In the vernacular, it means don't blame yourself, don't torture yourself with superego and desires.
In the words of chicken soup, it is to accept the "imperfect" self and everything.
It's easy to say, but it's not so easy to do.
Because people's psychology cannot be adjusted by willpower alone, physiological states, emotional circuits, and external conditions will make people unable to tame the subconscious, but driven by the subconscious.
What I think about is self-acceptance, but I still feel anxious, fearful, and self-blaming.
Self-acceptance is only a necessary condition for psychological adjustment.
Because the root cause of many pain and mental illness is not changed, the so-called acceptance is only a temporary pain relief.
For example, many people, if they stay with their parents or some people close to them, they can't be mentally normal.
Among these people is the source of the daily spiritual harm to him.
For another example, if the mental seal in the mind remains unchanged and the superego is always regarded as the ** person of the greater other, then even if you want to accept yourself, you can't implement it if you want to have a sword hanging over your head at any time.
Too much emphasis on self-acceptance, without analyzing the source, iterating one's own cognition, in a sense, is the logic of all the pain of eating opium.
Treat the symptoms but not the root cause.