A person's hole cards are actually the confidence to do a lot of things.
When a man dares to cheat, he has hole cards, which gives him confidence.
There is a saying in The Godfather:
People who can see the essence in one second, and those who can't see the essence of a thing clearly for half a lifetime, are destined to have a different fate. ā
If wives have lived with a cheating man for so long, and still can't see the cheating man's hole cards clearly, and don't know why he dares to cheat, then you are destined to have difficulty resolving the extramarital affair.
Only by knowing oneself and knowing one's opponent can one gain an initial advantage in the battlefield of extramarital affairs.
So why does a man dare to betray his wife? Mainly because he has three hole cards.
The first hole card, the economic hole card.
The cheating man is the only ** in the family income, and the wife is financially overly dependent on the cheating man.
Male dominance and female dominance are the traditional marriage model, and it is also the existing model of many marriages.
One earns money to support the family and the other takes care of the family, which seems to be a very stable model, but the premise is that each party acknowledges each other's efforts and can see each other's hard work.
If you feel that you have paid too much and feel that the other party's division of labor is very simple and not worth mentioning, then it is easy to have a sense of imbalance, feel that you have suffered a loss, and want to find a way to make up for it.
Many married men with good conditions will cheat, which is a kind of self-compensation psychology.
They feel that they have been wronged in this marriage and want to compensate themselves, so they will cheat on the mistress.
Of course, it is also because there is a hole card, that is, it controls the economic lifeline.
knew that even if his wife found out, his wife would not do anything to him.
Because he is not happy, he can financially sanction his wife.
Never be a woman with palms up, all men are the same, and when the relationship is good, say "I support you" to your wife.
Once there is a problem in the relationship, just like after he is found cheating, he will threaten his wife and say "I will support you".
If you don't want to be controlled by others, you must be as independent as possible and not rely on him in any way.
The second hole card, the emotional hole card.
The wife loves the cheating man, and she can't do without the cheating man, so the man dares to cheat because he has no fear.
Many women who have been cheated on refuse to divorce the cheating man and want to redeem the cheating man, all because of emotional factors, because they love this man too much and can't accept that he has changed his mind.
I love this cheating man so much that I can't imagine losing his life, so even if the man betrays him, the man and the mistress are hot and refuse to break up.
The wives will not treat the cheating man as well, but will compete with the mistress and be jealous, wanting to win back the cheating man.
In an emotional relationship, the one who loves more deeply is destined to be low.
The wife loves the cheating man more, so the cheating man can use his feelings to pinch his wife in turn.
It's not that cheating men don't understand feelings, but they understand it too well, they understand their wives' feelings for him, so they know that cheating won't be done by their wives.
Knowing the weight of his wife's feelings, he is determined that he will not be divorced and will not pay the price for cheating.
Wives want to solve extramarital affairs, even if they keep asking for love, they must control their feelings and take time to slowly become emotionally independent.
It's right to love someone, but it's a big mistake to love too much.
The lover only needs seven points, and the remaining three points are your retreat in the future.
The third hole card grabbed the weakness of his wife.
For example, if the wife cares more about the child, the cheating man will use the child as a threat.
This kind of wife who is unwilling to divorce after being cheated on is the most.
The cheating man clearly knows that his wife has a revenge for his cheating.
But considering that the child will not do anything, he will threaten his wife with the child.
It has been repeatedly emphasized that the impact of the wives on the children will be caused by the quarrel, and the custody rights will be lost in divorce, etc.
Wives show too obviously, and when their weaknesses are discovered, they will be pinched.
Another example is that the wife cares about reputation very much, and the cheating man will pretend not to care about reputation.
Many women who have been cheated on are not willing to let others know that their husbands have extramarital affairs.
Because they feel that being cheated on and being robbed of their husbands by other women is a very failed thing.
The cheating man knows this and knows that the cheating man will help hide it, so he will naturally cheat arrogantly.
In addition, there are also wives, and the mother's family does not want his wife to divorce, and the cheating man will also use this to pinch his wife.
There are also many wives who belong to a more pitiful situation, but the people around them do not support her divorce.
For example, some wives' maiden families have always advised their wives to endure men's cheating, for the sake of children, money, and face, etc.
Wives can't ignore family affection, and there will be a situation where it is very painful to be cheated on and want to divorce but dare not divorce.
If a cheating man takes care of these weaknesses of his wife, he will naturally continue to gain inches.
Know yourself and know your opponent, and you will not be defeated in a hundred battles; I don't know myself but I know the other, one wins and one loses; If you don't know yourself or your opponent, you will die in every battle.
Life is like a card, a card is like life, everyone holds a hole card in their hand, the wives have hole cards, and they also know what their hole cards are, and they know what hole cards the cheating man has.
And how the wife uses her hole cards to handle the cheating man, and does not let the cheating man use his hole cards to fight back against you, these determine whether a woman can win on the battlefield of extramarital affairs.
Any relationship is so realistic, how many hole cards you have, how well you know the opponent's hole cards, determines the win or loss of your game.
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