I once thought that it would be easy to walk with more friends, but after some twists and turns, I found that this concept was not reliable. The more people there are, the harder it is to have true friends. Some people are polite on the surface, but behind the scenes, they are perfunctory, and their feelings pass away with the wind. There's a famous saying that says, "If you want to make friends with everyone, you may end up with none." "That's right, I made my life full of unreliable scum. Sometimes, you offer kindness and the other person takes it for granted.
Helping has become a recognized responsibility, and the more kind you are, the more you are perceived as a "generous" person. Moreover, it is even more of a mess to meet people who just want you to be rich and status. It feels like you're "shooting yourself in the foot" in a relationship, which is really awkward. Sometimes, the kindness of friends to you may not be what you want. Social situations are originally hoping to find true friends, but as a result, the person who pulls you by doesn't really care about you, but only wants your benefits. When a package of interests comes in, the feelings become complicated and chaotic, and interacting with relatives and friends is simply a troublesome thing. It is better to negotiate benefits directly with strangers to avoid being tossed around. Sometimes you find that you are running in one direction on this road of friendship, and sooner or later you will lose your way.
Communication, you have to work hard in both directions, just like a friendship. After walking half of my life in a hurry, I realized that friends do not exist forever, but like-minded people who meet in a certain period of time. In the end, you don't have friends, it's not because you're not good enough, but because of natural dispersion. Therefore, people who understand that they are not overly demanding of their friends, let alone expect to be accompanied by someone along the way. Accustomed to "but do good deeds, don't ask about the future", is the choice of smart people. If you learn to hold an umbrella for others without caring about the outcome, it means that you are a person who knows how to be affectionate. That kind of silent companionship and caring about other people's feelings is really beautiful. You know how to fold your umbrella silently when the weather is sunny and walk forward, which means that you are not only affectionate, but also know how to protect yourself.
People can live this life, they can be alone, but they must not lose their goodwill. For those who leave, there is no need to deliberately say goodbye, so as not to add unnecessary sadness to yourself. And for those who approach, whether it is sunny or rainy, it is necessary to greet them without hesitation. There's a saying that says, "If you don't have any friends, congratulations, prove you've matured." Indeed, when we experience the gathering and dispersion, we do not resent those who leave, nor do we blame those who are mercenary, and we will always be in a state of mind in the days to come. Interpersonal relationships in life may be tortuous, but having sincerity and kindness undoubtedly adds a touch of warmth to life. Such affection may not be publicized, but it contains endless sincerity. Let us keep a deep heart in this human relationship and sophistication, so that the beauty of life can bloom in sincere friendship.
Celebrate the New Year in peace and auspiciousness