What should college students do if they don't want to go to school? How parents should be enlightenedThere are various reasons behind college students not wanting to go to school. Only by understanding the reasons why children do not want to go to college can parents provide targeted guidance. Generally speaking, college students do not want to go to school for the following reasons.
1. The major you are studying is not what you love.
Almost every year, students are transferred to majors they don't like, and although they report on time, the more they learn, the more they don't like it, and even have a disgust with it. At this time, what parents need to do is not to force their children to settle, or let them endure until graduation. Instead, it is necessary to guide children to understand the requirements and process of changing majors in a timely manner, and strive to get the opportunity to change majors. If you can change your major successfully, then your child can learn your favorite major, and your mentality will change.
Of course, in addition to changing majors, you can also consider double studies or postgraduate entrance examinations, etc., in short, let your child see the hope of the future, guide him to find direction and gain motivation**.
2. Break away from the closed management of high school and not adapt to university life.
High schools are basically closed management, and students' learning and life are firmly controlled by the school system, class teachers and life teachers, and there are rules to follow when doing what to do and what not to do. However, when they arrive at university, they suddenly lose their control, and everything has to be on their own, and many people will find it difficult to adapt all of a sudden, and their academic performance will plummet. Especially for introverted and shy children, the situation can be even more anxious, and the child may even run away from college as a result.
At this time, what parents should do is not to always tell them to be sensible and cherish the opportunity to go to college, but to guide their children to think about the meaning of going to college and learn to manage themselves. Only when a child can figure out what he wants to get in college and what he will become, will it be possible for him to make a good study plan and adapt himself to university study life more quickly.
3. Confused about the future and without specific goals.
When I was in high school, many people's goal was to get into college, and they were trying to find ways to improve their scores, and their goals were clear, so they had strong execution. However, when they arrive at university, many people only know how to get a graduation certificate and a degree certificate, but they do not have more specific goals, they do not know how to arrange their study and life, and they do not know where to go after graduation in the future, which leads to a sudden confusion and even fear of going to university.
At this time, what parents should do is not to blame the child for being lazy or lazy, but to guide him to think about more specific career goals, such as to engage in a certain career, then what certificates must be taken in the past four years, what skills must be mastered, etc. Only in this way can children carefully plan small goals at each stage of college and achieve them, so as to avoid being confused and tired of studying.
Fourth, poor interpersonal relationships and inability to integrate into the group.
College life will be much freer and richer than high school, and at the same time, there will be more interpersonal interactions. For students with weak social skills and relatively low emotional intelligence, interpersonal problems can easily occur, and some students may even not want to go to college because of this.
At this time, what parents should do is not to let their children be kind to others and tolerate others, but to guide their children to see the nature of interpersonal relationships. It is recommended that parents can give their children books related to interpersonal communication, or guide their children to understand that different circles do not need to be integrated. When you're good enough, you're going to attract people who are just as good.
Fifth, seeing the gap between self and reality, the mentality collapses.
In addition to the above, some students because of their poor family background, after studying in big cities, found that the gap between people is too large, and found the gap between social civilization and self-awareness, so their mentality collapsed.
At this time, what parents should do is not to ask their children to work hard and close the distance, but to guide their children to understand that the world is uneven, and this is the source of happiness. As long as people do their best, everything else is left to the fate of God.
Above, about college students who don't want to go to school, parents can do specific guidance according to the reasons why their children don't want to go to school. Here, I only hope that every college student can find a self-orientation in their own rhythm, be less confused, be more determined, and have a place in society.