: People with high emotional intelligence are able to build good relationships with others and achieve common goals through communication and cooperation.
Through the above three tricks and emotional intelligence explanations, I believe you have understood how to deal with personal problems at work in a way with high emotional intelligence. In the workplace, it is very important to deal with interpersonal relationships well, and a high emotional intelligence style is an essential skill for handling interpersonal relationships. So, from now on, let's work together to improve our emotional intelligence!