Four game models of gender relations
All the relationship between the sexes is intersected by the comprehensive ability index and happiness index of two people, and finally forms a more typical model of gender relationship.
The model of gender relationship between men and women can be divided into four quadrants from the intersection of ability index and happiness index: hedonic type; **Consumable; reciprocity and complementarity; Growth** type.
Hedonic type: The comprehensive index of the ability of two people is at a low level, that is to say, the ability to work is average, the ability to make money is also average, and the material foundation is only in the basic stage of survival.
However, the happiness composite index of the two people is high, and both men and women like to pursue happiness and enjoyment, or they belong to the optimistic enjoyment of rational control and sensibility, or they belong to the moonlight family who are drunk today.
* Consumable: The comprehensive index of the ability of two people is low, and the material base is in the basic survival stage;
The happiness composite index of the two people is also low, they don't know how to pursue basic happiness, they always live in the expectation of tomorrow, complaining and blaming each other.
Reciprocity and complementarity: the ability of two people is on the high side of the comprehensive index, each has its own strengths, or has a strong ability to make money, or has a strong ability in life;
The happiness composite index of both people is low, and they do not know how to enjoy the happiness in life, or rational contentment or numbness to the blandness of reality, and there is a serious gap between ability and happiness.
Growth** type: the comprehensive index of the ability of the two people is high, the material wealth is abundant, and the ability to live is very strong;
Both of them have a high happiness index, know how to enjoy the happiness of life, and have abundant inner spiritual wealth.
Ability index: A person's ability index is not only reflected in the ability to earn money at work, but also in a specific aspect of life, such as a woman's ability to teach her husband and children, manage her family, and manage her finances, such as artistic ability, a certain technical ability or a certain specialty.
Happiness index: A person's happiness index is first reflected in the healthy psychological state of satisfying basic physiological needs, that is to say, as long as a person has no problem with the basic survival of food, clothing, housing and transportation, he can enjoy the normal basic happiness in life, and has a strong psychological sensitivity to happiness, which belongs to optimism;
Higher happiness is living in the present moment, which will create a happy psychological feeling, which is reflected in the pursuit of the abundance of the spiritual world.
The game chaos of gender relations in life
The relationship between the sexes in life can also be divided into two models: healthy and unhealthy in the category of marriage and ethics.
* Consumptive gender relationship Both parties have a low ability index, low happiness and enjoyment, pull and complain to each other, and poor couples mourn everything, which is a serious unhealthy type.
Hedonic gender relationship Although the ability index of both parties is low, the pleasure enjoyment is high, and the male sex relationship in marriage involves the cost of family life and education, which is less common in the young people's gender game model, which is biased towards the healthy type. After moving from love to marriage, there is more of a tendency to be unhealthy.
Reciprocal and complementary gender relationship Both parties have their own abilities, happiness and enjoyment are low, and they complement each other in real life, and the marriage is a relatively stable relationship between the sexes, if both parties belong to the rational contentment faction, this model is relatively healthy and stable, and most families in China belong to this type of model.
Growth** type of gender relationship Both parties have high ability, rich material foundation, survival and life are guaranteed, high happiness index, pursue spiritual growth on the basis of material life affluence, pursue higher spiritual life enjoyment, nourish each other, and belong to the healthy and perfect type; There are only a very few relationships between China's post-60s and post-70s models, and the future post-80s and post-90s belong to the main force.
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Cheating in marriage and splitting legs in love are most likely games in which men and women in the two quadrants of hedonism and reciprocity complement each other;
People with strong ability and low happiness pursue happiness, and people with high ability and low ability form a new relationship of taking what they need, and conversely, people with low ability and pursuit of pleasure seduce people with strong ability and low happiness to form a new relationship of mutual use.
The *consumable type and the growth** type belong to two extremes of relatively stable relationship, one is stable consumption at the bottom, and the other is long-lasting nourishment at the top level.
If it is not nourished in awakening, it will be consumed in sinking
In the 40 years of reform and opening up, the material situation has become more and more abundant, the economic conditions have become better and better, the people's material living standards have improved, and their spiritual life has been relatively backward.
The mismatch between the diversity of social values and ethics and material life, and the crisis of trust and chaos in the relationship between the sexes, lead to the high material living standard and low happiness index of many people.
The next 10 years will be an era of re-clarification of social values and the re-establishment of social ethics and morality.
Only the awakening of life can keep up with the rhythm of the times of cultural self-confidence; The awakening of life is first of all to break through the emotional barrier, establish healthy values and morals, understand human nature and understand human nature, and embody the high-dimensional individual in the game model of gender relations.
Whether your current relationship between the sexes is hedonistic, consuming, or complementary, the real awakening is not the confusion of values and the mutual movement of low dimensions, but the brave march to the higher dimensional growth and healing type.