Many single people and lovelorn people face a problem emotionally, not that they are not attractive, nor that they have a poor personality, but that their cognition of love is "deviated";
Here are 3 wrong thoughts in love to help you achieve cognitive upgrades and improve your "hit rate" in love.
If a person of the opposite sex is good to you, he is actually looking for his own sense of existence and worth;
His kindness to you is something that makes him very happy;
It doesn't mean that he really likes you and loves you;
When a person does something that he has a purpose and is willing to do, his enthusiasm will naturally rise;
What you need to pay attention to is whether he can make concessions where he doesn't like much, but it is in your interests and needs;
A person who is good to you is not special, and a person who is a good person in his bones is worthy of falling in love and being together.
Many good girls and good boys have a bumpy road to love, not because they are bad, but because they are too "good", commonly known as too high moral standards;
Your moral standards need to keep the bottom line and stick to principles, not to "discipline" you very "mechanically", very "upright", so that people can't get close;
For example, some girls are really good, in order to distinguish themselves from other "money worshippers", they advocate that as long as they love, they don't want money;
When they are pursued by boys, even if they are interested in each other, they refuse to accept small gifts from each other, and even refuse each other's invitation to dinner, and take the initiative to ask for AA system;
Of course, we don't advocate that we covet men's money, nor do we agree to ask men to pay completely in money;
However, this kind of overly "polite" approach will actually hurt the feelings of men, and there is also a "suspicion" of rejecting the other party;
Invisibly, it is a move to push the other party away.
You start by asking yourself, is there anyone who can unload the thoughts, cognitions, and habits that have been in your head for more than 20 years, or even 30 years?
Your answer is no;
So, on what basis do you believe that you can make the prodigal son turn back, and you can make a man who is not good in himself become better under your guidance and training!
A smart girl who knows how to "screen" men;
Only girls who are not enlightened will think about changing men;
Remember, what you were like when you knew him, what he will most likely be like in the future;
What is it, not about his appearance, temperament, and salary income, but about his character, three views, personality, thinking and cognitive level;
A person who thinks that a woman should serve her husband and boyfriend, must swallow her anger, must work hard, and the man can use violence, you can't change his "obscene cognition";
In a word, only if you change your misconceptions about love, can you reshape the logic and framework of your emotions and have a truly high-quality relationship and life.
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