Although daughters-in-law and sons-in-law are both important players in the marital relationship, their status and role in the family are different. Here are some of the differences between a daughter-in-law and a son-in-law:
1.Family status.
Daughters-in-law usually have a lower status in the family because they are not immediate relatives of the man, but enter the family through marriage. In traditional families, daughters-in-law are often regarded as "outsiders" and need to go through a period of adaptation and run-in before they can gradually integrate into the family. In contrast, the son-in-law has a higher status in the family because he is an immediate member of the woman's family and usually receives more attention and attention.
2.Division of roles.
Daughters-in-law usually take on more housework and childcare responsibilities in the family, as they are considered to be the "insiders" of the family and should be responsible for the day-to-day affairs within the family. In addition, the daughter-in-law usually participates in the affairs of the man's family, such as taking care of the elderly and participating in family activities. In contrast, a son-in-law usually does not take on as much housework and childcare responsibilities in the family, as these responsibilities are usually borne by other members of the woman's family.
3.Societal expectations.
When it comes to social expectations, daughters-in-law often face more pressure and demands. On the one hand, society's expectations of daughters-in-law are usually virtuous, capable, filial and other qualities; On the other hand, daughters-in-law often need to be competent in a variety of roles both at work and at home. In contrast, sons-in-law have relatively low social expectations, and they usually just need to perform well at work.
Here's an example to illustrate the difference between a daughter-in-law and a son-in-law:
Suppose there is a couple, the man's name is Zhang San, and the woman's name is Li Si. Zhang San is the only son in the family, and his mother has always hoped that he can marry a virtuous and capable daughter-in-law. When Zhang San takes Li Si home, his mother may make various requests to Li Si, such as cooking, laundry, cleaning, etc. During this process, the daughter-in-law may feel seen as an "outsider" and will need to struggle to adjust to her new family environment and role. In contrast, when Li Si brings Zhang San home, her parents may demand less from Zhang San, as sons-in-law usually don't take on much housework and childcare responsibilities. In addition, if Zhang San does well at work, his parents-in-law may be more satisfied with him; On the contrary, if Li Si does not perform well at work, her parents may have more demands and expectations for Zhang San.
In conclusion, there are clear differences between daughters-in-law and sons-in-law in terms of family status, division of roles and social expectations. These differences reflect the different perceptions and expectations of traditional societies regarding the division of roles between men and women. However, in modern society, with the improvement of women's status and the change of family values, the role division of daughters-in-law and sons-in-law is gradually changing. More and more women are taking on more responsibilities and roles in the family, while also maintaining their own career development and independence. On the contrary, the son-in-law also gradually takes on more housework and childcare responsibilities in the family, sharing the family pressure and responsibilities with the daughter-in-law. This change contributes to the achievement of a more equal and harmonious marital relationship, and promotes the progress and development of society.