Have you noticed an interesting phenomenon?
When you lie flat, rotten, and have nothing to do, many people will show their "friendliness" to you, drink and talk with you, and even talk to you;
When you want to struggle, progress, socialize, and start to become beautiful, handsome, and strong, a lot of people around you begin to attack you, alienate you, and look at you unpleasantly?
I believe that many people have this feeling;
Some enlightened people have long understood the key to it, while some people who are still in the stage of growth and improvement are ignorant and ignorant.
In fact, if you encounter the above phenomenon, it can only mean that those people around you are poor;
Or, because you are poor, you are in a poor circle of "unpleasant";
Dazhe Bacon has a good saying:
"One can allow a stranger to flourish, but one cannot forgive the rise of a person close to him. ”That's human nature.
Why are you so constrained, why are you so unhappy, why are you always resentful?
The reason is nothing more than that the acquaintances around you can't see you well;
They themselves are losers in social competition, and their hearts are narrow and dark;
Seeing too much of the world and bullying them, they have accumulated a lot of anger and resentment, and they can't vent to the strong and capable, so they can only seek self-comfort by belittling and hitting you;
If you don't believe it, recall that most of the psychological shadows and inner traumas you have suffered since you were a child were caused by the people around you;
Every time you feel inferior, helpless, or hurt, you must be able to find a person responsible;
If you have seen enough, you can even find that the confident, moving, warm, and energetic moments in your life are precisely given to you by many half-familiar people, or even strangers;
There was a comment on the Internet, which was very interesting:
If you tell the people around you about your troubles and happy things, most of them will deny you, question you, and hit you;
But when you talk it to someone online, you often get some comfort, encouragement, and sincere words.
What does this mean?
This shows that the people around you who often hit you are actually a "scourge" that hinders your progress and improvement;
You are sad, unhappy, mediocre, or even depraved, and they have an unshirkable responsibility;
And what are they?
They are "poor" and "poor in heart";
A common problem in people with poor hearts is that the pattern is narrow, the heart is small, and the energy is weak;
You can say that poverty is not entirely their cause, but the behavior of the poor who are "poor" is what I said: narrow, small, weak;
They seem to be showing off their teeth and claws, they like to brag and show off, they like to pretend to understand people, they discipline you with a stand, and "educate you".
In fact, their hearts are extremely fragile and empty;
They are afraid that others will look down on and look down on them, so they can only get a little pitiful psychological balance by crushing you, hitting you, and gaining the upper hand everywhere.
The real strong man does not have the idle effort to fight others;
The strong are compassionate in their hearts, full of tolerance and kindness, and have empathy;
Only the weak like "vicious competition" and rely on "aggression" and "bickering" to show themselves.
Because the strong are strong enough and have enough energy, when they see the weak, they will respect them, they will communicate politely, they will think about how to help them get out of trouble, or how to cooperate on an equal footing;
The weak will constantly hurt your self-esteem, deprive you of your energy, and violate your boundaries;
So, don't be very familiar with anyone;
Because the more familiar you are, the easier it is for others to lose their awe of you;
Keep a little space for yourself, don't tell others everything, constantly improve yourself, and block out the voices that blow you, so that you can go further and more openly.
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