One of the core principles of getting along with people is that when you often feel that "you don't know what's going on, it's uncomfortable, uncomfortable, and unhappy", it must be something wrong with the current relationship. At this time, you have to be careful, and it's time to be mentally prepared to leave.
We are destined to lose loved ones, otherwise how would we know how important they are in our lives.
People's hearts generally do not die in major events, but those small disappointments again and again become fatal wounds.
It is not a sudden decision for anyone to leave you, people's hearts are slowly becoming cold, the leaves are gradually turning yellow, and the story is slowly written to the end. And love is because there are too many disappointments that it becomes unlove. In fact, in a relationship, the party who pays more is not necessarily the loser. Being good to a person, if not in return, at least not in vain forever. A few years later, I suddenly remembered that the person who burst into tears was definitely not you. Mr. Yang Jiang said: ".I never regret being nice to anyone, even if it's the wrong person, even if it's being let down, even if it's hitting the south wall. Because I'm good to you, it doesn't mean how good you are, just because I'm good
It's as if you're right where I turn around, and I can see you if I want. But I know that we are already on opposite ends of the world's farthest distances.
Ruffian Tsai "Irish Coffee" – Irish coffee is both a cocktail and a coffee. The unintentional judge according to their own preferences. It is only when you taste the longed-for fermentation that it becomes an Irish coffee. So, it also represents a beautiful mistake.
If you're stuck in a dilemma, 1: If you're in love with two people, choose the second one. Because if you really love the first, you won't fall in love with the second. 2: Don't let your girlfriend have a blue face, because she is blue and you are green, don't let your boyfriend have a red face, because he is red and you are both yellow. Unless the two sides are dragons and phoenixes among people and can control such a delicate relationship, it will be a chicken feather. A long breath, ordinary people's lives are probably like this... Sincere thanks, through my life, and please forgive me for my willfulness and mistakes. Without you, I would not be consummated. At this moment, listening to Rene Liu's "Dear Passers-by" may give you an inspiration.
The first to let go is the happiest. After experiencing it, you will know how strong you are, and it turns out that you have endured everything. Love at some point is inherently a person's self-pity and self-appreciation.
You can't have all the things that you can do in life, you can only experience them. Those who know this well will understand that there is no such thing as losing, but only about going through, and there is no such thing as failure, but only about experience.
On the high-speed train, an old man accidentally dropped one of the new shoes he had just bought from the window, and the people around him felt sorry, but the old man immediately threw the second shoe down from the window. This move was even more surprising. The old man explained: "No matter how expensive this shoe is, it is useless to me, and if anyone can pick up a pair of shoes, maybe he will still be able to wear them!" Insight: Doomed to irreparable pain, it is better to give up as soon as possible.
Having someone who really understands you is far luckier than having someone who loves you. In fact, if you don't understand a person, you are not qualified to talk about love at all, you can't afford to love, you can't give it. The more you love him, the more painful the other person becomes, and the more helpless you become.
Suddenly, I felt that you who left me were a mirror, in which I could see those who had been hurt by myself.
The end of a relationship and the end of a relationship are often out of sync. You will selectively pay attention to some clues, and subjectively and unconsciously distort the intention of the other person to do something, in an attempt to prove that he still loves him. Accepting the fact that the other person doesn't love you too quickly will make your past investment more like a joke, but in fact, it's just psychological self-preservation.
Breaking up is a process of forgetting habits and connections, changing hormones and neurotransmissions, and changing past behaviors. So the heartache after the breakup is real, and it feels very close to the physical pain. The feeling of love dissipating will have the feeling of falling, breathlessness, stomach tightening and churning, heart feeling as if it will burst, until at some point, you fall to the ground, the confusion disappears, and everything comes to an abrupt end. So, don't think that all this pain you are suffering means that you are still loving, it is just a sense of loss caused by the loss of your physical and mental feelings in your past habits, that is, you have indeed lost the part of yourself that you once loved them.
Trying to get out of this torment is actually not complicated: tell yourself that the relationship is really over, and bravely face the fact of separation; Make a negative assessment of past relationships, and don't always think about the other person's good; Distracting myself from the past, my experience is binge-watching**, movies and comedy sketches, filling up my empty time; No longer look for warmth from past memories, cut off all possibilities with the other party***, and truly break the chain with TA psychologically. You'll find that it won't be long before you'll be quiet. If you look at him like a stranger, it proves that you are truly psychologically disconnected from the past.
Therefore, people who really love each other cannot be friends after breaking up, not because you have hurt each other, but because you love each other too much. Memory is a form of meeting; Forgetting is a form of freedom.