In traditional Chinese culture, marriage is not only the union of two families, but also the marriage of two families. Therefore, it is particularly important to get along with each other. When visiting the in-laws, the choice of gifts has become a cultural etiquette, which not only represents the individual's heart, but also symbolizes respect and blessings for the in-laws. However, not all gifts are suitable for giving, and some items may inadvertently cause misunderstanding or displeasure, or even lead to a deterioration in the relationship. Here are four types of gifts that should not be brought to the door, along with explanations and suggestions.
1.Knives or sharp objects.
In Chinese culture, knives are often associated with negative connotations such as cutting, separation, etc. Giving knives as gifts is reminiscent of the unlucky meaning of "severing ties". Therefore, whether it is a kitchen knife or other sharp objects, it is not suitable as a gift for in-laws. It is recommended to choose some items that imply auspiciousness and harmony, such as exquisite tea sets, tableware, etc., which are practical and can express wishes for a happy life for your in-laws.
2.Clock.
The sending bell has the homonym of "sending the end" in Chinese, which is a taboo in Chinese culture and means associated with death. Therefore, it is inappropriate to give a clock as a gift to your in-laws, and it may be considered disrespectful or even malicious. If you want to make the gift memorable, you can choose some items that symbolize longevity and health, such as health care products, health books, etc.
3.Umbrella. In Chinese culture, "umbrella" is homophonic with "scatter" and has a discrete meaning. Giving an umbrella can be misconstrued as hoping that the other person's family will be separated or the relationship will break down. Therefore, even if an umbrella is a practical item, it should not be used as a gift for in-laws. Consider giving gifts that enhance family reunion and happiness, such as family photo albums, decorations, etc.
4.Shoes. "shoes" (xie) is a homonym for "evil" in Chinese, and some people may associate bad imagery. In addition, giving shoes also has the meaning of "walking away", which may be misinterpreted as not wanting to have a long-term relationship. Therefore, although shoes are a necessity in daily life, they should be avoided as much as possible in the exchange of gifts between in-laws. You can consider giving away some items that represent longevity and stability, such as potted plants, ornaments, etc.
Summary: The exchange of gifts between in-laws is not only the transmission of materials, but also the embodiment of emotional communication and cultural etiquette. When choosing a gift, you should take into account the cultural background and personal preferences of both parties, and avoid items that may have an ominous meaning or can be misleading. By carefully selecting gifts, you can enhance the understanding and affection between your in-laws and families, and lay a good foundation for the happiness and harmony of the two families. Remember, the value of the gift is not in its **, but in the heart and respect for the other person.