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1. Classmates who have known each other for many years ignored the wedding money, and netizens decisively asked for 500 yuan back.
Recently, a netizen in Taiyuan, Shanxi Province shared a thing that made her angry on social **. When she got married, she invited a classmate who she had known for many years to attend the wedding, but the other party could not attend on the grounds of pregnancy. Although netizens said that they could understand the other party's situation and did not force her to attend the wedding, she was dissatisfied with her classmate's behavior of forgetting to return the gift. This netizen was a classmate she met during her graduate school, when she gave away 500 yuan of money when her classmate got married, and now it is her turn to get married, but her classmate seems to have forgotten about it, not only did she not return the gift, but she didn't even have a word of blessing. Therefore, she decided to find out the screenshot of the transfer at that time, and decisively asked for the 500 yuan gift money. She shared the chat record with her classmates on the Internet, which sparked heated discussions among many netizens. Many people expressed their happiness with her actions and thought that this classmate should be taught a lesson.
The netizen's experience sparked a wide discussion, and netizens shared their similar experiences or expressed their views on the matter. Someone said that he once gave 800 yuan in gift money, but his friend only returned 200 yuan, which made him feel very irritable. In order to get the rest of the money back, he had to clearly point out the fact that he gave the other party 800 yuan, and finally received the remaining gift money. He believes that for those who pretend to be confused, it is necessary to teach them a lesson in a direct and clear way. Another person shared her own experience, after she worked for half a year, her colleague's son was admitted to university and invited everyone to dinner, and other colleagues wanted her to make up some money, but she resolutely refused. She believes that the gift money sent out should not be expected to be returned by the other party, after all, it is not to lend money to the other party. If you have willingly given the gift money before, it is a heart, and there is no need to ask the other party to return it. She also thinks that if the relationship with the other person is not close, why should you be courteous? In that case, the gift money loses its original meaning. Therefore, everyone has different opinions on this matter, what is the right attitude?
Regarding this netizen's behavior, various opinions and opinions appeared on social **. Some people agree with her move to return the gift, believing that it is a warning to students who ignore the rules of return gifts, and it is also a kind of respect and adherence to their own efforts. However, there are also some people who hold a different view, believing that returning the gift should not become an act of compulsion and pursuit, but should focus more on the real meaning in the relationship.
With the development of society, people's understanding of courtesy and exchange is also evolving. Some people believe that not asking the other person to return the gift after giving a gift money is a true expression of friendship and sincerity. After all, the original intention of giving money is to bless and celebrate the other person's happy event, not to reciprocate. In this view, the real meaning of interpersonal relationships is in mutual understanding, support, and companionship, rather than in the value of reciprocating gifts.
However, there are also those who believe that returning the gift is a formal and conventional behavior, and that it is a respect and reward for the efforts of others. In this view, the importance of reciprocal gifts cannot be overlooked. Through returning gifts, you can not only convey your heart, but also maintain the harmony and stability of interpersonal relationships. If the other party ignores the rules of return and ignores the principle of reciprocal courtesy, it may give people a feeling of being left out and not taken seriously.
On this issue, there is no absolute right or wrong, it is more a reflection of personal values and life experience. Everyone has their own unique way of thinking and attitude towards things, so there will be differences in the perception of return gifts. It's important to find a balance between maintaining relationships, maintaining mutual respect, and spreading kindness, taking responsibility for your own decisions, and giving the other person a sense of understanding and understanding.
Based on the thinking about return gifts and interpersonal relationships, we can formulate some coping strategies and principles from different perspectives to protect our rights and maintain friendly interpersonal relationships.
1.Clarify the expectation of returning gifts: When giving money or inviting to a wedding, you can clarify the method and amount of the return gift with the other party in advance. This avoids misunderstandings and confusion and allows for a clear communication and understanding of each other's expectations.
2.Consider the importance of relationships: Giving back is not only about material rewards, but also about maintaining relationships, emotions and friendships. Sometimes, letting go of your worries and paying more attention to the other person's needs and feelings may be more effective in building lasting friendships.
3.Measure the reasonableness of the return gift: For the situation of requesting the return gift, you can judge the reasonableness and appropriate way of returning the gift according to your own economic situation and the intimacy of the interpersonal relationship. Not all gifts are required to be reciprocated one by one, and a reasonable response is sufficient according to the actual situation.
4.Jump out of the restrictions of return gifts: Sometimes, you can think from a different perspective, not only material rewards, but also a kind of return for each other's friendship. In the process of maintaining interpersonal relationships, you can try to make up for the lack of return gifts with more care and support.
Through thinking and reflecting on the return gift and interpersonal relationships, we can face such problems more rationally, so as to better protect our rights and interests and maintain friendly interpersonal relationships. In interpersonal interactions, mutual respect, understanding and love are far more meaningful and valuable than material rewards.
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