Recently, I witnessed an unexpected scene, my friend Mi Li, who was once regarded as as as warm as ** air conditioner, suddenly decided to block a classmate.
The reason was that the classmate invited Mi Li to go to the community to play in the snow together. The weather was unusually cold that day, and Mi Li originally planned to stay at home, but he didn't want to go out. However, the other party persevered, and eventually they agreed to play around the neighborhood for a while.
However, when Mi Li braved the cold wind to rush there, he still didn't see his classmates after waiting for half an hour. I learned that my classmates felt that the weather was too cold, so they changed their minds and did not want to go out.
Mi Li came home angrily and immediately blocked all the *** of this classmate.
I couldn't help but ask him: Why so categorical?
He told me that people who don't keep their word and don't care about other people's feelings are not worth associating. We're just classmates, we don't have to be friends anymore.
He continued: This is already the third time. For the first time, he took the initiative to ask the class for a birthday present and designated rice grains to buy; The second time, playing a game in a movie theater, but after being stopped, he deliberately blamed rice grains; And this is the third time, without believing in words.
Three times is not a coincidence, there is no need to continue.
After listening to his reasoning, I was also relieved. When it comes to making friends, he clarifies his principles and bottom line.
Not long ago, I saw another post on the hot search, a girl complained about problems with her ten-year friend because the other party always nagged her like a real mother.
She posted a chat record of the two and asked if everyone should break off their relationship.
After reading the screenshots, I just want to say, this "mother" friend should run quickly, don't look back!
Let's take a look at what's going on.
The conflict was caused by the girl's friends who thought she was not motivated enough, not mature enough, and did not think about her future.
From the words of the friend, it can be seen that the girl who posted the post is about to graduate from college and wants to take the civil service exam, but she has not made any preparations. She has already taken two or three English 6 exams, but failed in all of them. There are also not many internships, which makes it difficult to add color to her resume.
Friends are worried about her, they are all children of ordinary families, and they all need to rely on their own efforts after graduation. If girls don't start working for their future, the road ahead can be tough.
The girl explained that she was already studying for the provincial exam, and that she still had the opportunity to take the English level 6 exam again. She also said to her friend, "Do you think I'm not anxious?”
My friend's words were even more intense, and he said mercilessly: "If you are anxious, you should study!".What the hell are you anxious about playing games for seven or eight hours a day?!”
Through the girl's next statement, we learned that the girl's graduation ** was read and revised word by word by her "mother" friend. Otherwise, due to the girl's own mistakes and formatting problems, her ** simply would not have passed.
Instead of being grateful, the girl felt that her friend was nosy. She just asked her friend to "help take a look", but she didn't know that her friend would revise it word by word.
This attitude is really uncomfortable.
The most unbelievable thing is that the girl complains that her friends interfere too much on the one hand, but on the other hand, she hopes that her friends will help her out.
My friend studied abroad and started a company on her own, but the girl hoped that her friend could help her introduce jobs after she stabilized abroad. She said, "You don't have to starve." ”
The friend was angry with her attitude and said hatefully: "It's not that I can't help you, but you must at least have your own goals." ”
As a result, the girl seemed to be poked in the sore spot and began to accuse her friend openly: "Didn't you just revise the ** and write something for me?".Her implication was, what's the big deal.
She even blamed her friends for the contradictions between the two, thinking that the other party looked down on herself because she made money studying abroad and opening a company.
This kind of unreasonable attitude makes people very uncomfortable to watch.
After reading this post, I couldn't help but sigh.
I thought that the girl's righteous indignation was due to too much interference from her friends, but in fact, the girl herself exposed her shortcomings.
To be honest, if you have a good friend around you who is so encouraging to move forward, I think I will really be driven unconsciously.
As I mentioned in another article, I was lucky enough to get into a good school where my classmates and school spirit gave me a lot of inspiration. My tablemate was a proficient Englishman, and before I knew the 26 letters, she was able to recite many original English children's literature classics, and she was able to effortlessly ** English movies, and her spoken language was even better.
Another classmate is Xueba, she can translate all the beautiful ancient poems she has learned into English, not only that, but the artistic conception and charm after translation are not reduced at all, and she can even rhyme, which is really breathtaking.
It made me realize where I was lacking. After entering a good school, I realized that I still had so much to work on. It was precisely because I felt the learning atmosphere of the top students up close that I was driven to study hard, reciting new concepts of English every day, and reading English books repeatedly during the holidays.
Under the influence of these top students, I am not a scumbag, but my grades have indeed improved a lot, and I have developed good study habits, which have benefited me to this day.
Therefore, I want to say to everyone, don't be like a girl, treat your friends around you as a bottomless dependence. Between friends, don't reluctantly integrate the three different views, let alone bear the fate of others.
If you have a friend who is willing to spend time, energy, or even money to help you, you should feel lucky. Instead of complaining about their interference, think about your own problems and try to improve yourself.
In other words, cherish those who are willing to give for you, because they may be more important than you think.